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To think coming up to 14 months isn't THAT late to walk?

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Skatingonthinice16 · 14/02/2017 16:43

MiL is obsessed with dd walking. Last week she just let her go whilst dd was walking holding her hands and dd fell on her face.

It's ramped up because her other granddaughter who is a few weeks younger than my dd is now waking. However my dd was prem - nearly 7 weeks. If she'd been born on her due date she'd only have been 1 this week.

MiL keeps referring to dd as 'backwards' as in 'what's wrong with her Skating, is she backwards?'
Ds didn't walk until 16 months but MiL has rewritten history and tells everyone he walked at nine months Hmm

It's not that late is it really? Dd walks holding one of my hands and can stand inside but doesn't go anywhere. I reckon it will be another couple of months. Maybe around 16 months like ds was.

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roomonthatbroomforme · 14/02/2017 16:45

Nope that's not late at all.
My daughter was a week off been 18 months. You'd never know now she is 7 and runs everywhere!! Kids wall when they are ready to do it.

SheSaidNoFuckThat · 14/02/2017 16:46

Not late at all, all mine were older than that when they started walking.

MrsGB2225 · 14/02/2017 16:46

I would have thought 14 months was pretty average (judging from toddlers I know).
Also by 2, you can't tell who walked at 10 months and who walked at 20months, so it really doesn't matter.
The backwards comments would annoy me though, that's so rude!

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Skatingonthinice16 · 14/02/2017 16:46

Stand unaided that should say.

I wasn't bothered before but now I want her to walk just so MiL stood asking if she's backwards! Lovely turn of phrase that is.

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SheSaidNoFuckThat · 14/02/2017 16:47

I'd also be telling the MIL to back off with her snide comments too.

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Skatingonthinice16 · 14/02/2017 16:48

Yes children can only be 'backwards' or 'advanced' apparently.
Ds confuses her as he's dyspraxic and probably on the spectrum. Bloody hell. He's backwards AND advanced!

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Davros · 14/02/2017 16:48

DS walked at 16 months and DD at 19 months Shock
It did become a pain, not being able to put them down anywhere their chunky knees would get scratched or dirty!

PeppaAteMySoul · 14/02/2017 16:49

Doesn't seem that late to me. My son was 17 months. I spent a good few months needlessly worrying about his about it before he got moving!

penguincrumble · 14/02/2017 16:49

She needs to stop calling her backwards. I used to know a little girl who introduced herself as being backwards Sad

cinnamongirl1976 · 14/02/2017 16:50

Ridiculous! Ignore. My daughter was almost 20 months before she walked. And a year before she crawled! But she was talking really early. It all means nothing.

Nousername2015 · 14/02/2017 16:51

My DS has just turned 13 months, he can't even stand unaided yet! I don't think he's backwards. I know tons of babies who are around 14 months now (nct group) and only a couple are walking.

EB123 · 14/02/2017 16:52

Nope my first was almost 18 months. Middle was 10 months when he started and trust me it was much harder work!

NewtScamandersNaughtyNiffler · 14/02/2017 16:52

What a bitch.
Ds1 walked at 14 months. (Now ex) mil spent months asking why he didn't walk sooner as all her dc walked at 9 months. She concluded I was a terrible mum who just wasn't teaching him Hmm
He's 12 now and no can ever says "oh newt. I bet he was a late walker wasn't he"

Tell her to fuck off with her snide comments. Backwards my ass.

Rixera · 14/02/2017 16:53

Mine suddenly walked at 14 months and was running two days later. They do everything at their own rate.

EB123 · 14/02/2017 16:53

And calling her backwards needs to stop, I would not be having that.

WhatLizzyDid · 14/02/2017 16:55

YANBU

Pengweng · 14/02/2017 16:55

DT1 walked at 17 months and DT2 16 months so no it's not late at all.

Ask her if she is backwards as most people do not refer to toddlers in that way.

One of mine was late talking too. DT2 was chatting away from about 18 months and DT1 didn't say a single word (she said sounds like moo, baa etc but no words) until a few days before she turned two and she started speaking in sentences. She just really likes to take her time and be sure she can do something before doing it.
Even now at nearly five she is the same way. Watches everyone else to see what to do and what not to do and then does it. DT2 is all fools rush in and is always falling over/off things, keen to give everything a try even if she can't do it. They both get there in the end just in very different ways Grin

Squidgling · 14/02/2017 16:56

No its not late. I remember reading that 14 months was about average which obviously means some children walk earlier and some walk later than that. You really don't need to worry - she sounds like she is getting there.

To be honest I would be telling MIL that I didn't want to see her if she is going to make such rude, nasty comments about her granddaughter! She's being very unkind. Have you said anything to her to ask her to stop?

JustinOtherdad · 14/02/2017 16:57

Not at all. My DD2 is 16 mths and has only just started. Well, a few weeks ago but she's more than happy to crawl about most of the time. All babies are different.

Nannplum666 · 14/02/2017 16:58

My son was 9 weeks prem and only walked at 19 months unaided. Tell you MIL to back off !

user1472334322 · 14/02/2017 16:59

I think 14 months is completely normal and average. Ds1 was 13 months and ds2 15 months. Most of my friend's kids were about the same too. Tell Mil to butt out and let dd walk when she's ready.

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 14/02/2017 16:59

Kids do things at different rates. My DS had a vocab of over 100 words at 18 months... but he'd only been walking for about six weeks at that point. My friend's DS had a few words at 18 months but had been walking for 8 months! They were just spending their time working on different things!

MrsJayy · 14/02/2017 17:00

Mil sounds a delight is she backwards Shock I would be asking wtf she meant anyway my 2 were 15ish months before they walked

dnamummy · 14/02/2017 17:00

My DS wasn't moving at 14 months just sitting unaided. Was getting worried until nursery called me to watch. He was sat in middle of room and whenever he wanted anything he would point and the 3 little toddler girls would fetch it for him! No incentive to walk!

He started once they were moved up a room and he was with other non walkers (think 16 months)

He is now 17 and would still prefer to have someone running after him!

Do not worry, your DD will do whatever she wants when she's ready.

youarenotkiddingme · 14/02/2017 17:00

Just smile really sweetly and say "no, she walks forwards if you hold her hands like the rest of us do. Here MIl, let me show you if your not sure how to do it"