Wedding Gift, Afternoon Tea and Skegness.

[HairsprayBabe]

Posting for traffic.

DP's best mate is getting married.

They asked for money in the card as they wanted to spend it on the honeymoon. We have just found out honeymoon is to be in Skegness.

We thought it would be lovely to get them a voucher for something they can do whilst there rather than just cash as it seems so impersonal. So I thought they would love something like a champagne afternoon tea DP agrees.

I cannot find anywhere in Skegness that provides this, I have spent hours googling and all I am getting is lots of results for Lincoln.

AIBU to think that there must be somewhere nice in Skegness for afternoon tea and the MN can help me find it!?

[HookandSwan]

hmm that's the only place I can think off. I usually go to steels for the fish and chips as that's what it's more known for. Sorry I couldn't help more

[HairsprayBabe]

I did see the crown but I couldn't work out how I would be able to book it.

Yes I know it isn't the most glam choice for a honeymoon! But it's not like I picked it

Their honeymoon their rulz hun etc.

[expatinscotland]

I'd give them restaurant vouchers. Hate this 'gimme money' trend. It's starting to spread even to kids birthdays. Everything's an occasion to tout for cash.

[EustaceClarenceScrubb]

We won't be giving cash to this particular couple.

I think it is the way you phrased that, it is coming across as slightly school teachery, as if you don't object to giving cash per se but you can't trust them in particular with actual cash. Like they are addicts of some sort and they will blow it all on drugs or something.

[BarbaraofSeville]

I really don't understand the difference between just giving them cash and giving them a voucher for a specific purpose of your choosing . You seem to be deliberately making extra work for yourself in order to prove a point.

Unless you think the 'Skegness' thing is a ruse to get a big pile of money for nefarious purposes. After all it is a rather 'cheap and cheerful' place and you would only be able to spend so much money when honeymooning there.

[HairsprayBabe]

It isn't your business why, and this about that. We aren't giving them cash. I don't know why you care when all I asked for was a recommendation.

We love this couple dearly but we don't want to give them money, I don't see what is wrong with that.

[KinkyAfro]

Might help if you say why you won't give them money though instead of getting snarky with anyone who asked. After all you started this thread, people are going to ask

[HairsprayBabe]

Couple have had money problems in the past, gambling, massive debt and are both heavy smokers.

I would rather give them something they can enjoy on their honeymoon than give them cash that they will fritter away. We know they have done it before with birthday money and such. They use any occasion to tout for cash (engagement party, hen do, stag do, baby shower, bridal shower) and I am fed up with seeing them spend money we have given them on nothingness.

Once I saw them open a card (Engagement Party) take the cash out dump the card on the side and go directly to the shop across the road and buy fags. They had asked for cash in the Engagement invite to help towards wedding costs.

This is my partners childhood best friend and I want to give them something they will enjoy on their honeymoon.

I do not care about how they spend their own money but I don't want to gift them cash and then see it wasted. I really did not want to make it about this I just want a recommendation for somewhere nice in Skeggy.

[HairsprayBabe]

They are kind, funny warm people, they just have a poor attitude to cash gifts. No-one is perfect and we largely overlook this because we like them in other ways.

[Pukepukepuke]

Crown hotel is gorgeous. Judge away. I love judgey people. I would do the same.

[GrannyGoggles]

Well, if she's on MN she may now be a former friend

[camelfinger]

What about giving them an afternoon tea voucher in their home town instead? I can't imagine there being anywhere suitable in Skeg.

[girlelephant]

Just wanted to say if you don't have any luck with the hotel recommended above could you book them a local afternoon tea? They could perhaps use it between the wedding and honeymoon. We travelled on honeymoon 2 days after getting married but we made plans for a lovely lunch the day after the wedding to celebrate

[Wandastartup]

Grange and Links-
www.grangeandlinkshotel.co.uk/dining.html

[MyOtherNameIsTaken]

I have never regarded Skeggy as a honeymoon destination!

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[BarbaraofSeville]

Well fair enough, but I'm not sure that they will agree that some overpriced sandwiches, cakes and fizzy wine is a better use of money than a bag of chips and a couple of hours in the arcades. If you don't appreciate the ambience and surroundings, afternoon tea looks like a shocking waste of money.

People like different things. What is frittering on nothingness to you might be a lovely afternoon out to someone else. If they are the kind of people to like Skegness, they may not feel comfortable in a posh hotel anyway.

I once bought BIL and SIL a Toby Carvery gift card for Christmas because I knew that's what they liked and that they couldn't always afford to go. They loved it.

[Jins]

The vine hotel wasn't bad. Afternoon tea at weekends. No idea if it's any good as I've never had afternoon tea anywhere.

[EustaceClarenceScrubb]

It isn't your business why, and this about that. We aren't giving them cash. I don't know why you care when all I asked for was a recommendation.

But you did say in your OP that you did not want to give cash as it seemed impersonal. This then led others to wonder why, if the couple had asked for it. You sound really defensive and snitty, especially as you are asking for people to help you!

[GreatFuckability]

The thought of afternoon tea leaves me cold.

[KoalaDownUnder]

This then led others to wonder why, if the couple had asked for it.

Because you don't ask people to give you a specific gift. That's not how gifts work.

What they asked the OP for is therefore irrelevant.

[foodtime]

You seem very keen to prove a point OP. Very controlling.

Just give them what they wanted. It's a complete waste of money to buy them something they don't want because you have decide what is good for them.

Get over yourself.

[BarbaraofSeville]

It is perfectly acceptable to have a gift list for weddings, and it is said to be not the done thing to go to weddings without a gift.

However it seems that some people seem to think they have a better idea than the bride and groom as to what should feature on said gift list.

They could ask for all manner of overpriced useless friperies from John Lewis but money to spend on things they actually enjoy is rude, unless they are from one of the many cultures where this is totally the norm.

If you are Indian, Greek or Irish you can have useful cash, but if you are British, you have to put up with photo frames and afternoon tea vouchers, whether you want them or not, because it is considered less rude to give someone something they don't want than it is to be honest and just ask for cash to spend on a honeymoon.

[Jins]

They can always eBay the vouchers.

[Rachel0Greep]

EastMidsMummy
Have you been to Skegness?? Champagne afternoon tea?? More like Barcadi Breezer and a custard cream.

This made me
I have never been to Skegness, but now I want to go!

[NootNoot]

AIBU to think that there's somewhere nice for Champagne Tea in Skegness- YES!!!!!

Bless them..it's SKegVegas for a reason....there's a lovely place in Tattershall called "Petwood" could drive over via Horncastle would take 20-25mins....or Branston Hall in Washingborough...but there's nowhere particulary nice in Skegness. It's nice for a walk on the prom though. There's some really nice places to eat in Boston(yes really!) but again not for a Champagne/Afternoon tea.

Hope they have a lovely time.