To think its none of DH's business what time i go to bed?

[CherrySkull]

I have a particular hobby that can keep me up and online until late in the night as the people I do it with live mostly in the USA, so quite often the action doesn't start until 11pm and will go on through our Night.

I usually bail between 1 and 2am, but with it being Half Term and me not having to get up until i'm ready (the kids wake me to get breakfast then I go back to bed and leave them play) I stayed up until 4.30 the other night as there were a lot of us online and we were doing a group action.

DS is autistic and has taken to wandering around 1-2am so there is little point in me going to bed before then, I wait until he's resettled then I go to bed.

When I was up til 4.30, DH kept getting up to go pee and then he'd go "Come on its XXX, you need to get to bed" like some talking clock.

AIBU to tell him to piss off? I'm 35 years old, i'm a big girl, if I want to stay up until 4.30am, knowing I have to get up with the kids in the morning, surely that's my problem?

TBH, he's a bloody hypocrite, I forget the amount of times he's sat up til gone 5am pissing about on his playstation, the only time I ever got up to tell him to go to bed was when I knew he'd got work the next day, and all i'd say was 'keep an eye on the time, you have to be up at X" and then leave him to it!

Cherry, do you actually want or need advice about your sleeping pattern or ds's routine? I've had a good look but might have missed the post where you asked for it.

Maybe it's because I've got a child with autism that I can understand why these "helpful" bits of advice are actually useless. Or maybe it's just because I actually have the ability to read and comprehend a question then answer said question without turning it in to a thread where suddenly children are being neglected, kept awake all night by super dooper loud keyboards and where SS should be banging down the door.

fortunacookie
Just maybe...

I love the defense of off topic albu responses being 'you asked for opinions,don't moan when you get them. The opinions. Have nothing. To do with. The. AIBU.
HTH

I wouldn't like it either. Dh wakes me up when he's up late. It could be that you disturbing your ds's sleep or he may be getting up to have some 1 to 1 time with you, which wouldn't be ideal.
I do think if you have dcs you need to keep to normal (ish) hours for them.

stainesmassif
I thought so to.

Nobody answered the questions just went of on rants about her parenting and her marriage then moaned about her not agreeing with them!

This thread has been MN at its worst. Never seen one like it.

Velvian
'keep normal hours'

Jesus H Christ RTFT!

Sorry, didnt notice this was at page 13!

Glitter- I'm just pointing out that this thread ( maybe all of them for all I know) is nasty, judgemental and totally uncalled for. I guess it's just the nature of online chat rooms - most of you are probably nice people but that doesn't come across here!

I love the defense of off topic albu responses being 'you asked for opinions,don't moan when you get them. The opinions. Have nothing. To do with. The. AIBU.

I have actually answered the original AIBU but it got shouted down with a lot of but, but, but, NO I'M NOT! which is why the thread has gone so spectacularly off course!
If you refuse to accept the vast majority saying, yabu, it begs the question what was the bloody point of posting in the first place if it's not for opinions, and not for advice either?
Were we all supposed to just say "Yes, your husband is a massive twat. LTB."

I don't think this has been a particularly vicious thread, I've seen far worse in here.

I remember my mum used to be in bed until the afternoon and I was left to my own devices from a very early age. It hurt, and still does, that she was more interested in staying up and out late with others but neglected me. Put yourself in your children's shoes.

I don't think this has been a particularly vicious thread, I've seen far worse in here.

Think it''s hit a nerve with a lot of screen addicts. (Yes, I'm including myself in this.)

I bet you wish you'd not posted OP? Ignore the few misguided remarks and take what's useful from your thread. I'm sad that a poster quoted me massively out of context.

for you and your family.

Stillsaying:

Ask one question about your dh =
get yourself, your hobby, your parenting and your caring skills ripped to shreds.
Be told you are are a bad parent, selfish, your marraige is in crisis, you dont appreciate your husband, your dont know how to care for your own childrens needs, you dont deserve some time to yourself, you should go to bed when I say so not when it actually suits you and your family, how dare you not tell us every detail of your life before we make a 'judgement' on you, and better still even though you have repeated yourself a dozen times to explain why your doing something 'you must be wrong because I couldnt do that so obviously you are wrong, why cant you understand that?'.... thats not the worst you have seen??
Wow glad I missed the others.

Sunnysky

Your mother stayed in bed until the afternoon...
and that has the slightest bit of anything to do with what the op asked because?

You can't have been here long, Willow.

I don't think the majority have said the poster is BU. I'd say it's 50/50. Most of the YABUS haven't RTFT. Most of the YANBUS have. 'Twas ever thus. 😂😂

There's been no deletions, no personal attacks that warrant a deletion either, hardly vicious.

Most of the YABUS haven't RTFT

Can't speak for everyone else, but I have, thanks.

I've also read the full thread, thank you

Although you can push it pretty far around here before you've officially crossed the line into vicious.