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To think my in-laws are over reacting?

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Snugglepalace · 13/02/2017 20:23

My dc (11yr old ds & 8 yr old dd) stay over at my in-laws once a week during the school hols, so that's roughly 10 times a year.
They have a 2 bed house and up till 6 months ago dc slept together in their spare room, however in laws now make dd sleep on the floor in the living room which she hates, she says it's uncomfortable.
So I asked them today if the kids can share the room and they got quite angry with me and said no it's not right at their age!!
AIBU to think that's a bit over the top for a sleep over just 10-12 times a year?

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Snugglepalace · 13/02/2017 22:08

God I'm starting to wonder where dd is going to spend the night on the pump up mattress now. Maybe in the bath with the buckets?!!

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Bitofacow · 13/02/2017 22:09

So now I'm on the toilet counting out toilet roll. Not ' now' obviously, that would be disgusting. I meant just now.

4 pieces, I'm extravagant me.

londonrach · 13/02/2017 22:10

No way can you manage with 1 or 2 pieces of toilet paper!!

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Snugglepalace · 13/02/2017 22:11

Dh doesn't say a bloody word to his parents, he and his brother have always just excepted that's the way their parents are and they never challenge them!

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Snugglepalace · 13/02/2017 22:13

Well, I have a cold and am off to bed in a min with...... A WHOLE toilet roll, get me!

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skankingpiglet · 13/02/2017 22:16

Do the loo roll rations increase as you age? My arse is much bigger than my 2yo's, and whereas 2 sheets really is plenty for her, I'd say less so for me!

Aeroflotgirl · 13/02/2017 22:16

Your kids do t have to put up with that if they don't want.

kiwigeekmum · 13/02/2017 22:20

Life's too short to be stingy with bog roll.

YANBU.

sleeplesshell · 13/02/2017 22:26

If there are buckets in the bath how do they wash themselves? Do they have rules about how much water they use for a wash? Confused

DartmoorDoughnut · 13/02/2017 22:29

snuggle you're so decadent, a whole roll Shock

LineysRun · 13/02/2017 22:29

3 inch bath. Like King George VI.

ChasedByBees · 13/02/2017 22:48

I would stop the sleep overs. They're not providing a comfortable place to sleep which is pretty essential.

Rafflesway · 13/02/2017 22:49

YADNBU snuggle!

Definitely time to stop the overnights IMO and I would have no problem with politely but assertively explaining to PILs why.

Please tell me they are nearly 90 in age as I am over 60 only just Grin and these rules and regulations are sheer madness and would be howled at by anyone I know around our age group. Your poor DD Sad

BertrandRussell · 13/02/2017 22:52

I would ask the kids.

A comfortable place to sleep is easy to provide- if the kids want to keep going just buy a camp bed!

As I said, not wanting children of different sexes to share a room is not particularly unusual by Mumsnet standards. The threads normally go about 50/50.

BertrandRussell · 13/02/2017 22:54

The loo roll thing is odd, but that's easily sorted too. If the children want to keep going

nurseblonde · 13/02/2017 23:01

This thread has me in hysterics. Your poor DD. I have two male cousins. When we stayed at my nans, eldest boy cousin went in spare room and me & youngest boy cousin slept in bunk beds. Happened until I was about 13?

AcrossthePond55 · 13/02/2017 23:19

Still Shock at the thought of someone outside the door. I wonder if, when told a wee or a poo, says "That didn't sound like a wee and a poo. I heard the tinkle but I did not hear a plop!! Are you lying to Nana?" Grin

Honestly, I think I tell the children that visits and overnights are now voluntary and if they don't want to go they certainly don't have to. And I'd probably tell my DH to take a flying if he gave me a hard time about it. If the grandparents want to see the children they can take them out for the day. But from now on, they sleep at home.

BlackeyedSusan · 13/02/2017 23:26

2 pieces. they would implode here . two loo rolls have disappeared down the loo needing to be fished out and binne.d

EatTheChocolateTeapot · 13/02/2017 23:29

They settle her on the floor and then watch TV until 10pm... hmmm, do they think she is a dog?

DadDadDad · 13/02/2017 23:34

Bitofacow - are you saying it's disgusting to be posting on MN while sitting on the toilet? Why? Good place to sit and surf the web. (Or have I just solved the eternal question of why men are so long in the loo? Grin )

Littledrummergirl · 13/02/2017 23:37

But, but [whispers] What if they get the diarrhoea? How many sheets?

Yanbu, they sound bonkers.

MillionToOneChances · 13/02/2017 23:45

My kids very happily share at 15 and 12!

ohfourfoxache · 13/02/2017 23:57

Definitely time to ask the kids if they want to go. If not then that's it- you can't force them

YouWillNotSeeMe · 14/02/2017 00:04

Please ask your children how they feel and don't let them stay again. A forced relationship of misery isn't no fun. Fuck me with the toilet roll thing! Send you kids with their own toilet roll, I couldn't cope with 1 or 2 sheets only, I would be unclean, smelling and sore.

Your kids will love you for making them not go back, they will see it as a cruel chore.

Pixel · 14/02/2017 00:06

Well at first I thought that dd being the one to sleep on the floor wasn't because she's a girl but because she's the youngest. It's an unwritten rule isn't it, like the eldest always gets the top bunk. But then I read that she's kept awake by the tv until 10pm so now it really makes no sense as you'd expect them to want the youngest to get an earlier night.