AIBU to wish my other half earned more money?

[WorkerBee926]

My other half and I have been together for a few years and have been discussing trying to have our first baby. I work hard 5-6 days a week in banking and have worked really hard for my career. My other half is self employed and does very little to increase his earnings only working 2-3 days most weeks. I pay 90% of our household bills and I already owned my own home before we got together.

Am I unreasonable to have misgivings about starting a family when I know I'll only be able to take a minimal about of maternity leave because we couldn't meet all of our bill payments on his earnings alone?

I'm also concerned that, statistically, women earn an average of 30% less when they return to the workplace after having children?

I love my other half and would love to become a mum, but I don't want to give up everything I've worked for, give up my career and worry all the time about bills.

Any advice is appreciated!

All the self employed people I know work at least 5 days if not 6 days EVERY week. And some days they work really long hours just to get jobs finished. No self respecting man would sit on his arse for half the week while you work all hours at your paid job and then all the housework on top!
Your husband is an idle selfish arse.He will not be a good father. Kids are hard work and exhausting with two parents sharing the workload equally
I would not put up with your current situation and certainly wouldn't be entertaining the idea of bringing a baby into the equation with all the additional work and expense it will bring.
You need to be seriously asking yourself Why you are working 5-6 days a week paying 90% of the bills and doing all the housework (do you actually have any free time to yourself?)while he works part time pays 10% of the bills does no housework apart from washing a few pots and sits on his backside the rest of the time. He won' t change. Why should he when he has such a cushy lifestyle and you for a mug?

Cocklodger. Get out easily while you can. Having a baby will make the situation a million times worse and you'll never be able to completely walk away from him and his selfish attitude if you have a child together.

expat hence me putting the word nice in quotation marks. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

You sound like an intelligent woman about to embark on a very foolish, but certainly well worn, path

If you have a baby with this cocklodger you have only yourself to blame. Your eyes are wide open.

You have been warned. Progress at your peril.

Thank you everyone for your feedback. Most of you are saying the same thing, so I guess I have some serious thinking to do

Workerbee you sound lovely, and you're taking this on the chin.

Good luck