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AIBU?

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Should they have offered to have washed clothes with vomit on?

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MrsSnow · 19/02/2017 20:16

We went to see the inlaws. For various reasons we don't stay with them however relations are good and they seem to genuinely love DS (age 1).
We didn't stay in their town, but 15 mins away and about 5 mins away from SILs.

DS was horrendously sick when we arrived In our hotel bedroom. Both our clothes and the surrounding area were covered in vomit. So much so we had to buy new clothes as the handwashed ones didn't dry.

We spoke to MIL at various points in the day namely to ensure that we went to the dinner (in a restaurant in the town where we were staying). We did and DS vomitted there too a few times leaving us both drentched in vomit again.

Since coming home I've been thinking it would have been nice if MIL or even SILs had offered to have washed our clothes or even just DS's or even when we saw them this afternoon said something along the lines of " you could have washed your clothes here, we have a washing machine and a dryer". As it was they didn't offer and I didn't ask. It has got me thinking if IABU to at least hope they would offer? FWIW I would have offered.

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user1483387154 · 19/02/2017 20:53

You shouldnt have taken him to a restaurant.
If you wanted his clothes washing you should have asked them

ChicRock · 19/02/2017 20:54

"they said it was ok"

I'm assuming OP is referring to her in laws here as I just don't believe for a minute that any restaurant staff said it was ok to come in.

neweymcnewname · 19/02/2017 20:54

Awful behaviour, to take the child to a restaurant, then to continue in when he's was sick in the entrance! Absolutely disgusting way to behave.
What your MIL thinks is irrelevant, and she's being ridiculous if she'd really encourage you to do that.
The poor restaurant could end up with environmental health checks if you infected half the customers, and no one expects to go out for a meal and be near a child with a vomiting bug. There may also have been people there with health problems who would never knowingly risk exposure to that.
And you're responsible for you kids dirty clothing, whatever its encrusted with, not anyone else.
The way to solve the problem was to apologise, explain, pack everything nasty in 2 plastic bags, and GO HOME, as soon as he was sick. Awful.

kali110 · 19/02/2017 20:54

No family politics should have made you take a poorly child out op.
Bad for the little one and potentially dangerous for the other diners.

boolifooli · 19/02/2017 20:55

YABU for assuming just the wimmin should naturally offer. Also for taking a sick child to a restaurant and for not asking for what you wanted.

Trifleorbust · 19/02/2017 20:56

I don't think people are reading them, OP. We're too aghast at the thought of the fact that avoiding an argument with your MIL was more important than your sick little boy.

Crispbutty · 19/02/2017 20:56

Possibly why there is 48 hours for a big to go.. not 24! You were ridiculously inconsiderate

NoCapes · 19/02/2017 20:56

It's not about whether the staff/your inlaws/or anyone said its ok - your baby was ill! You take him home and take care of him!! You don't sit in a restaurant with him having a lovely meal while he's sat there feeling like shit!
What is wrong with you?!

GallivantingWildebeest · 19/02/2017 20:57

Yes, MrsSnow, we are reading your responses and judging you.

'Dh went and explained the situation and they said it was ok.' Who is they? Your selfish mil? Or all the diners you would expose to a vomiting bug?

Ffs, op, note this: if you or your DC vomits, bleach the entire house and stay in for 48 hours after the last D or V episode. It's not rocket science, and you are completely selfish to do anything else.

Babbaganush · 19/02/2017 20:57

Sorry but you are being unreasonable.

You should have asked to use the washing machine. I can't believe you didn't simply leave the restaurant as soon as your ds vomited!!!!

ChicRock · 19/02/2017 20:57

I'm reading your responses op, your drip feeding is something else.

Porygon · 19/02/2017 20:57

honestly I hope this is fake

You're a dick for taking your vomiting child out in public

You're also a dick for not leaving right away.

WilburIsSomePig · 19/02/2017 20:57

I actually can't get past the fact that you took a clearly unwell child to a restaurant and stayed there when they were vomiting. Irresponsible on a new level quite frankly.

EasterRobin · 19/02/2017 20:58

I can't tell from your posts whether your child was infectious. At 1 my child was still getting very car sick, so I'll take your view on whether it was anything out of the ordinary.

Fortunately by age one, the daily getting drenched to the skin in projectile milk days were well behind me, but as someone who has dealt with much more than the usual level of milky vomit, most people don't think to offer to wash your vomit-soaked clothes/towels/blankets (unless they are a mum of youngsters). But they've always been happy to help when asked - and/or lent clothes when needed. So I think you should have asked for what you wanted rather than expected them to think or it.

londonrach · 19/02/2017 20:58

Im abit shocked you took him out poor lad. As for the clothes you have a voice ask?

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MrsSnow · 19/02/2017 20:59

I wasn't expecting anyone to be responsible for either of our sick covered clothing, I guess thats probably why I didn't ask anyone to wash them for me. I'm pondering whether they should have offered up access to their washing and drying facilities.

For the second time, for the mumsnetters who do read, yes we were unreasonable to take DS out.

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Chloe84 · 19/02/2017 21:00

Sounds like a stressful couple of days, OP.

I think you have to start saying no to MIL and SILs, and to DH too, and ignore any tantrums.

neweymcnewname · 19/02/2017 21:01

We could do with info on what restaurant this was - I need to avoid it permanently if they really encourage people with active vomiting bugs to go ahead and dine there- its starting to sound like a Monty Python sketch, but its not really funny :-(

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MrsSnow · 19/02/2017 21:01

I'm responding to responses, thats hardly drip feeding. The alternative is one post and the op disappears.

The whole weekend has been awful why would you even imagine that I would make this up?

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littledinaco · 19/02/2017 21:02

Your poor DS, I bet if it was you or DH being violently sick like that you wouldn't have gone out for the meal - you'd have been in bed like DS should have been.
Not to mention the poor people you are exposing this to, you could have made someone who is immune compromised seriously ill.
I am completely shocked that anyone would do this.

helensburgh · 19/02/2017 21:03

I think people may be being harsh.
Patenting is a learning curve. Dealing with vomiting bugs is too.
Yes they are v v infectious. Yes they shouldn't have taken the child anywhere public and yes the 48hr rule needs to be adhered to however if you don't know this you don't knkw.

I didn't till I had kids

ememem84 · 19/02/2017 21:04

Gross. There is no way I could have stayed in the restaurant knowing that had happened (as a fellow diner).

Someone threw up on the plane we were on in the summer and I wanted to get off. Eugh.

helensburgh · 19/02/2017 21:05

Poor child. Can you imagine feeling sick and being taken to a restaurant. Wrong wrong wtong

minisoksmakehardwork · 19/02/2017 21:05

Ya so u it beggars belief.

Firstly, YABU not to have asked. Your inlaws are not mind readers and if they're anything like people I know, they would assumed you'd put them through hotel laundry or rinsed and bagged to deal with when you got home.

Second, taking a sick child to a restaurant is completely unreasonable for so many reasons but others have already gone into that.

Third, why didn't you just go home when dc was sick everywhere first time? From your description it wasn't just travel sickness or a one off. The last thing most people want is to be away from home when they are ill. They want to be safe at home where they know where everything is and would have easy access to cleaning materials and, er a washing machine... a baby certainly wouldn't have appreciated being in an unfamiliar environment. I know everyone says babies are infinitely more portable than a toddler but there are limits.

Butteredpars1ps · 19/02/2017 21:07

OP regardless of family politics you and your DH are responsible for your child. You should have taken your baby home I'm afraid- not gone out for dinner.

I hope DS is better.

The laundry issue isn't relevant as you should have gone home.

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