To consider having sex with a senior coworker?

[angieneri]

I would love to get some perspective on a situation I am currently dealing with. I am 29 and single. A few months ago I broke up with a very long-term bf with whom sex had always been pretty awful. Consequentially my sexual life has been terrible for the last 6 years and I have yet to sleep with anyone after the break up.

I work at a big company where hooking up with and dating coworkers is pretty normalized and accepted. Most of my coworkers are young-ish and single, people hang out socially after work and get drunk together. I know of at least 5/6 people who are currently sleeping with/ seeing some other coworkers. That is not a problem in my company.

A couple of weeks ago a man who is very senior in the company (C-level executive) approached me during a Friday night out after work. We flirted a bit and we ended up making out (plus some...). It was absolutely wild, sexy, hot and thrilling

This man is 20 years older than me and just highly unsuitable in many many ways. We don't work together as we are in different departments. Also, as I previously said, my company is pretty relaxed about dating coworkers so it would not be a problem from that perspective.

He is now pursuing me, I think just for sex. It would be just sex, but God knows how much I desidere having good sex after many years of sexual apathy with ex-bf. I have no feelings for this man other than a strong sexual attraction.

My question is: what do I do? Do I go for it? Do I play it safe and pull back?

Part of me wants to give in and just enjoy some crazy hot sex. The other part of me is terrified of having sex with someone who is so much older than me and a senior coworker.

Mumsnetters, please help

Did he tell you he was single? I'd still do some digging around personally. If he's single it's still not a good idea. If things end badly it could cost you your job. Co workers? Understandable. But someone so senior is messy.

Grr Not rhetorical question ! The Mumsnetters, please help approach. So charmingly DM.

Anyone else read the heading 'AIBU to Consider having Sex with a Senior..' and mentally finish the sentence 'Citizen'?

Go for it, OP. It might just be sex, but it might be glorious sex!

eeve I know for sure he is single. He is obviously well-known at the company and everyone knows he is single. He broke off with a long-term girlfriend a few months ago.

I assume he is probably sleeping around, although I don't know of anyone at work he is currently sleeping with.

When I saw this in the sidebar I thought it was going to be "senior citizen", not "co-worker".

Tired then you'll be familiar with the post milking smell I could never duck fast enough.

I am not DM. And yeah I had a crush on another (not senior!) coworker a few months ago, but nothing ever happened. And nothing will.

I posted here to get some opinions because I am honestly torn about what to do. Also, English is not my mothertongue so sometimes my writing sounds "off".

If you feel this is made up then I am sorry!

Sounds tempting. Sounds hot. But hot you can get from many places. If things went wrong and you lost your job would that be ok? As in finding another fast.

Meh - if he is single ? I mean where else will you meet people . But I do think it's an idea to set a few ground rules before -

Discretion
Not work email or work messaging
Discretion
Explain he is much more senior and as temping as you find him you don't want to fuck up your career

His reaction will speak a lot

Yes, I thought senior citizen too.
But then I have recently been pursued by a 67 year old so maybe that's why!

Nope, not with a colleague. Keep the upper hand.

at reading "senior citizen". I don't think he qualifies as such yet. I mean he is barely 50.

50 is not old, right? RIGHT?

Sorry but the 20 years older would put me right off.

Unsuitable in many many ways.

Can you elaborate?

I think there is a backstory here that will affect many poster's replies to your original post.

If you're both single and he isn't your supervisor, I'd go for it.

If you're both single and you have no desire to progress within the company, then go for it. Otherwise no.

This sounds a bit 50 Shades...at John Lewis HQ.

I assume op feels he is unsuitable in many ways because he is much older than her. I have no problem with the age gap, especially if it's just sex you are wanting from him. And 50 isn't old. Dh is nearing 50, I'm mid 30's and it's all good.
If you are both happy and consenting,I can't see the problem.

Hohumming He is a 50 years bachelor who never really commited to anyone (as far as I know). He has a reputation for sleeping around. He is cocky and arrogant. He is the opposite of the type of man I would actually want to date.

He is very very masculine and "alpha-male" IYSWIM. I think that is why I am so sexually attracted, he is like a concentrate of testosterone

No - sorry as wrong as it maybe, could affect your professional standing in the company i.e seen among the board as "the girl who is shagging x, do you know they did x after work a couple of fridays ago lol lol"

I did the same thing when I wz young and carefree. It wz great. We had a great time. Then i found out he wz actually engaged and I broke it off. Then he moved departments-to my department. Then he became my boss!!!!! It was so awful. Dont crap where you eat OP!

But . . . you've already had sex with him. Why the second thoughts now?

Except that your other threads indicate that maybe you're going through a bit of a crisis atm. I'd suggest you give it all a bit of a rest while you sort your head out a bit.

Unless, of course, you have a column to submit this week

Concentrate of testosterone ?

Oh dear
....you just over egged it

Go for it! Enjoy!