To consider having sex with a senior coworker?

[angieneri]

I would love to get some perspective on a situation I am currently dealing with. I am 29 and single. A few months ago I broke up with a very long-term bf with whom sex had always been pretty awful. Consequentially my sexual life has been terrible for the last 6 years and I have yet to sleep with anyone after the break up.

I work at a big company where hooking up with and dating coworkers is pretty normalized and accepted. Most of my coworkers are young-ish and single, people hang out socially after work and get drunk together. I know of at least 5/6 people who are currently sleeping with/ seeing some other coworkers. That is not a problem in my company.

A couple of weeks ago a man who is very senior in the company (C-level executive) approached me during a Friday night out after work. We flirted a bit and we ended up making out (plus some...). It was absolutely wild, sexy, hot and thrilling

This man is 20 years older than me and just highly unsuitable in many many ways. We don't work together as we are in different departments. Also, as I previously said, my company is pretty relaxed about dating coworkers so it would not be a problem from that perspective.

He is now pursuing me, I think just for sex. It would be just sex, but God knows how much I desidere having good sex after many years of sexual apathy with ex-bf. I have no feelings for this man other than a strong sexual attraction.

My question is: what do I do? Do I go for it? Do I play it safe and pull back?

Part of me wants to give in and just enjoy some crazy hot sex. The other part of me is terrified of having sex with someone who is so much older than me and a senior coworker.

Mumsnetters, please help

Is he married?

Don't do it, there are too many possibilities for this going horribly wrong in my opinion.

If he is single, go for it.

I would not dip my pen in the company ink. Mind you I'm married and my company are mostly not ink you'd want to dip in, but still.

This has the potential to get incredibly messy very quickly regardless of how common it is in your company,and negatively impact your professional reputation. I'd stay well clear.

Go for it.. Your young and single! Is he single? And age doesn't matter in the bedroom! Got a big age gap with me and my husband and it's all good in the hood! Good luck and enjoy and forget rubbish ex crap lover from before!

If he's single and your both on the same page regarding intentions ( ie: just sex ) go for it . I'd have done it already

He isn't single is he ?

I'd say as long as he's single and in a different department (so can't directly affect your career) then you should go for it.

He is single.

I think as long as you're both single, consenting and on the same page then there's nothing wrong with it.
Obviously if he's married or in a relationship then just no.

Yabu

Go hook up for some crazy sex with an older man outside of work.

Do it. Unless he isn't single. Then back away slowlyyyyy.

Go for it! Life is for living. You've already said the last 6 years were pants.

Have fun!!

Don't shit where you eat.

I'd shag him, for sure.

He will have baggage though.

I read this as cow worker. I am sadly disappointed. I imagined romping in a tractor.

He isn't your direct line management.

Just go for it, loads of people I know have quite happily shagged at work and had no consequences.

So long as you both no it's no strings then so what?

Tired you really would not want to shag a cow worker at work...

If you're both single then fucking yeah

Curiously, all the Angi Neri (s) on the web speak spanish.

Nope! Crack on.

You sound like you've had a shit time with your ex. You could have a fantastic time with this guy. Maybe it could lead to something more? If not make sure he knows that. X

Tired you really would not want to shag a cow worker at work...

My 1st BF was a dairy farmer.

How will you feel if it all goes horribly wrong? Can you keep sex and feelings separate?

If he's single as you say, and you just want sex then I would go for it and enjoy myself.

Curiously, all the Angi Neri (s) on the web speak spanish.

I though the same. the Op has posted about wanting to shag co-workers before.

I find the rhetorical question so very daily mail if you know what I mean.