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My baby is 9 weeks old and I'm pregnant again

297 replies

giraffewithalongneck · 22/02/2017 17:36

Oh hell. My baby is 9 weeks old. We've had sex twice since she was born. Past 3 days I've had every symptom of pregnancy but thought there is no chance. I had a preg test in my bathroom cupboard so thought I'd do it just to ease my mind. Low and behold I'm pregnant.

I am in complete shock. It took us 3 years and fertility treatment to get our baby so this is a huge huge huge surprise.

Please tell me it'll be ok.

OP posts:
6demandingchildren · 23/02/2017 08:29

Congratulations .
I have been where you are and the hardest bit was accepting you couldn't have that post birth wine.
But this pregnancy will go in a flash so remember to write down the important firsts.
Having 2 children close in age is better than having twins as one probably won't wake the other and the elder child should be in a good sleep routine. But as long as you can get dc1 in a good sleep ringtone asap then it will be a walk in the park.
As for you the phrase "sleep is over rated" will be your motto xx

sm40 · 23/02/2017 08:39

Congrats! I'm just impressed you dtd!!! You must be doing something right!! My mil deliberately had her children 13 months apart. Thought it was easier and the baby phase was over quickly. Think she was looking at me when my ds was 4 months to be be pregnant again!!

EnormousTiger · 23/02/2017 08:43

I think I was the first person to mention irish twins on the thread but surely I[m allowed? I have great grandparents on both sides from Ireland.

My great grandmother had 11 children (and that might not include any who died either). She became the unofficial village midwife (this was in England by then where she moved). People could not afford to pay a trained one although she was pretty good anyway and at least one of her daughters became a nurse and midwife (properly trained).

OneWithTheForce · 23/02/2017 08:48

but surely I[m allowed? I have great grandparents on both sides from Ireland.

Grin And your neighbour's dog is a leprechaun.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 23/02/2017 08:53

Enormous you are joking right?

Flowery are you Irish?

Op, congratulations, I have a big gap so no wise words to offer but I am sure you will be fine and wish you akk the luck in the world Flowers

Flypaperforarseholes · 23/02/2017 09:13

10 months between my DD1&2, it was nowhere near as hard as I thought it would be. You develop a routine which works for you and become adept at feeding/soothing/entertaining 2 babies at once. I found the 18 month gap between DD3 and DS2 much harder.
You'll be fine, honestly. Congratulations :-)

Ev1lEdna · 23/02/2017 09:20

Eeek! Congratulations. This must be a bit of a shock for you. I'm sure you will make it work though and it might be fun - your kids will most likely be great friends. My children are good friends (although they do fight obviously) but it does make life easier when they play together. So there will be some benefits. Wishing you lots of luck and help from family and friends.

Flowerydems · 23/02/2017 11:04

Nocabbage why would I need to be Irish to find it offensive? As it happens I am but you don't have to be the same race to be offended by racism,

My point is the woman suggesting an abortion isn't getting hounded but the Irish twins one is. It's a common saying, maybe try not being so bloody precious, guessing you're one of those offended by blackboards and the other guff you read in the daily fail

FfionFlorist · 23/02/2017 11:54

Congrats. Dd1 and ds are 11 months apart. They are in the same school year. People assume they are twins. It was fine, really fine, the only hard time has been this year when they both left for uni .... I miss them. Enjoy your babies.

UnbornMortificado · 23/02/2017 11:54

Half my DH's family are Irish travellers. His mam was one of 9 and his dad one of 10.

They've heard a lot worse then "Irish twins" Grin

I do think if even one person has come on and said "actually I do find it offensive" it's best not to use it. I do think it's political correctness gone a bit daft but no point upsetting anyone with it.

bigbuttons · 23/02/2017 16:39

I actually think people get a kick out of being offended. It gives them an excuse to get angry.

liz70 · 23/02/2017 16:47

And I thought 16 months between my DDs 1 and 2 was close. I still had a cast iron chastity belt on at 9 weeks PP. Grin Congratulations, OP, it will be insane, but you'll come through. Take all the help you can get. Flowers alcohol free Wine

EnormousTiger · 23/02/2017 17:07

What am I supposed to be joking about - having two Irish great grandparents? I was looking it up recently. You can only get irish citizenship (post Brexit etc) if you have Irish grandparents so I don't qualify.

I nkow a lot of Irish people and I doubt many would be worried about the phrase Irish twins particularly as the Irish being Catholic would tend to have more children than the English so it's probably factually accurate anyway. Anyway for it to be an insult you would have to think having babies is bad, whereas they are cute, gorgeous cuddly lovely things.

BillyButtfuck · 23/02/2017 17:21

Congratulations OP! I have nearly 11mo twins and would love another. Mine get plenty of one-on-one time and learn from each other, I imagine having a 10 monthish age gap will work well. You'll have your hands full, sure, but it'll be really nice for them growing up.

Good luck with it all Flowers

YippieKayakOtherBuckets · 23/02/2017 17:31

I can't believe the comment that said it has been reported and the woman that told you to get an abortion hasn't.

NOBODY has told OP to terminate.

Willyoujustbequiet · 23/02/2017 17:32

Congratulations!

Irish twins is not offensive Hmm

Littleredhouse · 23/02/2017 17:42

God, some people are absolutely ridiculous and are determined to take offence at everything. Anyway, congrats op.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 23/02/2017 17:47

Irish twins is not offensive

Many people disagree...

stoptalkingaboutminecraft · 23/02/2017 17:52

My 2 youngest were born 11 months apart so I completely understand your shock at how it happened so easily! The youngest is 15 months now and things are getting easier!

It was very tiring being pregnant with a small baby and is still hard going at times, especially as they share a room and wake each other up. But they are great company for each other and you have twice the fun!

You can do it, just lower your standards of housework etc!

Oh and I'm Irish and say Irish twins as I'm always getting asked if they are twins by randomers in the supermarket and it's a quick answer if you don't want to stand chatting for ages, never saw anything offensive about it.

Astoria7974 · 23/02/2017 18:34

We don't call them Irish twins around here - Indian twins lol because posh Indian mums like to knock out babies as quickly as possible around here lol

SaorAlbaGuBrath · 23/02/2017 18:36

I fell with DS2 when DD was 8 weeks old, and I absolutely panicked. They're now 2 and 3 and I wouldn't change it for the world. Congratulations and good luck Grin (you'll be just fine)

OneWithTheForce · 23/02/2017 18:36

particularly as the Irish being Catholic would tend to have more children than the English so it's probably factually accurate anyway

CRINGE

OneWithTheForce · 23/02/2017 18:37

it's a quick answer if you don't want to stand chatting for ages,

Confused "Irish twins" is not quicker than "no"

Mrsmadevans · 23/02/2017 18:41

Wonderful news congratulations my dear it will be hard work but they will grow up together and of course it will be alright

Pottedplants · 23/02/2017 18:43

How much help do you have OP? Practical help particularly? Can you afford to have a nanny? In all honesty I think it will be incredibly difficult to do it by yourself if your DP will be out working every day.

Having two children close in age is not really comparable with having twins as they will be at completely different stages until they reach nursery.

From then on you will be laughing though and people with five years between their kids will be looking at you enviously as you can entertain them both at the same time and maybe even the same interests. It will be really nice to see your children growing up together.

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