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To think coming up to 14 months isn't THAT late to walk?

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Skatingonthinice16 · 14/02/2017 16:43

MiL is obsessed with dd walking. Last week she just let her go whilst dd was walking holding her hands and dd fell on her face.

It's ramped up because her other granddaughter who is a few weeks younger than my dd is now waking. However my dd was prem - nearly 7 weeks. If she'd been born on her due date she'd only have been 1 this week.

MiL keeps referring to dd as 'backwards' as in 'what's wrong with her Skating, is she backwards?'
Ds didn't walk until 16 months but MiL has rewritten history and tells everyone he walked at nine months Hmm

It's not that late is it really? Dd walks holding one of my hands and can stand inside but doesn't go anywhere. I reckon it will be another couple of months. Maybe around 16 months like ds was.

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JassyRadlett · 14/02/2017 18:53

Why do you let her spend so much time with them? She seems like such a critical, negative influence.

Batteriesallgone · 14/02/2017 19:04

My two year old is a bit delayed in her development and we're just getting there with the referrals and getting in the system. I would say it's worth raising questions early with the HV so you can get in the system in a timely fashion. From experience referrals take a long time.

I am so confused though when people make out it's worrying or something to be ashamed of - my DD is who she is, people passing judgement is neither here or there. You can be nice to/about her or fuck off IMO. Grin

My MIL is lovely but she says things like 'she's normal in other ways' which sets my teeth on edge.

Your DD sounds within the normal range but it might be worth keeping in touch with your HV so you know where and when to ask for a referral if one is needed. And tell MIL to fuck off!

WashBasketsAreUs · 14/02/2017 19:18

Ooh I forgot to mention, my twins were premature as well.

belle40 · 14/02/2017 19:20

My daughter bum shuffled everywhere until 15 months. Now nearly 19 months and running (and tripping over) everywhere! My coordination isn't fantastic so I fear she may have inherited my clumsiness Smile

Justalittlebitfurther · 14/02/2017 19:24

Show you MiL the Michael McIntyre sketch to show, children learn in their own time. Enjoy it while it lasts I say! Smile

bumsexatthebingo · 14/02/2017 19:33

Well firstly your dd is basically 12 months since she was prem and, by the sounds of it, very nearly there if MIL doesn't put her off by dumping her on her face so she sounds right on time with the walking afaik!
My 2 walked at 13 and 14 months and they were both born late. I sympathise with you re the MIL. Ours also has another gc the same age and the comparisons are tiring. I also have a relative who likes to use the word 'backward' about my ds who has asd but thinks she's paying him a compliment by saying 'at least he's not backward' Hmm

Fluffy24 · 14/02/2017 19:36

DS was nearly 20 months! Apparently DH was the same! Absolutely nothing wrong with them!

TowerRavenSeven · 14/02/2017 19:39

Yanbu. Ds was 17 months, 15 years now and fine in every way.

Stepmum123 · 14/02/2017 19:40

My DSS didn't walk till 23 months, he's now 3 and 3 months and you wouldn't know. He was checked out multiple times by doctors and physios who could find anything else wrong such as dyspraxia or other movement disorders. Your DD will walk when she's good and ready, if you're not concerned as a mother your MIL can keep her opinions and branding of your DD to herself, I would have choice words if anyone dared call my DSS "backwards"!!

imjessie · 14/02/2017 19:42

She needs to pack it in calling anyone backwards !!! My son has developmental delay and I'd lamp her if she called him backwards !!! My mum is in her 70's and I have to correct her when she says things like that but she will only do it once !!!

Notrevealingmyidentity · 14/02/2017 19:48

Try
" Stop being silly MIL you know perfectly well nothing is wrong with her and that DS didn't walk at 9 months."

SpookyPotato · 14/02/2017 19:54

My DS was 14 months and I thought that was pretty average, it didn't feel late! Ignore her, it really doesn't matter and she shouldn't be making you feel shit! Some people are obsessed with development milestones... it's not a race.

Wetcappuccino · 14/02/2017 19:56

Our DD is 21 months and has only been walking herself for the last 2 weeks. Similar to your DD, she was premature (10 weeks) so I suppose she walked at a corrected age of 18/19 months (ish). Don't let it get to you - but certainly call her out on the "backwards" comment. What a nasty thing to say about anyone, let alone your infant granddaughter! Try not to let other people's ill informed opinions affect you (easier said than done) - you sound very sensible and your DD isn't on a deadline Smile

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