Do not to drip feed dh and I don't have a close relationship with bil and sil.
We have fundamentally different views of parenting and there was some weirdness around gift giving on our dds bday and Christmas last year.
Not heard from them since Christmas Day again not unusual we generally hear from them at birthdays and Christmas and if we bump into each other at inlaws it's smiling nodding and being polite.
To try and formulate a bond between our dd and dn we've facilitated a few sleepovers at ours and tbh it was bloody awful dn is spiteful, destructive and generally a pain so after the last one we (dh and I) said no more.
Had text today from bil saying "dn would love to come yours to see dds room again as she had lots of fun last time" no hi how are u nothing
Dn is 4.5 and dd is 2.5 so they're not close in age last time she was here she pulled dds pigtails and made her cry, stamped on and broke a toy and ripped up the toy money from dds till. Dh was cooking and I was playing with them but she'd done all of them before I could stop her and then smirked at me after.
Aibu to ignore his text