To consider having sex with a senior coworker?

[angieneri]

I would love to get some perspective on a situation I am currently dealing with. I am 29 and single. A few months ago I broke up with a very long-term bf with whom sex had always been pretty awful. Consequentially my sexual life has been terrible for the last 6 years and I have yet to sleep with anyone after the break up.

I work at a big company where hooking up with and dating coworkers is pretty normalized and accepted. Most of my coworkers are young-ish and single, people hang out socially after work and get drunk together. I know of at least 5/6 people who are currently sleeping with/ seeing some other coworkers. That is not a problem in my company.

A couple of weeks ago a man who is very senior in the company (C-level executive) approached me during a Friday night out after work. We flirted a bit and we ended up making out (plus some...). It was absolutely wild, sexy, hot and thrilling

This man is 20 years older than me and just highly unsuitable in many many ways. We don't work together as we are in different departments. Also, as I previously said, my company is pretty relaxed about dating coworkers so it would not be a problem from that perspective.

He is now pursuing me, I think just for sex. It would be just sex, but God knows how much I desidere having good sex after many years of sexual apathy with ex-bf. I have no feelings for this man other than a strong sexual attraction.

My question is: what do I do? Do I go for it? Do I play it safe and pull back?

Part of me wants to give in and just enjoy some crazy hot sex. The other part of me is terrified of having sex with someone who is so much older than me and a senior coworker.

Mumsnetters, please help

Then make it clear it's one night only and go for it

I've only read your first post because I can't stop my self replying with -

Fuck yeah! I want to shag him after just reading your post!

Fuck yeah! I want to shag him after just reading your post!

ImmuneToWhatever My description of the events was pretty graphic but effective

Situation sounds hot - go for it and shag him - you are young and single and imo you're more likely to regret Not doing it.

I am here to report back as promised.

Did the deeds

It was hot, wild and fun. Slightly awkward in the morning. I am not regretting it so far.

As for the Viagra diatribe, he definitely was not as energetic as a 20 yo but he was ok. We did drink a lot right before DTD so perhaps that influenced the performance as well..

Will there be a repeat OP?

Op are you a young journo and was was it Paul Dacre? Did he make you dress up in frumpy polyester and breathe "mummy" into your ear as his sweating, pale flabby torso collapsed onto your fertile young hips?

More detail needed please. Will there be a repeat?

Thanks for updating.

It sounds like there might be a repeat, although there are no plans at the moment. I think I would be up for a repeat but I don't really want it to turn into a regular thing IYSWIM..

He was more altruistic than I anticipated and he actually put a loooot of effort into taking care of my needs. He was very very skilled

It was my first experience with somone so much older than me and it was a bit weird at first, his body looks nothing like the bodies of the (young) guys I've been with.

Bit of a contradiction in your posts OP plus I thought you were nearer 30. Why did you compare him to a 20 year old. I'm cynical and 'agree with orangejuice.

pottedplants seriously why would I waste my time posting about an immaginary story? And even bothering to follow up?

I am 28, I was in a LTR until recently and all my sexual experiences before said LTR were in my early 20s with people my age. That is why I am comparing him to 20 yo people, because that is all I know sexually.

Strewth Angie/angi

You're getting younger! 29 in your opening sally and now down to 28.

You are Benjamin Button and I claim my £5.

Fine, I'll leave this thread as I am clearly a troll.

Thank you for all the useful inputs that were kindly provided

No, and I would say the same if I was the man asking the question on the other foot.

Men who are nearly 50 do not need viagra to shag (a 20 something woman!) They don't need it even when over the hill ime!

If it's just sex you BOTH want - go for it and enjoy yourself. You're only young once

If he isn't married or in a LTR (and isn't lying about it!), and he's not your line manager, then I'd go for it.

BUT, if you love your job and would be absolutely heartbroken to have to work elsewhere, I wouldn't.

ps the age factor isn't even a factor.

Having worked for a multinational for some 17 years I smell something fishy here. Yep, relationships between co-workers are accepted but taken with caution. A wild sex only relationship between an employee and a C level exec? First of all, it would never remain secret. Second, it would be very much frowned upon as unprofessional and potentially problematic. Lines of business change, jobs change. I experienced a situation where someone left company, had relationship with his former employee, then left her but returned back to the company and became a manager of a related team. He had to walk pass her everyday. We knew what happened. There was gossip and plenty of uncomfortable atmosphere. Eventually they both left the company and I believe that their failed relationship contributed to it a lot.
Nothing is ever a secret. The bigger the company, the smaller a chance to keep a secret. Someone somewhere will always tell.