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Wedding Gift, Afternoon Tea and Skegness.

164 replies

HairsprayBabe · 09/02/2017 13:20

Posting for traffic.

DP's best mate is getting married.

They asked for money in the card as they wanted to spend it on the honeymoon. We have just found out honeymoon is to be in Skegness.

We thought it would be lovely to get them a voucher for something they can do whilst there rather than just cash as it seems so impersonal. So I thought they would love something like a champagne afternoon tea DP agrees.

I cannot find anywhere in Skegness that provides this, I have spent hours googling and all I am getting is lots of results for Lincoln.

AIBU to think that there must be somewhere nice in Skegness for afternoon tea and the MN can help me find it!?

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aintnobodygottimefodat · 09/02/2017 18:19

Oh ffs, the OP is hardly being controlling by wanting to give a gift of afternoon tea Hmm

She's not obligated to give anything at all.

It is a nice gesture OP, sorry I cannot recommend anywhere but best of luck. I'm sure they will appreciate whatever you choose to gift.

PickledCauliflower · 09/02/2017 18:21

When I see all that bread, and then cake. I just imagine the bloat and tummy cramps that I will get afterwards 😬
Personally, if friends ask for cash as a wedding gift, that's what I give them.
They will still smoke and gamble - even with the afternoon tea..

toffeeboffin · 09/02/2017 18:28

Another good point raised by Cauliflower (coincidentally makes a good low carb rice)

Will they actually enjoy afternoon tea?

Mrsemcgregor · 09/02/2017 18:28

Why is everyone assuming that the bride and groom would hate an afternoon tea? Because the OP suggested they are bad with cash and spend it on fags? Surely you are not assuming they won't like an afternoon tea based on that? Who is the snob now?

The OP knows her friends and is buying them something alternative that she believes they will enjoy.

toffeeboffin · 09/02/2017 18:30

Is Skegness in Scotland?

Blatherskite · 09/02/2017 18:35

It's in Lincolnshire toffeeboffin

PickledCauliflower · 09/02/2017 18:45

Not assuming folk who smoke etc, don't like afternoon tea - just that not everyone enjoys them.

If the gift giver knows that's what they like, then that's great.

HappyJanuary · 09/02/2017 18:46

Put together a Skegness survival pack. Giant bag of 2p for the arcade, bottle of champagne to celebrate their marriage, sturdy umbrella. I love the place and go often but you won't find anywhere that does a smart afternoon tea.

RiversrunWoodville · 09/02/2017 18:55

Try the Southview Park Hotel (the hotel is lovely it has a caravan attached but the hotel is gorgeous) have stayed a few years running in October when over on business (live in NI) so not sure if they do afternoon tea though so if not I apologise. Their Orangery restaurant isn't bad either although it's on the outskirts of Skeggy not town centre. Will they have the car with them op? I could recommend a fab restaurant you could get them vouchers or an evening meal in a few miles outside Skeggy that's further out (Friskney) but the food is out of this world and the staff and owner lovely if you wanted something different

missbishi · 09/02/2017 19:09

Happy, a giant bag of 2p's is the greatest gift you could ever give anyone going to Skeggy!

mygrandchildrenrock · 09/02/2017 19:15

Lady B's cupcakery is in mablethorpe, just up the coast from Skegness. They are number 1 on trip advisor for afternoon tea in Lincolnshire not sure they do champagne though! Branston Hall hotel and Washingborough Hall hotel definitely do champagne afternoon tea but are nearer Lincoln and a bit of a drive from Skegness. I think it sounds like a lovely present.

sum1killthepawpatrollers · 09/02/2017 19:16

HappyJanuary you will from this season on.
one of the places i said has started doing them about 2 week ago now

TheNiffler · 09/02/2017 19:19

It's a lovely idea. If they're not good with money, it's actually really thoughtful to get them something they will remember and enjoy. It really isn't controlling at all.

Skegness is fab, if that's the sort of thing you like. Great fun, fantastic for people watching, and if you want a proper, old fashioned Kiss Me Quick hat, bucket and spade, bingo and slot machines holiday on not a lot of money, it's perfect.

Can you tell I don't live that far from there, and have a sneaking fondness for the place? Grin

NotMeNoNo · 09/02/2017 19:25

Day pass for Butlins!

SenseiWoo · 09/02/2017 19:28

Will they have a car? If so, then have a look at:
The Elm Tree, Hundleby which has glowing reviews online (website here), or

The Old Hall Sausthorpe. I have been there and can tell you the afternoon tea is absolutely fantastic. Nice gardens, too.

There will be other options: try looking for something around Spilsby, or Mablethorpe, rather than Skegness itself.

tiredofhavingtothinkofnewnames · 09/02/2017 19:28

Afternoon tea- are they pensioners?

I couldn't think of anything worse.

I get to go to lots of afternoon teas- other that the ritz carlton in singapore (which is a experience!) they are all total rubbish

BikeRunSki · 09/02/2017 19:34

Are you sure they are going to Skegness? It's a cheap & cheerful family holiday tour destination, and often the butt of sarcasm and jokes. Are you sure they're not joking?

NotMeNoNo · 09/02/2017 19:34

I just checked, there really is such a thing as a butlins day voucher. I know Skegness, it's really not an afternoon tea kind of place. Well there may well be frilly-curtained ye olde copper kettle type tea shops but not the Ritz.

sonyaya · 09/02/2017 19:35

They had asked for cash in the Engagement invite to help towards wedding costs.

Asking for cash in an engagement party invitation? Is that a thing now?

annandale · 09/02/2017 19:35

Hope I'm not alone in really wanting to go to Skegness now.

Leanin15yearsmaybe · 09/02/2017 19:36

The golf club does a nice afternoon tea

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HairsprayBabe · 09/02/2017 19:38

Sorry was doing dinner etc.

I know they would like afternoon tea, I went with her a few years ago when I won it as a prize. She loved it and is always lamenting they never have the cash to go, or do other nice things so I know they would like this.

I am not being snobby or snooty, I just dont want them to waste cash and regret it later which they have before.

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expatinscotland · 09/02/2017 19:41

'Asking for cash in an engagement party invitation? Is that a thing now?'

Apparently, any event is now an opportunity to tout for money for some. But it's what I wwwaaaaannnntt! Everyone is just going to give me tat if I don't dictate to them to hand over cash! I have all I need so give me wonga.

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HairsprayBabe · 09/02/2017 19:44

Also we are equally as poor as the couple in terms of cash coming in so that was another lovely assumption Hmm

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RiversrunWoodville · 09/02/2017 19:46

How about Sibsey trader windmill before you come to Boston? They have a tearoom in the windmill but are happy to take on bespoke bookings so would probably create a romantic afternoon tea for you as a honeymoon gift? It's a lovely windmill with a quaint wee tearoom reminds me of baby jake of you have dc but the people that ran it were lovely

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