Wedding Gift, Afternoon Tea and Skegness.

[HairsprayBabe]

Posting for traffic.

DP's best mate is getting married.

They asked for money in the card as they wanted to spend it on the honeymoon. We have just found out honeymoon is to be in Skegness.

We thought it would be lovely to get them a voucher for something they can do whilst there rather than just cash as it seems so impersonal. So I thought they would love something like a champagne afternoon tea DP agrees.

I cannot find anywhere in Skegness that provides this, I have spent hours googling and all I am getting is lots of results for Lincoln.

AIBU to think that there must be somewhere nice in Skegness for afternoon tea and the MN can help me find it!?

[Blatherskite]

Afternoon tea in Skeggy will be a mug of builders tea and a tub of broken biscuits

Growing up, Skegness was the closest 'seaside' we could get to and a popular day out when we started passing driving tests. Glamorous it ain't.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

So you have decided that they cant be trusted to spend their money in a way you approve of so you are giving them a gift that they have not asked for and may not want?

I think that you need to check the definition of "friend" because I certainly dont treat my friends that way.

Do them a favour and dont bother going to wedding, then they can spend the money they have saved on anything they damn well please.

[expatinscotland]

I wouldn't give them money, either.

[Waltermittythesequel]

How arrogant of you to decide that they're not allowed to have cash, because you don't approve of how they might, perhaps, possibly spend it.

Also, is there really any need to be such an insufferable cow to people responding to your thread?

[BakeOffBiscuits]

I too thought the thread title sounded like a novel.

I hate Afternoon Tea, far too many carbs for my liking. Can't you get a voucher for a restaurant or fish and chip shop

[Emmageddon]

Just get them a bottle of champagne, and a nice card.

Skegness is a seaside resort, it's not an afternoon tea kind of place.

[statetrooperstacey]

I've been to Skegness many times, I am smirking now thinking of a nice afternoon tea . I would like to add to the 'builders tea and broken biscuits' and a' breezier and custard cream' , 'jaeger bomb and a polystyrene tub of cockles'.
It IS a nice place but I don't think Betty's will be opening up a branch any time soon,.

[kitXi]

I'm another one who would be pissed off if I was given a voucher for afternoon tea. Especially if it was from a lifelong friend, who you should be able to trust to actually give you something you like. It's not even as if you've said they've always wanted to go for afternoon tea and can't afford it, it's that they've asked for cash and you don't approve of what they spend their money on. But that's just it, once you've given it to them it's theirs, they could spend it on scratchcards and fags if they wanted.
I'd rather have nothing as a gift than afternoon fecking tea.

[TheNaze73]

Get them a family size bag of Amber Leaf & a Paddy Power voucher

[expatinscotland]

But it's not grabby and arrogant to hit people up for cash at every turn?

[AQuietMind]

Did that just auto link Paddy Power?

[rjay123]

Their honeymoon their rulz hun etc.

Apart from the rulz don't apply to you?

[Jins]

Some people hate giving money and think it's grabby. I don't mind. Prefer it actually.

There's got to be some middle ground between cash and afternoon tea though surely? I'd not ask for cash but I'd hate an afternoon tea voucher and would either sell it on or let it expire. Bottle of champagne sounds better to me really

[derxa]

I'd rather have a packet of fags.

[Chathamhouserules]

I bought someone a special asparagus cooker for a wedding present. I thought that was a grand waste of money but I bought it anyway because that's what they asked for and I couldn't be bothered thinking of anything else. It's definitely up to you what you buy though.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Give them cash and stfu. You are being petty about the whole cash thing and making your life harder than it has to be.

[expatinscotland]

No one is obligated to hand over cash to another person and 'stfu' .

[kitXi]

Of course nobody is obligated to expat, and I agree it is a wee bit cheeky to request cash. But I don't understand why anyone would buy someone something that they are pretty sure won't be their cup of tea, just because that's what they want to buy? Surely that's just as cheeky?

[OnHold]

What a snotty snobby thread.

[expatinscotland]

True, kit, hence why I think a bottle of fizz or restaurant vouchers to some place she knows they like to eat would serve rather than afternoon tea.

[toffeeboffin]

She doesn't want to give the poor couple cash, they'll spend it on Skegness skunk

[RhiWrites]

Sorted then. Voucher for afternoon skunk in a Skegness hash palace.

[PickledCauliflower]

Will they definitely enjoy an afternoon tea? I know many people love them, but it's not for me I have to say.
Cake and sandwiches is a bit too carby for me..

[expatinscotland]

Dear god, what is with all these faddy eaters on MN?!

[Californiasoul]

OP, they asked for cash, give them cash. You sound awful, controlling and stuck up your own arse. If they want to spend money on fags, booze, gambling, whatever, then it's up to them.