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To feel uncomortable with this - Mil having bath with DD 4

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BornFreeButinChains · 25/01/2017 12:55

I cant think why any grown woman would want to get into the bath with a 4 year old Confused

It doesn't matter that its MIl - if my own DM had done this I would be asking her - why.

I think there is a difference between being in the bath and DC coming along wondering what your doing etc. But as a granny if I needed to wash with young dc there its more likely I would forgo my wash until later or have a quick shower.

Maybe I am mad maybe its very common? They feed DC off their own forks in spite of being OTT about dirt and cleanliness - its like a religion for mil - but very happy to feed dc off fork shortly after illness..very smooshy with them kissing on lips - FIl is very very physical with them - lying down on grass in summer with DD on top of him after playing .

FOR THE RECORD if I felt anything else was going on of course I would stop them going but my family are just not this physical...DF would give bear hug at greeting and thats it. I really struggle with it - but keep telling myself its OK they are loving GP - but having a bath with DD?

why> why on earth would you want or need to do that?

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MissStein · 29/01/2017 14:56

Why cant op just ask her dc how they feel about bathtime with granny? Or the playtime with grandad? Or mealtimes? Just a general chat about what things dc do at grannys? Would children really lie and say they love it if they didnt? Also dc is 4 now, so presumably this has been going on for a while? To a childs mind, if they enjoyed doing these things with gp, they are surely gonna think they (or gps) did something bad or wrong for it to stop.

Italiangreyhound · 29/01/2017 15:02

MissStein so does it never stop? 18 and bathing with granny?

There is nothing wrong in saying you are too big to do this or that now.

Natsku · 29/01/2017 15:47

It would most likely stop naturally Italian as the child gets older and doesn't fit in the bath/gets more aware of her body and doesn't feel comfortable/realises other children her age don't bathe with granny. The limited size of a bath is definitely going to prevent it going on until she's 18 even if nothing else does!

Italiangreyhound · 29/01/2017 15:52

IMHO four is quite old enough to stop.

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