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Original poster

To think my in-laws are over reacting?

207 replies

Snugglepalace · 13/02/2017 20:23

My dc (11yr old ds & 8 yr old dd) stay over at my in-laws once a week during the school hols, so that's roughly 10 times a year.
They have a 2 bed house and up till 6 months ago dc slept together in their spare room, however in laws now make dd sleep on the floor in the living room which she hates, she says it's uncomfortable.
So I asked them today if the kids can share the room and they got quite angry with me and said no it's not right at their age!!
AIBU to think that's a bit over the top for a sleep over just 10-12 times a year?

OP posts:
Chippednailvarnishing · 13/02/2017 21:07

Come on spill on the toilet rules!

scrivette · 13/02/2017 21:08

I shared a bedroom with my brother for a year when we were 12 and 14 and we always used to share a bedroom when we went on a family holiday.

I used to share a twin room with my Dad when we went on holiday too and can't see the issue.

I wouldn't be making DS and DD go if they didn't want to, which is a shame for the grandparents, but, their house, their rules Wink

BlackeyedSusan · 13/02/2017 21:08

ffs WHAT ARE THE TOILET ROLL RULES

cpme back and let us know!

EweAreHere · 13/02/2017 21:08

I would stop the sleepovers immediately. Tell them this was the last one.

Bouncealot · 13/02/2017 21:08

Mine share on holiday-21 and 19 Confused

GatoradeMeBitch · 13/02/2017 21:09

They wont stay separately because they find it boring there without each other!

So just say no more sleepovers! Your children, your rules!

Would your DH mind?

Original poster
Snugglepalace · 13/02/2017 21:09

Toilet roll rules..... One sheet only for wee, two for poo! Oh and never, ever flush the toilet, there are various buckets of rain water stored in the bath for flushing Hmm

OP posts:
Bitofacow · 13/02/2017 21:09

Yep sleep overs stop if the kids don't like them.

Now let's focus on the big issue - toilet roll rules? We need to know.

Chippednailvarnishing · 13/02/2017 21:09

Fuck that. How the hell do they know?

No more sleepovers.

Trifleorbust · 13/02/2017 21:10

Their house, their rules, their business. Your kids. If they're going to make your DD sleep on the floor of their sitting room, stop sending her. Besides their insistence on this being off, who wants their 8 year old being the front line of defence if someone breaks in? Confused

Aeroflotgirl · 13/02/2017 21:10

snuggle how stupid. I would ask them if they want to sleep over, if they don't, say no to in laws, my daughter doesent want to go as she does not like sleeping on the floor. Be assertive!

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 13/02/2017 21:10

That is ridiculous they are brother and sister ffs.

Bitofacow · 13/02/2017 21:10

X post.

They are bonkersShock

Trifleorbust · 13/02/2017 21:11

Okay, they count sheets of loo roll? Shock

isadoradancing123 · 13/02/2017 21:11

Sharing a bedroom, no problem at all. Sharing a bed at this age maybe not so acceptable

Livelovebehappy · 13/02/2017 21:11

Leaningtowerofgaffney; but OP has said the bed in the spare room is a double one, so I'm guessing not separate beds. Like I said, twin beds in the same room would be fine, but I just don't feel that them sleeping together in a double bed would be appropriate when one of them is at secondary school. But I do seem to be in the minority on here, so maybe I'm wrong?

alfagirl73 · 13/02/2017 21:11

How on earth do they enforce those toilet roll rules? Are they in the loo watching how many sheets they take? Or do they ration it out before they go?! What happens if they flush?!

I'd be stopping those visits; I'd be extremely stressed in a house with rules like that.

Bitofacow · 13/02/2017 21:12

If you have a wee and a poo do you get to use 3?

If ds doesn't use his wee piece of roll can someone else claim it?

diddl · 13/02/2017 21:12

I'd just stop the sleepovers.

Doesn't sound as if the kids are getting anything from it.

Trifleorbust · 13/02/2017 21:13

isadoradancing123: Why the hell not? It's like sharing a tent! Children at this age don't need their own room to guard against abusive behaviour; it's just about a reasonable level of privacy as they get older. One night staying out isn't going to cause issues with that.

Chippednailvarnishing · 13/02/2017 21:13

What happens if you poo and wee and need to blow your nose?

SouthernNorthernGirl · 13/02/2017 21:13

Bitofacow Grin

OP, what does your DH say? Although, YANBU

coconutpie · 13/02/2017 21:14

WTF. The toilet roll rules - I would be sending DC with a roll of toilet paper each. 1 fucking sheet or 2 for poo? WTF?

I would be stopping sleepovers. When you visit, bring your own toilet paper. And flush the toilet FFS.

Trifleorbust · 13/02/2017 21:14

isadoradancing123: Sorry, I mean even if they share a bed.

PatsyMount · 13/02/2017 21:15

I used to stay over at my aunt's house occasionally during the holidays, probably 1 night a week.

I have fond memories of sharing a room with my two male cousins, 4 and 6 years older than me. I can't remember exactly but I am sure the older one was a teenager. We used to share a caravan too. They used to teach me swear words and tips on how to get one over on my parents! They had a record player with punk records which we used to play (to my aunt's horror!). I had a whale of a time. This was the 70s however.

YANBU, I feel sad about your DCs and also the fact that your ILs are going to now miss out if DCs won't stay.