Dp kicked out cat

[Anothernamechange5]

Name changed. Massively identifying.

So, I had a cat before we got together. Now 7 years later, living together with a dc.

Cat is quite annoying in a cat way (around your legs for food etc) which is a bit of a pain but manageable. But, he's started being sick a lot after food which dp is sick of cleaning up (whoever spots it cleans it so I clean it up too) and of course not great for dc - although I use disinfectant etc.

Basically I'm sad about it. The cat flap has been taken away & the cat only comes indoors for food. He has the shed for shelter/warmth. I don't want to put up a fight because then I'll feel anxious if/when the cats sick and feel responsible for his anger. I am taking him to the vet so hopefully it'll stop the sickness but think dp is done now.

I just feel sad. AIBU?

[Pumpkintopf]

. Dp declared after it had gone that he's only coming in to eat.

WTAF???!!!! Why the hell did you allow him to get away with this? Does he own you? Why the hell does he think he gets to make unilateral decisions like this? Ffs op grow a spine.

[Anothernamechange5]

Yes yes, I hear you. Have brought cat in, will speak with him tomorrow about it

[MadameCholetsDirtySecret]

The way a person treats any animal or person who is more vulnerable than them, tells you who they are. Your P (I can't add a D) is a cunt, OP.

[TrustySnail]

This is such a sad thread - I feel desperately sorry for both you and your cat.

Please bring the cat in - I think we're all picturing an unhappy, ill cat meowing in a cold shed and willing you to do this - be strong!

[ilovesooty]

You work from home and couldn't get a vet's appointment any earlier than that?

[MaryMargaret]

Some posters are being a bit harsh! I think OP realises there's a problem, or she wouldn't have posted. But yes, your partner does sound bullying, and as though he doesn't really care how he makes you feel.

[SumThucker]

Poor cat

[HughJarss]

Crikey, I hate to think what'll happen if your DC gets poorly. Your partner sounds like a douche and you deserve better than to be walking on eggshells like this. Not fair on the cat, either.

[TrustySnail]

X-post - well done, OP. I hope this is the first step for you in confronting the bigger problem of becoming more assertive about your own needs, and those of the ones you love.

[PlumsGalore]

One of my cats is frequently sick through overeating, she is old, nothing wrong with her other than age related problems. She also now shits next to the litter tray instead of in it, if I put her out she shits on the path. She is old, she is mine, I took her for life, I clean it up and move on.

DH frequently suggests getting rid on her, in jest, and he frequently gets a "you will go first response".

Put your bloody foot down, and clean up the sick. Then it doesn't affect him.

[ilovesooty]

Good, you've brought the cat in. I hope you have the guts to tell the apology for a man you live with that it isn't going out again.

[mrsenasharples]

He sounds delightful.

When you are ill, is he going to stick you in shed too?

[Pumpkintopf]

Op has brought cat in. Well done op stay strong

[SemiNormal]

I'd have serious concerns about what would happen to you if you got very sick OP, what if you became ill and needed him to care for you for a length of time? He sounds uncaring, cruel and a bit of a cunt. Could he possibly be poisoning the cat to cause the sickness as he doesn't like it?

[HappyFlappy]

He's always been sick off and on (he eats too fast!)

One of our cats used to do this - gulped the lot down in a flash and hoped it up again! But honestly Namechange - I wouldn't stand for any animal (or child) in my care being abused - that is just cruel.

[NotMyPenguin]

If your DP developed a health problem that was a bit objectionable, would he think it was right for you to kick him out?

[CaraAspen]

Poor kitty. He deserves to be kicked out, not a poor animal.

Outrageous.

[BorrowedHeart]

Putting why your partner thinks aside, you are thick not to take the cat to the vet already, maybe, and it's a big maybe, your partner is sick of you being neglectful and him having to clean up the mess. Learn to look after the cat before complaining that your partner doesn't like vomit on the carpet.

[JasonDeruloFan]

What Writerwannabe83 said

A hundred times over

Is the cat inside yet???

[BorrowedHeart]

Ok apologies just read it was only two weeks since it's been worse, however my point about him being sick of the vomiting still stands. If your cat eats to quick and vomits give less but often.

[Gabilan]

You don't need to be articulate. Just tell your DP to fuck off. That'll do.

I have farm cats that were feral until they were 8 months old. They're tough and in the summer I hardly see them. They're also young and strong. Where are they right now, on a cold wet night? Yep, curled up on my bed.

[BorrowedHeart]

Jason it says above the cat is back in.

[GladAllOver]

Probably kindest to have him put to sleep.

Then he won't trouble the cat any more.

[Anothernamechange5]

Yes the cat is in & have spoken with dp about how cat not going to be outside all of the time & said it was cruel (& what other pp said about how it reflects on him etc)

Going to buy a feeding timer & see if that helps.

To poster asking about vets appointments, it's not that I haven't taken him, it's I've had to wait for appontment.

[JasonDeruloFan]

yeh ok i saw that after posted
hopefully the cat will stay in