My baby is 9 weeks old and I'm pregnant again

[giraffewithalongneck]

Oh hell. My baby is 9 weeks old. We've had sex twice since she was born. Past 3 days I've had every symptom of pregnancy but thought there is no chance. I had a preg test in my bathroom cupboard so thought I'd do it just to ease my mind. Low and behold I'm pregnant.

I am in complete shock. It took us 3 years and fertility treatment to get our baby so this is a huge huge huge surprise.

Please tell me it'll be ok.

Congratulations. That's lovely!! My dd would love a sibling.

Please could we not have the Irish twins debate. There's a current thread running on that.

Agreed: abortion comments are unnecessary, offensive and pretty damn cold. Ew.

Why? Abortion is legal and valid in this country. And pp were not telling the op to have one - that would be offensive.

Wow how rude can some people be! I think it's wonderful and you will be fine. How lucky to get your much wanted family.

Get it all over and done with in one sleep deprived go! (Not like me with a huge age gap between dcs-it's turned me grey! Wish I'd have done it this way )

Congratulations

Erm my friend is Northern Irish and has 2 children born within 11months of each and she refers to them as Irish twins.
And Congratulations too.

I think the Irish twins comment is meant affectionately and warmly, I'm Irish and take no offense whatsoever. Jeez, some people are on permanent offense alert.

Congratulations. I haven't got 2 children 10-11 months apart but family members has.

It will be a challenge but it normally works out ok.

I have three dc very close in age, born 1st Jan, 2nd Feb and 5th Feb in 3 consecutive years - not exactly planned that way but I survived, barely . The third pregnancy really did knock me for six but all is fine now.

Fon because it's pretty clear op was looking for reassurance, not particularly wanting to hear what a nightmare it would be and how others would abort in her situation. It's fucking crass.

Actually flowers for HighwayDragon for being leapt on!
Don't be so superior OP especially when someone was clearly being supportive and kind to you!

There was a whole thread about the term "Irish twins" circulating this week, I'd never heard the term before. I'm sure highwaydragon was trying to be nice, but it's worth a read so as not to accidentallycause offence.
Congrats op, scary I'm sure but also amazing.
I think the abortion comment was quite unnecessary

My elder 2 are 17 and 18 and the best of friends they never plot against me oh no
All will be good. They will both be in nappies, sit in a pushchair to get around, have a nap through the day for at least the first 12/18 months, you'll be fine!

Congratulations!!!

Yes it will be hard work at times but you will be fine!

Well if I had two this close together and it had been beyond horrific would I not be qualified to offer an opinion?

It's my opinion you can't offer two babies this close together the time and attention they require.

My SIL had been having fertility treatment and fell pregnant when her DS1 was 7 weeks old, she was told it was quite common if you had been having treatment to fall again quickly after birth.
Congratulations you will be fine!

Um excuse me I was hardly in the same category as someone being racist.

I didn't tell OP to have an abortion, if I had that would have been very rude and offensive. I just said what I would do in that situation. Sometimes it's important amongst people saying oh aren't babies amazing to have someone say - actually no I couldn't cope with that and wouldn't do it. OP doesn't need that, and that's great, but if she did my post might have been helpful.

Congratulations! It will be fine:)

If anything, it may be easier than the more common 2 year gap as your oldest won't be charging around the place while you're pregnant.

Your children will be really close, able to take part in all the same activities, play together etc.

First couple of years will be intense but overall this will be lovely :)

And one of my friends got pregnant again when her eldest was 8 weeks - her boys are now 4 and 5 and really close, it's a lovely relationship.

Giraffe, many congratulations, how lovely ! 🌸🌸🌸

You will be absolutely fine. I have a few children myself, a couple very close together. We all struggle at times, but its worth it. 😄

💐 Congratulations op!
My friend had fertility problems that were resolved when she had two babies in 11 months followed by twins a year later!

i found being pregnant looking after number one and being pregnant so quickly after having number 1, harder than actually looking after two babies when he was born. So you're about to do the hard bit now and when no.2 is born, you might find it easier. Double up on everything.

This happened to a friend of mine. She had twins and then another 11 months later. 3 under 1!!

Congrats OP. I'm sure you will be fine, as others say at least your first won't be walking yet (probably) when the new one comes along!

The thought of having sex once, let alone twice, so soon after giving birth makes me want to weep though, but that's just me