To travel somewhere alone, sans husband and children?

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Husband thinks I have lost the plot but that's nothing new. Anyway.

I have a particular reason for wanting to go to this part of the world, it's really important to me for all sorts of reasons but one very personal and pertinent one. Hence why I really don't want to go with two pre-schoolers crying and whining and demanding.

Since we have no one else to have them (and I wouldn't ask anyway) I still want to go. I have looked at flights on EasyJet and would go for four days in June. I've suggested husband takes some leave and I go. I regularly do this when husband does a long day: in theory it's a twelve hour shift, in practice it's more like thirteen plus travel time.

Husband is Not Happy.

AIBU to say tough, I need to do this, and book a temporary nanny to help him? Or have I lost the plot as he claims?

Sex is an entitlement, not an extra, you would think. I would just go anyway but he'd perform some trick that meant I actually physically couldn't like hide my passport or something.

Okay you're totally in an abusive relationship. Get out. Have my first LTB. And I've been in one and got out so got the t-shirt.

I also speak fluent French, in case arse of a H is still stalking this thread

My kids were not so young but 6 years ago I went to USA alone for 2 weeks with very little notice as my bff was diagnosed with breast cancer. My OH was not amused but I had always been the one that had to care for/sort childcare for OUR kids so I just told him to get on with it. Why do men just assume that all childcare is the responsibility of the mother/female in the relationship? If it is important for you to go then tell him you are going and its up to him to sort out care of HIS kids. Took me a long time to realise I was allowed a life after kids ;)

"Just to throw something in - the place you are going is safe for you to travel alone and not some war torn ghetto or place you might be sold for camels or trafficked?"

What the fuck? racist stereotype much?

I was thinking the same LaContessa

Racist stereotype against whom exactly? I've neither named a country where I believe this happens nor claimed all residents of said unnamed country behave in this way.

Just checking that OP was going to be safe solo on her travels if she manages to go but each to their own opinion and all.

Hope it all turns out ok for you OP x

Oh come on - 'place where you might be sold for camels?' The nature of the country or countries that you might be talking about is strongly implied. As a descendant and previous inhabitant of a country with camels, I found the implication offensive.

Obviously it is a good idea for Op to avoid countries where she might be at risk of being trafficked as a lone female - that is a valid concern, stated in a non-offensive manner. The other part of your concern was stated in an offensive one.

Also, being mealy-mouthed over 'Well I didn't NAME the place I'm referring to' is really bloody childish. If you're not prepared to say it outright then maybe consider why not.

OP, I hope you sort this out to your satisfaction. I suspect that if you were going to a place where you might be at risk, that is the argument he would have led with.

When was OP last on? Is anyone else a bit worried about her?

I am concerned but hoping she did a name change and took the advice offered

Hello, thanks for your lovely messages.

It's been quite difficult knowing what to do, and we have been on holiday (this is why I had DHs laptop) so very busy which is why I haven't been on. I just wanted to let people know I was fine x

thanks for letting us know