To potentially get our postman fired

[Bearsinmotion]

DP is a camera geek. On the weekend he bought a camera trap for catching wildlife in the garden. He wanted to test it out so set it up by the front door so he could test it by the kids going in and out. It's been there since Sunday.

So this evening he had a look at the footage with DD(5). There's us, there's the cat, there's the postman. Oh look, there's the postman having a piss against our garden wall .

Our door is round the side of the house, so out of sight from the road. There's the door, the path next to the house, a small patch of grass and the neighbours wall. He literally posted a letter, turned round, knob out, pissed all over the grass and wall. Knob away, off to post more letters, obviously without washing his hands.

It was done so casually it's hard to believe he's not done it before. On the plus side, he posted our letters first so that won't be covered in piss . But seriously, who would do that?!

Thing is, we're in a village where everyone knows each other, and he's been the postie for years. But IANBU to report him and potentially get him sacked am I?! I have a slight pricking of my conscience if he did lose his job, but surely that's his problem, not mine?!

Op comes across, especially in her opening post, as quite spiteful, the reporting sounds very malicious on her part, like shes getting a rise out of it. Reporting for that minor incident is just nasty. Even if you caught him, you would say, would you mind not doing that here please, find a bush or a tree on your walk.

There is the danger that if the op has a spot in her garden that isn't overlooked that it could be his regular loo though.
She has said about 100 times that she isn't going to report him. I would just have a nice chat myself and say it's a bit embarrassing but our wildlife cam caught you weeing on our wall. Could you not do that? You're welcome to use the loo if we're in and I'm sure the other neighbours wouldn't mind either. Problem solved. He'll be so embarrassed by the fact he's been filmed pissing he'd never go in anyones garden again!

That is what you don't want, and for it to be a posties regular loo stop. Next thing you know, there will be a succession of posties taking a on Bears land.

Personally I would confront him, just leave it, and if the wildlife cam sees it again, than I would.

Just tell him FFS. Royal Mail is pretty grim to work for since it got privatised. You could ruin his life if he got sacked. He wouldn't even get unemployment benefit. They get timed to within an inch of their lives now. He might not even have had time for a wee. When I worked for RM, the big boss used to time people going for a wee in the sorting office. There was loads of bullying.

I mean I could not confront him, noway, just accept it as a one off, and if you catch him again, then I would discreetly mention it.

Watching a weekends worth of video footage from a camera pointed at your front door sounds like a dull evening.

Maybe you could just let the postman know about your wildlife cam and that you are thinking of setting up a live stream (excuse the pun) so people can enjoy watching the comings and going of the wildlife in your garden. Jokingly tell him he might even be on it? If that doesn't put him off nothing will!

a live stream

Ask him to go round the back and piss on your compost heap. Does wonders for the composting process!

a live stream

And how do female posties manage their shift without pissing in gardens eh? Oh yes with a little self control.

I would report. It's disgusting and disrespectful. If he's desperate for an al fresco piss he should at least have the decency to do it in an alleyway!

My husband is a courier and would never piss in someone's garden. He finds a garage or McDonald's and goes there.

I hope I never meet some of you squeamish people when I'm out for a run! OK, usually in fields rather than private gardens but sometimes it's unavoidable.

I would leave note for him IIWU. Reporting is OTT

"usually in fields rather than private gardens"

So have you actually ever weed in someone's garden?

Watching a weekends worth of video footage from a camera pointed at your front door sounds like a dull evening.

I should say, it only operates when triggered, so less than 10 minutes a day. But a very, very dull ten minutes .

YABU You need to have visible notices saying you are recording and CCTV is in use. He was probably desperate.

It's only a bit of wee wee though - I couldn't get worked up over this. The chances of it happening again at your house are pretty rare - unless uou think he's like a cat and returns to the same spot?

I also liked the when you said about him not washing his hands in your OP. Lolz.

This.....

"So have you actually ever weed in someone's garden?"

No. The usually refers to 'in fields' rather than 'not in someone's garden'. I have also used hedges and down farm tracks but usually in a field. Never in a garden. Perhaps I need a Venn diagram.....

Try running 14 miles without a wee-stop somewhere.

However does it really make a difference - the people who are horrified are probably horrified by alfresco weeing full stop.

That would 'piss' me off, haha. I would probably stick a note on the wall saying something like, 'whoever is pissing on our wall, please stop, it stinks.' He will see it and never do it again

No, I don't need a diagram, I thought that you meant that you hadn't chosen to use someone's garden to wee in, just clarifying.

When I've been out with the dog I know that people have popped into fields & had a wee behind a hedge & that doesn't bother me.

But somehow someone's garden seem different & I don't know why.

I'd tell him, if you report him he could be done for indecent exposure.

And how do female posties manage their shift without pissing in gardens eh?

Who says they do? There might be discreet lady wee-wees in every clump of begonias sheltered from the hurly-burly of public gaze.

Or perhaps thy wear industrial capacity Tena Lady.

Yes a note would be best, no need to report him. And maybe leave a roll of dog poo bags and some hand gel by your front door in case he needs a shite next time...