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To think coming up to 14 months isn't THAT late to walk?

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Skatingonthinice16 · 14/02/2017 16:43

MiL is obsessed with dd walking. Last week she just let her go whilst dd was walking holding her hands and dd fell on her face.

It's ramped up because her other granddaughter who is a few weeks younger than my dd is now waking. However my dd was prem - nearly 7 weeks. If she'd been born on her due date she'd only have been 1 this week.

MiL keeps referring to dd as 'backwards' as in 'what's wrong with her Skating, is she backwards?'
Ds didn't walk until 16 months but MiL has rewritten history and tells everyone he walked at nine months Hmm

It's not that late is it really? Dd walks holding one of my hands and can stand inside but doesn't go anywhere. I reckon it will be another couple of months. Maybe around 16 months like ds was.

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mycatloveslego · 14/02/2017 17:00

My DS didn't walk until he was 14 months. He's now 5 and there is absolutely nothing wrong with him developmentally. Your DD is still in the normal range, and will walk when she wants to. Your MIL sounds like a right charmer. Ignore her.

user1472334322 · 14/02/2017 17:00

Also, how unkind to let dd go so she fell over! Nasty lady!

MrsJayy · 14/02/2017 17:01

Fwiw both of my Dds were early 1 born at 36&35 weeks

JennyOnAPlate · 14/02/2017 17:01

No not late at all. I have one who walked at 11 months and one who waited til she was a few days off 17 months. Mil needs to stfu!!

SEsofty · 14/02/2017 17:01

Bang on average.

noeffingidea · 14/02/2017 17:02

No, it's not late at all. My first child walked at 9 months, 2nd at 18 months, 3rd at 15 months. All of them did it naturally, all of them walk equally well now.
As long as she's making progress then I wouldn't worry about it. The fact that your daughter is walking with support shows that she is progressing in the normal way.

1pink4blue · 14/02/2017 17:02

14 months is not late.
Ds1 was 12 months
Ds2 was 16 months
Ds3 was 15 months
Ds4 was 10 months
Dd was 14 months
And i how disgusting of your mil to refer to your child as backwards if she was my mil she would be not seeing my dc

BagelDog · 14/02/2017 17:02

Daft woman, mine were all well over 18 months, I wasn't worried, health visitor wasn't worried, the Physio and paediatrician we say about #2's talipes wasn't worried, wellwithin the normal range....

SenseiWoo · 14/02/2017 17:02

People (well-competitive fellow parents of babies) kept going on about DS not walking. He was 20 months before he walked unaided. My mother was great-she pointed out what rubbish it all was to this babies did things in the same way and at the same time. In her day they didn't really have parenting books, let alone blogs, so the preoccupation with these kind of 'deadlines' didn't exist.

Your baby will walk, in his own good time. There is nothing to worry about and your MIL is being really insensitive and horrible.

RegTheMonkey1 · 14/02/2017 17:03

I was walking at 9 months - my sister not til 13 months, so everyone's different.

winniewigs · 14/02/2017 17:03

My ds was almost 2 when he walked, but he has global developmental delays and sn. I was told that any time between 10 months and 2 years is normal.

Meffy · 14/02/2017 17:03

My DS was a week off his 4th birthday before he walked .... BUT he really is 'backwards' or as we like to call it nowadays ... Developmentally Delayed!!!
14months not walking is not delayed at all.... sound to me like you're MIL is a bit 'backwards'!

Vinorosso74 · 14/02/2017 17:03

I think the usual is anywhere from 9-18 months. Mine was nearly 16 months when she walked independently, at 17 months she saw a bouncy castle and ran right towards it.
People are so keen for babies and older children to be able to do things so soon.

cheminotte · 14/02/2017 17:04

Both my ds walked at about 16m. Tell your mil to stop using the term 'backwards' as its incredibly offensive!

titsbumfannythelot · 14/02/2017 17:05

Not late at all, especially for her corrected age.

Ignore your mother in law, she sounds like a pita

EweAreHere · 14/02/2017 17:05

I'd ask her flat out: "Do you want to continue to spend time with your grandchild? Yes? Then zip it!"

Or have your DH tell her to zip it. It needs to stop now. Advocate for your child, because is she feels free to say these things now, she won't stop saying in appropriate things when the child can actually understand.

Lovewineandchocs · 14/02/2017 17:06

Good grief! My son was 20 months before he walked. My MIL also tried to re-write history Grin my DD walked at 14 months so they are all different. Tell her to back off, her comments are hurtful, stressful and unhelpful. Where I am (NI) health visitors don't get involved unless the child is showing no signs of walking by 18 months. Even then, they aren't considered "backwards" just physio may be recommended. Your DD will walk when she is ready.

DixieNormas · 14/02/2017 17:10

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FarAwayHills · 14/02/2017 17:11

Is this some sort of competitive grandparent thing? Your DD sounds like she is well within the average range and your MIL needs to back off with her backwards comments.

EssentialHummus · 14/02/2017 17:11

She's being incredibly rude.

I was 20 months before I walked. You can tell your MIL I have 3 degrees and a good salary Grin.

Jaysis · 14/02/2017 17:12

DS was nearly 17 months, but when he did walk, he was sure and steady and running around without falling within days. Our NDN little girl walked months earlier than he did but wobbled and fell all the time for a good 4 months at first.

She'll get there. Your MIL though? I'd keep her well away from your 'backwards' children because the only thing backwards in their lives is her attitude.

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Skatingonthinice16 · 14/02/2017 17:13

Yes I'm not happy about 'backwards'
She will also talk about people with autism and say things like 'they don't look backwards, you can't tell.'
She is totally obsessed with the walking. She said when they walk it's the most exciting part of their lives. Hmm
I think she is just saying this though. I'm fairly confident once dd is walking it will cease to matter particularly.

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Notanotherpawpatrol · 14/02/2017 17:15

Tell her to back right off. What a bitch letting her hurt herself Angry
If DD is 12 months corrected, she's only just edging into the walkig category. Many hildren don't walk until 14, 15 or 18 months! If DS Wales at 16 months, it could be entirely possible she won't walk until 16 months corrected, so 18 months which is still perfectly reasonable and normal. Ignore the crazy bitch.

crunched · 14/02/2017 17:15

Ha! My MIL kept saying "give them to me for a weekend, I'll get them walking". Ummm, no thanks, they will walk when they are ready.

DD1 & 2: 18 months - crawling at 14 months
DS: 22 months and a bottom shuffler from 18 months

AlexanderBerry · 14/02/2017 17:15

I walked at 18 months. I'm fine.