To think SAHM's have an easier life?

[workingmummy123]

I understand this won't please everyone but I'm referring to SAHMs with school age children. I read lots of articles - one today on Facebook - which talk about how SAHMs "work" at home doing a hundred domestic chores. However I work full time and still have to do the exact same number of domestic chores - I just have less time to do them. Am I missing something??

I am still mystified as to what wouldn't be needed

I am wondering what needs to be done that I am not aware of or skip doing

In my case ironing

Zzzzz

I attended sports day, go to parents evening, I have lots of housework and extensive caring responsiblies (one of my DC is severely disabled).

I also plan and organise family gatherings

Have re read soup dragon. Sorry I didn't catch on when I read it last night

No I'm not

Others have posted that working parents pay for things to be done, or they are skipped or they are not aware of other things that need to be done

I am quite aware of what needs to be done and what I feel comfortable with as I do it myself as do many many single parents and those in relationships do without paying someone

Of course if you choose you can find other things to keep you occupied

How about care for children during the 13 weeks approx that they are not at school.
Taking them to activities which start early.
I am around to take DC to things which start early and often take other children with me too.

I work 2 days a week and it's lovely. Sometimes I rush to get all my chores done in the morning so I can gym and read in the afternoon. It's nice to have the weekends to spend with the children without worrying about cleaning. I guess I do have the best of both worlds and count myself very lucky to do so.

I take my holidays when ds is off but as I can't get anywhere near as much time off he goes to clubs or i share childcare with friends (so often have other children when I'm off)

Yes I found working p/t was a really nice balance when ds was in nursery

I work15-20 hours a week and my youngest is 16 years old.

I love the balance.
I have been at the gym this morning,worked today for 5 hours, I will pick up DD from school soon.
Tomorrow I am at the hairdressers, then work for a few hours, cook, do a few runs for other family members.

@Mindtrope
That is an enviable lifestyle,

Out of interest, whilst you are at the gym, and hairdressers and working part time, how do you pay your bills?

We struggle to pay our bills both working FT its a killer

I pay my bills with money that I earn.
OH and I both work.

Not all of my children are at school yet and I think my life is much easier than for most working mothers. Once they are all at school I will have hit easy street.

I don't really care if someone is a sahp or not to school age children. I do however find their partnership dynamic a bit creepy. I could never find a partner attractive who stayed at home 'pottering' and i find men (its usually men) who want their partners to stay at home to make their lives easier (the man's life) equally as creepy.

Comparing who has it harder or worse is just setting yourself up for upset. What matters is you and your life and how you think and feel about it. How someone else lives their life shouldn't matter.

So no I don't think Woking parents do the same stuff Sahm parents do. Sorry I just don't buy it. Do these people not sleep?

I look back to my life as a working mother and to be honest my husband and I didn't sleep much. I was up at 5am cleaning 5 days a week. I rarely had more than four/ five hours of sleep a night

Those of you who admit to going back to bed or sitting on the sofa do you never feel a bit guilty if your dh/dp is working all day? And do you expect them to do chores when they come in or do you do everything?

I often have a nap, I do sometimes feel guilty. My husband doesn't really do any chores, that would be taking the piss

I would love to have been a SAHM. Can't help but think it has to be somewhat easier than juggling work and childcare. Kids get sick and need to stop off school, you're there to look after them. No desperately trying to get someone to look after them so as you can go to work or worst still having to ring in and explain why you won't be in and then getting a grilling from your boss because they don't like you taking time off because you should want to put your child first. For that alone it must be good.

I don't feel guilty taking time to myself during the week.

I go to the gym 3-4 mornings a week. Keeps me on an even keel which helps me earn more and be a better mother.

So no I don't think Woking parents do the same stuff Sahm parents do. Sorry I just don't buy it. Do these people not sleep?

I go to bed between 11 and midnight and I am up most days by 5 am. I also have several night wakings due to DC1 (severe ASD and waking up frequently.
So I do sleep but probably a lot less than most other people. And yes, it is bloody hard!