Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Wedding Gift, Afternoon Tea and Skegness.

164 replies

HairsprayBabe · 09/02/2017 13:20

Posting for traffic.

DP's best mate is getting married.

They asked for money in the card as they wanted to spend it on the honeymoon. We have just found out honeymoon is to be in Skegness.

We thought it would be lovely to get them a voucher for something they can do whilst there rather than just cash as it seems so impersonal. So I thought they would love something like a champagne afternoon tea DP agrees.

I cannot find anywhere in Skegness that provides this, I have spent hours googling and all I am getting is lots of results for Lincoln.

AIBU to think that there must be somewhere nice in Skegness for afternoon tea and the MN can help me find it!?

OP posts:
Frillyhorseyknickers · 09/02/2017 19:47

If they like Skegness, they're not likely to like afternoon tea - the two hardly go hand in hand! Southview is as good as you'll get nearby - not sure whether they do afternoon tea though. Lincoln is a good hours drive away. Have you tried Gunby Hall nearby for a day trip if they like that kind of thing?

tiredofhavingtothinkofnewnames · 09/02/2017 19:48

You are trying to control their honeymoon

If you want to give a voucher then give it for something at home.

Mummyrowland · 09/02/2017 19:49

I don't know if they do a champagne afternoon tea but there is a place called the view which has amazing food and amazing cakes defiantly worth a look there

Original poster
HairsprayBabe · 09/02/2017 19:50

Did either of you read my last two posts?

They would like it, they are often complaining they dont have the cash to do nice things, such as afternoon tea.

Also liking Skegness dosnt stop you liking afternoon tea Hmm

OP posts:
Crunchymum · 09/02/2017 19:54

How long is the honeymoon for?

Why would you not be giving cash to "this couple"

user892 · 09/02/2017 19:54

If you find somewhere nice that does it, but you can't see gift vouchers for sale online, give them a ring / email and ask them if they can make one up for you.

Mummyrowland · 09/02/2017 19:55

I like skegness ! In fact I have a caravan at butlins! Love going there and love champagne afternoon teas too!

I would Def google the view at skegness and see what they can offer. Their cakes are amazing! !!

user892 · 09/02/2017 19:55

e.g. Gift voucher for champagne afternoon tea for two at suchandsuch

Original poster
HairsprayBabe · 09/02/2017 19:58

Crunchy rtft and you will see.

Honeymoon is 10 days long.

OP posts:
Original poster
HairsprayBabe · 09/02/2017 20:05

Thank you for all the helpful suggestions, the cakes at "The View" look amazing so I will give them a call tomorrow.

OP posts:
BrianCoxWithBellsOn · 09/02/2017 20:07

I love the belief that liking Skegness means you're too uncouth for afternoon tea! Grin

OP, I was going to suggest a day pass to Butlins but see someone has already suggested it.

I had my fist ever trip to Skeggy last year, to Butlins. It's a long way to go, when you live half an hour from Blackpool, to find a more run-down version of Blackpool. Butlins was great though, I've only been to Haven and Park Dean before, on similar holidays (have been elsewhere on no-kids holidays).

Is the seal sanctuary there? Do they like wild life? Could you sponsor a seal for them that they could visit*

*please place all votes for "Crappest Ever Suggestion" in the box

WetsTheFinger · 09/02/2017 20:08

Skegness! She needs to LTB.

MirriVan · 09/02/2017 20:25

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PickledCauliflower · 09/02/2017 20:26

Is not that they are uncouth.

I think most people are suggesting that they may not like it as a gift, as they asked for cash.

Waltermittythesequel · 09/02/2017 21:09

Afternoon tea is a shit wedding present for a best friend, frankly. And one they don't want. Because they want money. And you've decided they shouldn't have money...

expatinscotland · 09/02/2017 21:16

The OP said they do want it, Walter.

Waltermittythesequel · 09/02/2017 21:18

No, she said she knows they will like it because the bride enjoyed one once.

And, as I said, even if it's tea with your queen, it's sandwiches and some fizz as a present for a best friend! Bit shit really.

expatinscotland · 09/02/2017 21:24

'it's sandwiches and some fizz as a present for a best friend! Bit shit really.'

I'd like that. It's not 'shit' to everyone. And I sure as fuck wouldn't try to dictate to my best friend that she needs to hand over cash as the only acceptable gift.

Waltermittythesequel · 09/02/2017 21:27

No, I wouldn't either.

But if I was asked for cash, I wouldn't arrogantly dismiss it in favour of something I approved of.

Mummyrowland · 09/02/2017 21:34

I would have loved it from anyone for my wedding so would my husband!

Alconleigh · 09/02/2017 21:58

I'd be delighted with afternoon tea as a present!

I'd not be giving cash either. Can't get my head round giving cash as a gift to a peer. A teen in the family, maybe, but not to an equal.

Frillyhorseyknickers · 09/02/2017 22:11

Also liking Skegness dosnt stop you liking afternoon tea hmm

Well, reading between the lines here - someone who chose to spend 10day honeymoon in Skegvegas and asked their guests for cold hard cash as wedding presents, isn't exactly at home with a crustless cucumber sandwich and a scone, IMO.

Skegness is a complete shithole. My clients' ancestors created the place, they still own a few hundred acres there and even they agree it's a shithole. If I were you I'd buy them a night at the Petwood in woodall Spa so they can have a short break away from the shit-ness of Skeg. Soz.

sonyaya · 09/02/2017 22:21

Gift giving is always optional. If someone is kind enough to give me a gift I cannot imagine being ungrateful enough to complain that they didn't get me something else.

sonyaya · 09/02/2017 22:21

Also I fucking love afternoon tea.

Mummyrowland · 09/02/2017 23:15

Frillyhorseyknickers

Some people love Skegness others hate it! Your opinion isn't the bee all and end all - neither is mine. Respect that the world is a hugely different place and people are so diverse!!! I was born and lived in ascot and still love my holidays in Skegness with the amazing beaches Gibraltar point and so much for the kids to do! It's not all 2p arcades and chavtastic places. Yes there are some areas like that but hey it's a seaside town!!!! Investment is going in and the town is on the up. We have seen so many changes in the 4 years we have had a van there so just respect some people like it!

Swipe left for the next trending thread