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Original poster

To ask my DH to stop posting such bolleux on sisal media!

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Boombah · 23/01/2017 13:49

It drives me fucking bananas.

He's almost 50 and behaving like a prat. Today was the final straw (I already unfriended him because he kept tagging me and posting personal photos of the DC and they were public). He also posts check ins I don't want 700 randoms knowing where we are at any given moment.

Today he posted that we were at hospital with a photo of my dd's IV. WTF

Seriously if I catch him gurning (so he can attempt a chiseled jaw one more time I will see red)

He does next to nothing- is a lazy shit and will only come out with us if he can do something exciting or arty to get about a dozen selfies which he posts. WHY?

rant over

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Boombah · 23/01/2017 13:50

SOCIAL media

I hate my phone also. Blush

Oh and another thing. I do not want my nosy bloody neighbour knowing what my bedroom wallpaper look like-
Nothing is off limits with him!

Anyone have experience?

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Mrsemcgregor · 23/01/2017 13:52

I am afraid I have no experience as my DH isn't a man child.

Midlife crisis? If he continues acting like a 12 year old I would seriously consider ltb.

SurelyYoureJokingMrFeynman · 23/01/2017 13:53

Sisal media!Grin

Like this?

To ask my DH to stop posting such bolleux on sisal media!
SurelyYoureJokingMrFeynman · 23/01/2017 13:55

(Sorry to hear you're at the hospital with your DD. Hope all goes well.)

EmzDisco · 23/01/2017 13:55

Fortunately I don't, he sounds like a total bellend. Both me and DP enjoy the odd well chosen show off Facebook check in and nice family picture from time to time but checking in to hospitals, tescos, everywhere etc is madness. And we'd never put pics up if the other didn't want us to.

gamerchick · 23/01/2017 13:55

Hmm photos of him asleep, on the bog, picking his nose?

Too much? Maybe threaten it?

gamerchick · 23/01/2017 13:56

I did chuckle at the chisel jaw. Bless him, mid life crisis does suck a bit.

coconutpie · 23/01/2017 13:57

He does nothing and he behaves like this. Quit complaining and do something about it. LTB.

PerspicaciaTick · 23/01/2017 13:57

Are you married to a 13 year old girl?

You have my sympathy.And I like gamerchick's idea.

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Boombah · 23/01/2017 13:59

It drive me mental- some things should be enjoyable and private.

He flies off the handle if I tell him to delete photos of our children in their beds/swimming/relaxing- or I tell him to at least ask their permission, he doesn't

Man/child, god thats so accurate.

He had a shit upbringing and this meant he missed out on a lot including making friends and socialising- I think this is his way of trying to impress people.

God I find it so tacky when he posts photos of his new car etc.

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onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 23/01/2017 14:01

My exH did this - fortunately I was saved from having the intimate details of our lives plastered all over social media as we were splitting up around the time Facebook became a household must. I was however subjected to endless gurning pics of him and his 'new friends' and so unfollowed his account.

He still does it now when the children stay with him, he lives in America, has to 'check in' everywhere they go with him so much do that they laugh about it. Also posts endless pics of drinks he's about to drink. Why ...just why? He's 50 years old ffs.

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Boombah · 23/01/2017 14:01

Gamer- I do find it interesting that he will without exception post the worst ones he can find of me- three chins, no make up- in a bathing suit pre a massive 5 stone weight loss. Friends have noticed this too.

It seems like very hard work lately.

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TheWorstNoel · 23/01/2017 14:02

I would find a few links to HuffPost type features about people who've had their brand new cars stolen/houses broken into while on holiday/personal identities cloned by showing birthdays & house names/etc, etc thanks to their constant oversharing on social media.

Maudlinmaud · 23/01/2017 14:03

Impose a ban. Remove his devices. He can have them back when he grows up. It's the only way.

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Boombah · 23/01/2017 14:06

TheworstNoel
Ive had that convo with him and he laughed at me and told me that's what insurance is for.

I'm not so convinced and actually have a massive safe box with stuff that gets stored away from the house as I'm convinced exactly that will happen.

Last week he posted about three photos of the roast dinner I cooked and went on to tell everyone how he does this and how to get the best roast potatoes- that was after taking photos of the lounge that I'd painted and decorated- again with a run down of how he achieved everything and how he's had a good productive weekend.

I know this because my friend knows its all me and tells me he's guffing off again.

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LucilleBluth · 23/01/2017 14:07

I actua Can't believe you have posted this op because DH and I had a huge argument about the same thing last night. It is not attractive, it's so sad. The final straw for me was after him being a moody twat all weekend something he commented on on FB came on my feed....he was insulting some older lady who had been marching in the women's protests on Saturday. I'm not sure who she was but he was insulting her appearance, I was shocked to say the least.

To cut a long story short, he deactivated his Facebook.

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Boombah · 23/01/2017 14:07

Maud
If only it were that easy!

he works with people who are VERY like this and take photos every time they fart #millionfilters

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Boombah · 23/01/2017 14:09

Lucille- just before I defriended DH on FB I kept calling him out on his bullshit and he was deleting my comments.

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Niskayuna · 23/01/2017 14:12

Maybe there's an "old people using the internet badly" group, perhaps on Reddit, where you could forward some of his more hilariously bad snaps?

Megatherium · 23/01/2017 14:12

Ive had that convo with him and he laughed at me and told me that's what insurance is for.

Point out that insurance companies do have clauses in policies about taking reasonable steps to look after your belongings - posting stuff on social media that virtual invites burglars to come and take their pick is liable to result in claims being rejected.

Also amputate his phone and tell him he needs to learn to interact with you, your children, relatives and friends like a normal human being, and absolutely no-one cares what his dinner looks like.

user1475253854 · 23/01/2017 14:16

If he won't remove pictures of your children, to me that's a serious issue and I can't believe he won't respect your wishes. I have asked family members to do similar and they are fine with it. You are their parent too and your wishes are equally important.

OnionKnight · 23/01/2017 14:17

My father in law does similar OP, after telling me, his son in law to get over Donald Trump I unfollowed him and added him on the restricted list.

Felt great Grin

OnionKnight · 23/01/2017 14:18

I forgot to mention that I have Cerebral Palsy and Trump's record with disabled people is horrific.

dollydaydream114 · 23/01/2017 14:18

If he wants to post selfies or pictures of his dinner and what have you, fine, that's up to him. That wouldn't bother me; I'd just ignore it.

But if he's posting pics of you, the kids, your house etc, especially if doesn't have his privacy settings activated, he's out of order. It's not fair on you or your kids if he's not letting you decide if it's OK to use those pics.

My sister has scanned in loads of old family photos, including ones of me as a child/teen, and put them all over her Facebook without checking with anyone if that was OK. I'm not best pleased about it.

ohfourfoxache · 23/01/2017 14:19

Fucking hell what a dickhead Shock

I'm actually gob smacked at this op. Absolute bloody idiot Shock