'Lads holiday 8 weeks after giving birth'

[Beesandbutterflies327]

My boyfriend wants to go away with his mates to a festival (getting wasted and drugged up in a field😡) 6/7 weeks after I've given birth to my (he has another child aged 1) first child, he seems to think this is his right and I could go away but I've 'chosen' to breastfeed therefore it's my fault that I can't go out without the baby, I feel like he's acting like a man with no responsibilities as he says it's my job to look after the baby during the days and the nights and I feel like he's just going to come and help at the easy parts then tell me it's easy and why am I complaining, he chose to have this baby with me so why do I feel like all the responsibility is on me and he can go out doing what ever he likes, when I speak to him about it then he says he can do what he wants and I can't tell him what to do (I never have and never would) he's almost 30 but acting like a 20 year old AIBU should I just let him go? I just feel like when you have kids you have family holidays until your kids are older, we really couldn't afford 2/3 different holidays a year

Fishy smells.

DoloresTheRunawayTrain:

If my DH wanted to go to a festival for a few days about 6/7 weeks after having a newborn I really wouldn't mind but that's because he's brilliant and a fantastic dad. We never stop each other doing anything.

However - in your situation it's clear that your DP just doesn't give a crap and I think this is setting the precedent for how your relationship is going to be.

And I can't believe what you said about his Ex trapping men with babies because she has two children by two different men seeing as your DP has two children by two different women only 2 years apart.

As another poster said, you'll be the next psycho ex who trapped him that he'll be morning about to the next woman he makes baby number 3 with.

See him for what he is OP because he isn't a good man, he definitely isn't a good partner and he isn't a good father.

Its funny how all these poor men have psycho ex's.....

There was a festival my DP wanted to go to just before I was due. He chose not to go but I would have let him go anyway. My main issue with your post isn't the festival, it's his attitude towards parenting. It sounds like he's going to be useless and leave you to do everything.

@Writerwannabe83 and @Hellmouth are right - it's not the festival specifically that's the problem - that is just a major symptom of his overall attitude towards parenting and towards supporting you, OP.

I don't know if you are still reading this - but if you are, I hope you can take this one message from this - you deserve FAR better treatment than your partner is planning to give you.