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Original poster

Should they have offered to have washed clothes with vomit on?

210 replies

MrsSnow · 19/02/2017 20:16

We went to see the inlaws. For various reasons we don't stay with them however relations are good and they seem to genuinely love DS (age 1).
We didn't stay in their town, but 15 mins away and about 5 mins away from SILs.

DS was horrendously sick when we arrived In our hotel bedroom. Both our clothes and the surrounding area were covered in vomit. So much so we had to buy new clothes as the handwashed ones didn't dry.

We spoke to MIL at various points in the day namely to ensure that we went to the dinner (in a restaurant in the town where we were staying). We did and DS vomitted there too a few times leaving us both drentched in vomit again.

Since coming home I've been thinking it would have been nice if MIL or even SILs had offered to have washed our clothes or even just DS's or even when we saw them this afternoon said something along the lines of " you could have washed your clothes here, we have a washing machine and a dryer". As it was they didn't offer and I didn't ask. It has got me thinking if IABU to at least hope they would offer? FWIW I would have offered.

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bimbobaggins · 19/02/2017 20:41

This is disgusting, you took a child to a restaurant who had been horrendously sick leaving you and the surrounding areas covered in vomit and while you were out the child left you drenched in vomit and you are worried why no one offered to wash your clothes.
Never mind the bug aspect , what about the other diners and staff who had to put up with this.

Truly disgusting

GinIsIn · 19/02/2017 20:42

So it happened as you entered and you went ahead into the restaurant for dinner anyway?! Sorry but that's revolting! Why the hell didn't you leave?

ReginaGeorgeinSheepsClothing · 19/02/2017 20:42

I think it's the level of vomit that is the issue here, yes babies are sick often, but I think this lessens as they get to the 12 months stage? Plus the fact that he and others were drenched that's more than 'normal' baby vom. Hope you are all feeling better!

VintagePerfumista · 19/02/2017 20:43

Was the drenched-in-sick description a tad exaggerated then OP?

roseshippy · 19/02/2017 20:43

babies don't really vomit? Maybe a bit of coughed up milk. But not 'we had to buy a whole new wardrobe'.

I am struggling to understand what was going on here tbh.

What kind of restaurant were you going to? Most posh restaurants wouldn't really be happy with you bringing a baby, and if it was just a Presto Pizza or whatever, don't know why you bothered?

Bettyspants · 19/02/2017 20:43

Read ops updates, still completely unreasonable to take the child to a restaurant, a complete lack of common sense and consideration for others. Re the washing I would have just asked to use the machine.

bumsexatthebingo · 19/02/2017 20:44

A fully weaned 1 yr old definitely vomits!

DearMrDilkington · 19/02/2017 20:45

Don't pretend you went to dinner for your MILs sake. Your child was poorly, it was a perfectly good reason not to go out. You wanted to go out and so you did.

Very selfish behaviour.

roseshippy · 19/02/2017 20:46

"Vomit in restaurant happened in the between the set of two doors as we entered. As I was holding him the bulk was on me. I had spare clothes so we were able to change and clean the area."

You had spare clothes? I thought you had to buy new ones? Or did you buy new ones and spare new ones?

You were scrubbing the restaurant's entrance area of vomit while changing clothes? This is bizarre.

wrapsuperstar · 19/02/2017 20:46

Blimey. Bit of a difference between 'quarantine at all costs' and choosing to go to a perfectly optional family dinner. Sorry but YAsoBU (and MIL isn't very nice either!)

Alisa9 · 19/02/2017 20:46

I have a 1 year old who occasionally (monthly) projectile vomits everywhere. So I personally would have still gone out if he was sick just once. However I would not wash someone else's puke covered clothes.

kali110 · 19/02/2017 20:47

He was sick as you went into the restaurant?
I don't think you can really judge your mil here.
I'd just think none of you did the right thing and forget about it.

MaidOfStars · 19/02/2017 20:48

He vomited a 'few times' leaving you both 'drenched' in between the same set of doors each time?

And yes, why did you bring spare clothes to the restaurant?

msgrinch · 19/02/2017 20:49

YABU. What a stupid dick move. Who takes a sick child to a restaurant.

girlelephant · 19/02/2017 20:49

Very conflicting descriptions here of the ability to change mid-restaurant & why it would be ok to keep a sick child out to avoid a MIL's tantrum Hmm

OP you were entirely unreasonable to keep a vomiting one year old out in a restaurant where others could catch it. There's a big difference between a one year old vomiting everywhere and an unweaned baby bringing up a tiny amount of milk while being burped.

Original poster
MrsSnow · 19/02/2017 20:50

The only reason why we bothered is because that was when MIL/SILs had decided that they were free (together) for the meal. The type of restaurant I think is irrelevant.

When DS vomitted between the doors. I stayed there. DH went ahead and explained the situation and they said it was ok. Again lots of family politics issues and the fact that everyone was making me out to be unreasonable to even suggest that we leave.

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NoCapes · 19/02/2017 20:51

Wtf OP?!
That poor baby needed to be cuddled up in bed with you, not sat in a restaurant vomitting everywhere while all the adults just sat there having a laugh and enjoying themselves ignoring his needs?!
Poor poor baby, this actually made me a bit sad Sad

bumsexatthebingo · 19/02/2017 20:51

Well that's gross that the restaurant let you in.

Original poster
MrsSnow · 19/02/2017 20:52

We had spare clothes as we had bought them before dinner and were with us. Nothing confusing there.

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GinIsIn · 19/02/2017 20:52

I can't believe any sensible person thinks it's ok to take a puking child into a busy restaurant. Hmm

Porygon · 19/02/2017 20:52

YABU

Times a thousand

I feel so sorry for the poor diners who have now been exposed to your child's sickness. Hope there were no emetephobes, that would have absolutely ruined me for weeks and weeks.

Original poster
MrsSnow · 19/02/2017 20:53

Is anyone actually reading my responses?

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GallivantingWildebeest · 19/02/2017 20:53

Op, are you insane?? 'Babies do vomit'? A child of a year is not a baby bringing up milk/with reflux. You know your child. If this was out of character for them, it's a bug.

You should have left the restaurant when your DC vomited first - and told the staff, so they could properly clean the area.

Jesus.

TheCakes · 19/02/2017 20:53

Oh god, a vomiting child at the next table is my worst nightmare. I'm really, really bad with puke. I wouldn't be able to eat.

Sorry OP, but you sort your own kid out when they are sick. No problem asking to use their washer though.

Gazelda · 19/02/2017 20:53

I think I might have offered to wash and dry your clothes. But I would have been silently judging you for bringing your baby out while ill, and even worse for not taking him back to your hotel as soon as he was sick in the doorway.