Wedding Gift, Afternoon Tea and Skegness.

[HairsprayBabe]

Posting for traffic.

DP's best mate is getting married.

They asked for money in the card as they wanted to spend it on the honeymoon. We have just found out honeymoon is to be in Skegness.

We thought it would be lovely to get them a voucher for something they can do whilst there rather than just cash as it seems so impersonal. So I thought they would love something like a champagne afternoon tea DP agrees.

I cannot find anywhere in Skegness that provides this, I have spent hours googling and all I am getting is lots of results for Lincoln.

AIBU to think that there must be somewhere nice in Skegness for afternoon tea and the MN can help me find it!?

[KoalaDownUnder]

Anyone who thinks it's 'arrogant' or 'controlling' for the giver to choose the gift has got it back to front, frankly.

Bizarre.

[EmeraldScorn]

I've never been in Skegness so this may not be helpful at all but Valerie Patisserie serve "Afternoon Tea" and you can purchase the voucher online and in store; I'm sure Google could tell you if there's a VP in Skegness.

My boyfriend's mum bought me the very same for Christmas; I don't drink tea or coffee but I accepted the gift with gratitude and then it dawned on me that she was planning on accompanying me on the "Afternoon Tea" outing - It was a very awkward experience but I suppose it would be nice in good company and if it's the type of thing you're into.

[Trifleorbust]

You sound like a total snob. They smoke?? They gamble?? It's not crack in the kids' Christmas stockings, is it?

Jesus, if you dislike them leave them alone.

[skerrywind]

She can always sell the afternoon tea voucher on ebay.

I would.

[BarbaraofSeville]

Patisserie Valerie is the McDonald's of Afternoon Tea and the closest one is in Lincoln anyway.

[TheNiffler]

Genuinely snorted at the thought of VP in Skegness.

[elodie2000]

This thread has made me realise why I more often than not hate receiving gifts!
The giver buys something THEY like or think I SHOULD like or need. What I WOULD like is often very different. The very worst present is a meal out at a place chosen by someone else.

I imagine you have x amount to spend on this couple. if you buy them something they don't really want you will be the one wasting your money. At least ask them if they would use an afternoon tea voucher...

[PyongyangKipperbang]

I agree that it would be better all round to give them nothing.

I cannot get over the fact that a person would sit in judgement over someone else to the point of refusing to give them the gift they have stated they would prefer.

[BakeOffBiscuits]

I agreed oth you Pyong

Can you imagine the thread on here

"AIBU to be pissed off? We asked if people could contribute some money for a wedding gift but we've ending up with 15 afternoon tea vouchers, for a hotel 6 miles outside Skegness"

[Leanin15yearsmaybe]

May I just add that I am currently in Butlins in Skegness!! And it not all bad! I live in Lincs now and come here quite a bit.....and despite the fact I'm nipping out for a cig in a mo, and paid for a half term break here with Tesco points, im eating stinky cheeses and quaffing expensive champagne as I'm actually vair posh!! and sobbing on the inside at the awful neighbours , fuck it I'll smoke out the window 😭

Ok so we only come for the swimming. Shoot me now. I need to start an AIBU asking if I can leave babies alone to go and score either hard liquor or drugs to get me through this!

[BakeOffBiscuits]

Do they do Afternoon Tea at Butlins Leanin?



Enjoy your holiday!

[Leanin15yearsmaybe]

Nope! Although there is an Italian restaurant where I'm sure you could order a cup of tea and slice of cake!! Just bung em your Tesco vouchers OP

[Bovneydazzlers]

Butlins is the best thing about Skeggy!
If they are not staying there, then I'd recommend day pass there, including premium restaurant pass (I think the premium restaurant is about £20 per head).

The spa is also genuinely nice there, I think a 2 hour pass there was about £15-£20.
(I went in tots week so basically had the whole spa pool to myself which probably helped, hen do weekend time probably busier!)

[BadLad]

This is probably the Hyacinthiest thread I've ever seen.

I love the way that the "we won't be giving cash as it seems so impersonal" in the first post was actually "we won't give cash because we disapprove of their lifestyle".

It's a great candidate for a Daily Mail appearance.

[Venusflytwat]

The expansion team at Pat Val are currently bursting into flame at the thought of opening up in Skegness 😂

This also made me laugh:
"coffee bean in skeg across from wilkos"

Romance is truly not dead.

[LiviaDrusillaAugusta]

'Fritter away'? You don't sound like you like them very much - why not just not bother getting them a gift?

[mygrandchildrenrock]

Mummyrowland your post is so right. We holiday in Mablethorpe, just up the coast from Skegness and like most small English seaside towns it has it's good points and not so good. Great for families though with miles of clean European blue flag beaches (Hmm I suppose they'll go soon!) and the wonderful Lady B's cupcakery!
I don't mind keeping the pleasures of the East Coast quiet, after all we don't want too many people there!

[sum1killthepawpatrollers]

twat so what if its at the coffee bean in skeggy or a posh restaurant in maui? as long as its with the person you love doing something you enjoy, thats all the romance some want. splashing lots of cash or going to exotic places does not mean it will be more romantic

[everybodysang]

Fucking hell there's a lot of aggression on here. OP is trying to do something nice. And a present is not obligatory.

And a LOT of reverse snobbery too.

[jeanettleyhart]

Did you find anywhere decent? I'm there in March for a hen do & want to find somewhere, but really struggling. Laurel's don't do it out of season. Found Best Western, but that's about it. If you find any good ones, please do share :)

[PyongyangKipperbang]

I disagree that the OP is trying to do a nice thing.

She is trying to look like she is doing a nice thing, while sitting in judgement about how these people spend their money and making sure that they cant do that as she doesnt approve.

[HappyJanuary]

Well she could refuse to buy a present since they're not compulsory, or buy them something thoughtless.

But instead she's decided not to give money because, although she loves these friends, they have form for using gift money to buy cigarettes and regretting it later.

She's then chosen a gift they've previously said they'd enjoy, and taken the trouble to post here for advice about it.

Personally I'd have given cash because it's easy and requires no effort from me, so she's already a kinder friend than me.

[Leanin15yearsmaybe]

Bovney where is the spa here??? Like a proper spa??? This is not advertised!!! I need this!!

[Leanin15yearsmaybe]

And tbf the OP asked for suggestions in Skegness for afternoon tea...not for judgement on her choice of gift!

[BrianCoxWithBellsOn]

The Spa is near where you hire the big bike things from IIRC. I wanted to do the mum/daughter package but my evil DD and SDD refused to be seen dead with me and I didn't want to go alone.

This August, however, I'm in there. DD isn't coming (a 13year old that didn't like Butlins!) So it's me, OH, my DS and his DD and DS. I plan to dump the lot of them and Spa it up.

I am quite interested now to venture off site up the coast, but OH is a creature of habit and we are only there for 4 days, so probably won't get a chance to explore.