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To think this is bloody lazy 'parenting'

192 replies

Exileinengland1999 · 13/02/2017 19:22

Really pissed off- DP has had the kids at home today for half term. I left for work at 8.15am and everyone was up. It's a beautiful day & sun is shining -DD 4 asked to go to the park as I left. I ring at 12 and they are still at home- kids have been watching tv and playing on a tablet. I ring again at 2pm and they are still at home having just had lunch. DP eventually takes them to the park for 1 hour after constant hassling.
I come home & house is a shit tip- nothing has been done either and I have spent my evening after a day's work hoovering and tidying after the mess DP has made.
Aibu to be pissed off on a number of counts- kids inside all day on screens, house a shit tip. DP has mostly spent the day not moving from one seat looking at his phone according to my DS.
Lazy bloody non- parenting? Aibu?

OP posts:
NowtAbout · 13/02/2017 23:12

He's a lazy arse. I don't mind an hour or two on a screen but waste of a day any more

Sallystyle · 13/02/2017 23:15

DP was lazy. Having kids doesn't stop because you have a day off.

Having kids doesn't stop no. However, it is perfectly fine, and probably quite healthy to have a day doing as little as possible, even when you have kids.

I have never been one to think kids needs constant entertainment and need to go out every day though. It's doesn't harm anyone to stay in for a day.

NarkyMcDinkyChops · 13/02/2017 23:17

Having kids doesn't stop because you have a day of

they are still alive, they didn't cease to exist, so no, they didn't stop,

A lot of controlling women on here.

OneWithTheForce · 13/02/2017 23:17

I haven't even wiped the counters today. We had a late breakfast around 11 and I didn't even shower til 3pm. We first left the house at 4.20pm. It's the first day of mid term break. Chill.

Sallystyle · 13/02/2017 23:18

No wonder some parents find parenting so hard work if they worry so much about having a day in doing nothing. Relax a bit, it will do you good.

Bahh · 13/02/2017 23:23

YABU and come across as really controlling. He's a grown man and capable of caring for children alone for one day without your interference - lazy days are fine. They're children and shouldn't get to dictate to the grown up in charge what happens when so your DD wanting to go to the park at 8am is neither here nor there. They got there didn't they? Don't understand the problem.

Agree the mess is a bit annoying.

Sunbeam18 · 13/02/2017 23:24

I think that's v lazy of him and I'd be fuming. The kids deserve to enjoy their holidays, not be ignored by a parent sitting on their phone all day.

lottieandmia · 13/02/2017 23:25

Yabu

Alter · 14/02/2017 17:29

Same happens in my house but just go with it, our standards are not for everone. X

lukeymom · 14/02/2017 17:31

Nothing wrong with it really.DP was just having a chill out day. He probably intended to take them to park but not during the morning. It's ok for the kids to be on tablets playing a few games,doesn't't yet that's what they're there for.
I'm a single parent of two young boys and on our days off we chill in the morning. Have breakfast about 10.30,get washed and dressed. Watch kids tv,play games.Then later about 1pm we go out.

I think you are over reacting to be honest.

jayne1976 · 14/02/2017 17:31

Sorry not acceptable when you've been at work all day

lukeymom · 14/02/2017 17:33

*Isn' t that what they're for?

clarkl2 · 14/02/2017 17:40

Sounds like my house!!!!

apringle · 14/02/2017 17:41

If it's a rare day off with his children it's just sad for them. Missed the opportunity for a great day at the park and playing with dad. I'd be upset too.

mammamic · 14/02/2017 17:42

YABU

DP's parenting so up to them really.

I would not have hoovered or tidied round - would have told DP that they had to do that. You chose to, however, so you can't really moan about that...

mammamic · 14/02/2017 17:44

PS - I haven't gotten into the bath I ran a few hours ago and I'm still in my PJs.

iamthemanny · 14/02/2017 17:46

As a stay at home dad that would drive me nuts if my wife did that. I clear / clean junk for my life but holidays, my sanity would be to get them out of the house. Especially as weather better. You should have left mess for him to do !!!

Brollsdolls · 14/02/2017 17:46

YANBU - I would be very pissed off to come home to a messy house after a day at work.

Ghosttownspecials · 14/02/2017 17:46

Really? Life too short too worry this much.

LucyFuckingPevensie · 14/02/2017 17:48

I work in a school and had a very lazy day yesterday. We want to the park pretty early that was just so we could do a. Quick shop and come home to get into o ur pyjamas and relax.
Tbh I wouldn't take much notice of the dc complaining about having to constantly hassle your dp. My Dc accuse me of ignoring them all the time. I wouldn't mind but most of the time I am fucking attentive.

MommieMommyMom · 14/02/2017 17:48

Right now I'm sat on my phone whilst there's salad all over the living room floor... my kids all have their face in a tablet.

I can't be arsed to clean up right now. And my kids are having fun with whatever games they're playing on manga right now.

Lazy? Maybe. Bad? Not at all.

Lazy parenting is when you don't feed your kids because you're too engrossed in whatever you're doing. When your house is squalid and the kids live in shite because it's something you do regularly.

Relax. The world has not ended because your OH decided to have a lazy day.

MommieMommyMom · 14/02/2017 17:50

I'm sitting here in my messy living room wondering where you all live because I didn't notice the weather getting better and there's no chance in heaven of me taking my kids to the park Confused

Beachedwh4le · 14/02/2017 17:55

No one died. Pick your battles

NormaSmuff · 14/02/2017 17:56

was he on mn?

i think you are being far too controlling.

the children are both your responsibility. you went to work you dont get to order the house about - well obviously you do.

OneWithTheForce · 14/02/2017 17:57

Missed the opportunity for a great day at the park and playing with dad.

How long do you normally spend at the park? Confused

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