To think SAHM's have an easier life?

[workingmummy123]

I understand this won't please everyone but I'm referring to SAHMs with school age children. I read lots of articles - one today on Facebook - which talk about how SAHMs "work" at home doing a hundred domestic chores. However I work full time and still have to do the exact same number of domestic chores - I just have less time to do them. Am I missing something??

Downwith - because, if you look about 20 posts back, this thread has appeared in the daily fail this morning. Don't click it, don't respond it.
It's really shit when journos exploit a support network for mums. Makes people afraid to post.

Didnt journalists used to have a degree of talent back in the old days?

Went out and got the stories we all wanted to hear?

They didn't quote me, the rotters.....
www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4111130/Working-mother-sparks-debate-claiming-stay-home-mums-easier-her.html

If I was a sahm I'd spend my time writing DAILY MAIL IS A PILE OF WANK on every MN thread.

Lol I only just saw this... would've loved to have been quoted in the daily fail gloating that I'm a SAHM to school age kids with a cleaner. Heh.

Soup dragon I did read and understand why you posted as you did. I tried (obviously unsuccessfully) to tell another poster who was questioning your post why you had written what you had written. Unless I have actually mistaken your post entirely I thought you were giving the DM sweeping generalisations as that is obv what they were looking for in the first instance. In other words you weren't answering as you were aware of the purpose of the OP.

The article really hammers home what utter drivel the daily mail is. They have quoted people who were talking about looking after preschoolers as harder as if they were talking about school age dc. Absolute tripe.

It's great if you have the choice

Of course many working parent/s do all the jobs sahm/d do its part of life running your home. Not all have cleaners, children can make a mess within 2 minutes of coming home, you can cook from scratch (or use a few short cuts ready chopped veg) without relying on ready made meals, washing and ironing still needs to be done along with all the paper work

It's manageable for many families as their isn't really any other options

Could someone please send a link to the DF article this has been used for?

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Thanks Mindtrope. What a pointless article stating the obvious. It's the pictures that made me laugh - harrassed-looking mum rushing out the door, SAHM stir-frying the courgettes

I have actually mistaken your post entirely I thought you were giving the DM sweeping generalisations

No, I was telling the poster whining about SAHMs that her comments were rude, obnoxious and total bollocks. But apparently it's OK to do that but as soon as someone dares to (deliberately) spout the bollocks about WOHP dumping their children in childcare it's apparently "mean". SAHM are fair game on MN because they are lethargic, lazy and don't contribute to society.

Anyway, I'm out because this thread is chock full of bollocks from the very start.

Ha Ha madinche.

I notice the babies in both photos look utterly miserable.

Mothers are in a no win situation whatever we do.

Interesting they chose ti illustrate the article with such young children, which is not what the thread was about.

They always pick on mothers ever since Eve in the garden of Eden was blamed for man's fall from grace with God. Women are always to blame and in the wrong and men are heroes. This must be changed.

enthusiam I don't think that is strictly true. WOHP do the minimum to get by - I know because I've been there.

SAHP do the bulk of the household jobs, rather than them being shared between partners - so the WOHP (in a couple) also has an easier life -although more financial responsibility/pressure.
In my case I definitely eg help out at school more etc - because I can, I go to everything etc and DCs definitely do more activities. When I first stopped working I ended up making costumes for a school show - it took hours, till after midnight a couple of times - because there were a lot to make, only a few of us doing it and I did it without rancour because I knew parents who worked just didn't have time to help. I have made a dress up day costume for a friend of DD whose mother was single and working ft and just didn't have time. I have looked after/collected DC for working parents who were stuck more than once...

And if you are around all day you notice more things and have no excuse not to do them - my eg is when I worked full time I never washed DDs bedroom curtains in 4-5 yrs ...I did notice they were a bit dusty/could do with a clean once or twice but never had the chance, didn't really give it a second thought, had other stuff to think about. When I became a SAHP I noticed stuff like that more often and felt that I had to do something about it (wash them...)because I didn't have an excuse not too and had nothing to distract me.
Also things like DIY and repairs and gardening- when I worked full time I paid for someone to decorate - I didn't have time and I could afford to pay someone. I would feel lazy getting someone else to decorate now -because I can do it. Same with eg repairing the washing machine - would have got someone in to do it (actually would be inclined to not even try and repair it and just get new) - now would have a go at doing it myself.
It is down to circumstances though...and I guess personality comes into it too - I couldn't lie on the sofa all day watching tv because I would feel too guilty...

you might wash curtains more and other things that may not need doing but just becuase you are working (single or in a partnership) does not have the spare cash to pay someone to decorate/garden do little jobs around the home

There are things many can't do (fixing electrics/plumbing) and I don't mean changing a plug or washer becuase the work can be complex

Is there a minimum to get by unless you are fine living off ready made meals and not cleaning that often then I don't think it does apply to most working parents. Some have no choice but this as time is so tight but plenty of others manage becuase they have to

The school stuff is a choice (but working parents can do their bit too)

Yep being a SAHP to school age kids is brill. I love it. I have a large family and can get all the crap jobs done in the week so that we can do fun stuff on the weekends and DH and I get to chill out in the evening. I'm not sure why people want to make life a moaning competition. I appreciate I'm lucky that DH earns enough for me to stay home. We have a crap car and go camping in the UK for hols, but that's the choice we've made for now.

It really isn't that black & white, there's a million shades of grey in between that make your statement plain daft.

But it just depends on what people are doing, ive done both, i could say well as a sahp i had it easy but when i was a sahp couldn't afford to run a car.

Part time working mums could say well a sahm has it easy but the full time working mum could say they have both got it easy. The full time working mum might have a partner who helps so they think she has it easy as the part timer is a lone parent and does everything herself, the sahp looks after the elderly granny while the kids are at school. Maybe the Sahp's husband makes her stay at home when she would love to work, you could go on and on, one is not better than the other because there are so many different situations people are in as this thread shows

I didn't work for a year. I was great in terms of having free weekends and doing lots of things with DD after school.
I was bored and very lonely though and didn't have money to do what I liked. I missed the chat and company of being in work
I'm currently working part time - it's the ideal balance for me.

I was made redundant recently, and my kids are at school. Of course it's easier than working, in terms of sheer chores that need done. I've never heard anyone claim it's hard?? It's hard financially though.

They do all the things employed parents pay others to do, skip or aren't aware of.

what kind of stuff do you think are outsourced or skipped by working parents, zzzzz

I still do washing, cleaning, ironing, cooking, school runs (work school hours only) etc as do most of my working friends. Seriously, I wonder.

I am wondering what needs to be done that I am not aware of or skip doing