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Original poster

To think my in-laws are over reacting?

207 replies

Snugglepalace · 13/02/2017 20:23

My dc (11yr old ds & 8 yr old dd) stay over at my in-laws once a week during the school hols, so that's roughly 10 times a year.
They have a 2 bed house and up till 6 months ago dc slept together in their spare room, however in laws now make dd sleep on the floor in the living room which she hates, she says it's uncomfortable.
So I asked them today if the kids can share the room and they got quite angry with me and said no it's not right at their age!!
AIBU to think that's a bit over the top for a sleep over just 10-12 times a year?

OP posts:
Pixel · 14/02/2017 00:09

Sorry that makes it sound as if I think their views are sensible but I think they are being daft. All the time the dcs are happy to share then it should be their choice. They will grow up soon enough. Besides, even if anything were likely to happen (not for one moment suggesting it would, just following their logic!) then what makes them think it couldn't happen anywhere or at any time, rather than on the ten nights a year they are at their grandparents?

JunosRevenge · 14/02/2017 00:20

Knat larvae

Buckets in the bath

Rationing loo roll

Girl children receiving less preferential treatment than male siblings

Are your ILs the Beverley Hillbillies, OP?

(This is my new favourite thread......)

morningconstitutional2017 · 14/02/2017 00:37

Your ILs are probably not as old as mine but my MIL is aghast at her two great-grandchildren (boy and girl, similar age to your DC) sharing a room. She won't say so in so many words but obviously thinks that the possibility of incest is a factor. When I say aghast I mean thoroughly shocked in a very maiden aunt sort of way.

Dancergirl · 14/02/2017 01:17

OP joking aside, I can't believe you've let this go on for 6 months! Your dd was unhappy and tearful and you still allowed her to stay??

It sounds miserable. This smacks of children putting up with things to keep adults happy. Please allow both your children the choice whether to stay over again.

Billyjoe123 · 14/02/2017 01:28

White for hands, brown for feet, green for torso, thighs and seat. And in the cupboard beneath the stair you'll find the red for pubic hair.

To think my in-laws are over reacting?
TheEdgeofSeventeen · 14/02/2017 01:32

They're siblings wtf! My sister and I are 21 and 24 and we've shared a bed recently ( in fact when I'm home we often do it from choice even though I have a double bed next door because it's more fun and then we get up at the same time and have breakfast together and stuff x

titchy · 14/02/2017 07:50

billyjoe GrinGrinGrin Love love love LoG!

NewPuppyMum · 14/02/2017 08:17

They don't respect that you are the parents. Surely your child trumps their house Hmm. The DD doesn't want to go. She's not having a nice time. They are watching television while she's trying to sleep. Wtf are you still making her go? Foolish.

Esspee · 14/02/2017 08:34

Nobody's asked about your husband. Is he normal after being brought up by them? Grin. can see some interesting threads in the future

presidentfart · 14/02/2017 10:16

Honestly if he said to me 'my house my rules' I wouldn't be sending them anymore!!

Original poster
Snugglepalace · 14/02/2017 10:19

I'm going to pick dc up in a min. I'll tell them they don't have to stay over anymore if they don't want to.
Thing is, as strange as they are they do love dc very much.
I've been with Dh for 27 years so have kind of grown used to their strange ways, although my parents (same age, early 70's) think they are complete fruit loops!
Dh was a bit like them in the beginning (yes I have strange taste in men Grin) but he's morphed into my ways over the years(God, unless I'm like them too and just can't see it- argh!) but no one in his family ever say anything about in laws ways because you would never in a million years get them to see any other way of living they truly are from another era.
And yes, I do believe they that they were the inspiration for the Beverly Hillbillies either that or descendants of Ebenezer Smile

OP posts:
HappyFlappy · 14/02/2017 10:35

I have a cold and am off to bed in a min with...... A WHOLE toilet roll, get me

Here!

Paper doesn't grow on trees, Snuggle!

Grin
Original poster
Snugglepalace · 14/02/2017 10:45

AND! I've started on another roll this morning, I feel so liberated!

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BeIIatrixLeStrange · 14/02/2017 10:52

I think you need to respect the inlaws, it is THEIR house. Other than that, don't send them

BeIIatrixLeStrange · 14/02/2017 10:53

Or have them stay over separately? it doesn't mean that they can never stay just not at same time

Willow2016 · 14/02/2017 11:02

I would stop them going, they are deliberately making your dd sleep on the floor while they sit watching tv till 10pm!
How is she supposed to sleep?
Plus there is the whole dd should sleep on the floor while ds gets a bed!

We go through so much loo roll I should buy shares in it, would make a fortune!

BertrandRussell · 14/02/2017 11:08

Don't stop them. Ask if they still want to go. If they do, then make sensible arrangments.

Alpies · 14/02/2017 11:47

Y do u even send ur kids to stay there overnight? I wouldn't? It's a strange household!

I can't imagine what it must feel like for ur DD to be told to sleep on a mattress in the living room? If they r that Arsey about loo roll what r they like with heating? Esp in this weather it must be freezing!!!

My parents would never do that to my kids. If there was such an issue, they would sleep on the mattress n give the kids the bed.

I would stop all sleepovers frankly.

Original poster
Snugglepalace · 14/02/2017 12:33

I won't even start with the heating!

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PatsyMount · 14/02/2017 12:40

Hope your DD is ok this morning OP. How did it go? that-was not a toilet reference Wink

Willow2016 · 14/02/2017 12:43

And how in gods name can you be clean every time with only 2 bits of loo roll? Thats disgusting.

wishingona · 14/02/2017 13:51

I still need to know how they wash - or do they have a separate shower? But even so the bath is redundant!!

PassTheWineAndFags · 14/02/2017 14:45

Have you asked your kids yet? I am interested to see what they say

GooseberryJam · 14/02/2017 15:22

Age is no excuse. My parents are in their late 80s and lived through WW2 and rationing, and they'd have no truck with bathroom rules like this.

Bitofacow · 14/02/2017 16:24

Heating?

You have more madness to share?
Such is my concern for your children I feel you need to share. I am in no way living my life through your in-laws at the moment.