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To think SAHM's have an easier life?

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workingmummy123 · 11/01/2017 19:50

I understand this won't please everyone but I'm referring to SAHMs with school age children. I read lots of articles - one today on Facebook - which talk about how SAHMs "work" at home doing a hundred domestic chores. However I work full time and still have to do the exact same number of domestic chores - I just have less time to do them. Am I missing something??

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Riversiderunner · 12/01/2017 07:12

I work full time and it's much easier to work!

Also, I'd go mad staying at home - I did it for a few years and absolutely hated it. And I'd lose all my confidence, plus the ability to buy whatever I want without guilt.

I advise every newly wed woman not to give up her job - so important to sanity IMO!

SoupDragon · 12/01/2017 07:43

Wow Soup Dragon that's mean

Perhaps read what I actually said...all of it? Just a thought.

SoupDragon · 12/01/2017 07:44

Soupdragon is giving the (suspected) reporter the crap they want to publish.

Someone else that didn't read what I actually said.

SoupDragon · 12/01/2017 07:45

I reported this thread as being goady bollocks right away. I don't know whether I am surprised or it is still here this morning,

Mrsemcgregor · 12/01/2017 07:57

Well done daily fail, you set up two groups of women against each other. You created bad feeling and guilt for a story for your shitty rag.

Why you have such a high female readership I will never understand. You are the most misogynistic bunch of cunts I've ever had the displeasure to hear about.

Original poster
workingmummy123 · 12/01/2017 08:03

No journalist. A genuine working mum!

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SoupDragon · 12/01/2017 08:06

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justgivemethepinot · 12/01/2017 08:07

Who works as a journalist! The speed in which this made the Fail is suspicious to say the least OP

Original poster
workingmummy123 · 12/01/2017 08:10

SoupDragon why?

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Vanillamanilla1 · 12/01/2017 08:10

I work part time and I have 3 children at school . I sleep until lunchtime once they are all out the door , have some lunch , watch some bollox on telly while I iron , spend Maximum of 45 minutes doing other chores and that's it
It's bliss and yes it is very easy . Those who say they are " run ragged " ... Doing what ? The kids are at school there's no mess to clear up

DownWithThatSort0fThing · 12/01/2017 08:12

Yes if your children are school age, you would definitely have an easier life

DownWithThatSort0fThing · 12/01/2017 08:13

as opposed to working full time, and running a house / caring for school age children - I mean

SoupDragon · 12/01/2017 08:16

SoupDragon why?

Seriously??

You either joined to post this shit, namechanged to post his shit or decided to post this shit as your first post. Although just posting this shit under any circumstance is being a Goady fucker to be honest.

DownWithThatSort0fThing · 12/01/2017 08:18

Why do people think this thread is goady?

I don't get it?? Can someone explain? The OP has asked a simple question

FrutiFlutey · 12/01/2017 08:25

I've been a SAHM and been working now for 6 months and I completely agree with you! SAHM is harder in terms of stress (unless like me you take dc to work with you and have work stress and child stress) there's more time to do chores and more time to relax! I have no time left over at the moment!

Catlady1976 · 12/01/2017 08:26

Hostility came from both camps working jelly does your husband not do half of the evening routine and drop off.? As you are working he should.

Mrsemcgregor · 12/01/2017 08:27

I would bet my cushy SAHM lifestyle that you are a journo. If you are also a woman, and a mother you should be ashamed.

AngelBlue12 · 12/01/2017 08:28

How about a SAHM who homeschools?!

PinkCrystal · 12/01/2017 08:31

I have been pt ft and sahm of school age and pre school. I think pt is the best.

Sahm of school age is lovely. So nice being avaliable to kids all the time and not to worry if they are ill etc. Yet there was a different stress for me. A lot of time can mean you think too much if you are my type. Also stress relating to havkng no career or a huge gap on cv. If partner left etc esp with this government. Getting a ft job quickly from having a long time out can be terrifying. There is also stress from people constantly judging and comments from people. You really do need a thick skin. Also partners can get resentful.

Pt is best of both worlds for me with school age. 2 or 3 days being ideal! Esp if term time!

Ft too much for me but I have health issues.

I think everyone is different. Eg school age sahm with mental health issues just getting through the day will be v hard.

Ft with parents on tap to give free childcare and cleaners could be seen as much easier. No worries about I'll children and snow etc. School holiday care taken care of. It's so different to someone who has to use paid childcare.

The guilt can happen with both more acute for me when working and seeing everyone else going places with their kids in school hols etc. But then there can be guilt also if sah esp if short of money etc. Or partner working long hours.

KayTee87 · 12/01/2017 08:35

On maternity leave just now and finding this a lot easier than going to work.
It's like comparing apples and oranges though because it depends on what your job is, how your household is run and to a large extent simply how much money you have.

PinkCrystal · 12/01/2017 08:40

I don't understand journos trolling boards. It makes for a shit story. How do they know we are who we say we are? Without a name and a face it isn't a proper story. It's so weird. 'Bongo said that.....' just seems very odd to me! Anyone could make up anything

Catlady1976 · 12/01/2017 08:40

toast Sah parents give to society in other ways. Helping out at school, running toddler groups etc. Caring for elderly parents thus saving social care budgets.
Plus many not all Sah have worked and put plenty into the system
Their partners are often hrt tax payers so as a family unit put in more than two basic rate taxpayers claiming child tax credit. Hell many don't even get child benefit.
I appreciate that there are other who both work and are hrt.payers but there is more to paying your way than financial

Glittermakeseverythingbetter · 12/01/2017 08:50

I haven't read the whole thread, but I have been a sahm, now work part time my kids are in school. I have no family to help. Husband working away for weeks at a time. Cliquey mum and baby groups. Quite frankly I was depressed and suicidal at times from loneliness. Working mums I knew didn't have the same amount of jobs as sahms as most of them had grandparents doing the childcare, and putting dinner on for when they got home, having the grandchildren at weekends to give working parents a break, doing their washing and ironing. Every circumstance is different.

HystericalWoman · 12/01/2017 08:53

The problem with this thread is not the OPs question, it is some other posters reaction to it - some people seem to have taken this as a personal dig at them - or it has hit some kind of nerve to which we have no idea

worrywomen · 12/01/2017 09:07

This is such a debated topic - its all about doing whats right for you and your family. I work and have three children but I don't begrudge it and I don't think anyone should begrudge people for making their own decisions...

worrywomen.com/2017/01/12/sahm-v-working-mum/

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