to find my husband boring?

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He works long hours. When he comes in he just sits in his pyjamas and dressing gown reading. He often dozes off in the evening then he doesn't sleep well at night and sits up reading or watching documentaries. He is a good man, but AIBU to be bored with him?

DJ the OP asked you to get off her thread quite a few pages back, at least have the good grace to leave it instead of banging on with the same points. Mummyoflittledragon it sounds to me like you have very little self awareness either or empathy for that matter:

Chickpea. I have plenty of self awareness and empathy. Thanks. Op isn't there to protect and love herself and that is a very sad. Perhaps she isn't ready to face this. Perhaps she will be one day. Her mindset sounds very rigid and it was a challenging post, I know. And I'm sorry you found it too much. I imagine the op will too. Perhaps she won't in the future and as she seems to have left the thread, it was written with this in mind.

I don't see anything rigid about her mindset, she has rejected your suggestions which to be frank sounded shit to me. Writing a letter and loving herself? As you have said she has left the thread now so hardly much point continuing!

I used to write endless letters to my x. Never made him view anything any differently.

As for loving myself, I knew I deserved more. But it's difficult, deciding what if anything to do is a very gradual process and posters saying you don't do anything, what do they expect, an Eastenders cliff hanger.

I haven't read the whole thread but I'm not surprised your bored if you can't go back to work, friends are busy, no tv or hobbies. Your DH will be exhausted after working a long day where as by the time he gets in your probably bored stiff of child talk ! Get some evening hobbies, volunteer, get a dog, study if your life was a little fuller you may not find him so dull. Sometimes after a 12 hour day at work I can barely string a sentence together but I'd def talk to him about weekend stuff you can do together!