To feel sad at how quickly my dc are growing up.

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Just checked in on my dd who is 5 and couldn't believe how grown up she looks. I still see her as my baby even though I have 11 month old twins too but I think the past year she has just changed and grown up so much! When I was out earlier I saw a friend who said how much she has grown up and now I'm seeing it too. My twins are also growing rapidly and although I certainly do not want to go through the newborn stage again, looking back it did seem really lovely. I'm sad how quickly life flys by

merry you're being bloody offensive frankly. OP hasn't done anything wrong. Stip the breathy wafts insinuations.

Some people finding certain things difficult isn't the same as nobody should say or do those things.

OP you don't come across as being concerned this has upset bereaved parents.

Yes she fucking did. That's exactly what she was just saying about having it deleted. What more do you want!

My oldest is 18, she passed her driving test last week and is heading off to uni next month - 5 hours away from home. That's a bit of growing up reality hitting me hard!! But I'm so proud of her, she's turned into a lovely young woman although I look back at when she was a newborn and I had brought her home from hospital and thinking 'what the fuck do I do now? I have no idea how to look after a baby!' I feel I've not done too bad a job.

DD2 is 11. She's nearly as tall as me already, legs up to her armpits that one. Cheeky, funny and bright as a button.

Next door have two littlies, 5 and 2 and I love seeing them, reminds me of the days mine were that small.

But I have said to dp that we have four dc between us and hopefully they will give us grandchildren to love and spoil too.

If OP being upset that everyone's declared themselves upset isn't enough for you. So upset that she's asked for deletion then only self flagellation will do.

I've never seen such bullying.

If you had read my postcookies you will have seen I wrote we know you didn't mean to offend.

I really find it breath taking that you could be so dismissive when I have chosen to write gently about some of the feelings when my child died.

You don't have to agree with anything I write. You are allowed to disagree. But I am writing about something so extraordinarily painful it deserves some respect at least.

I do so hope you are never in my shoes writing such things.

And I think the op is getting a bloody hard time.

I think what's she is trying to say is each stage goes too fast. That you should cherish each stage, no matter how tough it may be because they aren't small forever.

This is so unfair to the op ladies she clearly didn't mean to offend or upset anyone and her feelings are valid.

The posts from bereaved parents are equally valid and yes we should all count ourselves extremely lucky to have growing living children.

Let's not set one group against another here that was never intended and surely not appropriate.

Navy you've been asked what you're requesting but you won't say. What you will say is that OP is a terrible person for posting and yet childish for requesting deletion.

I give up.

Oh get over yourself manumission

Bullying?

I would laugh if this thread had not bought me to tears trying to explain myself.

I love watching my little girls grow up they are 21 months and 6 months. They had a big brother who died 2.5 years ago, he was only 13 months old, he'd be starting school in September and I hate knowing all the things he'll never get to do. Just enjoy every moment x

People post things all the time on MN saying they have x y or z and aren't grateful for it. Then other posters come along and tell them they should be grateful as other people have a lot less.

The only time I ever see an issue with someone saying that is when it's someone feeling sad about the one thing us bereaved parents want more than anything, to see our kids grow up.

As bereaved parents we always have to shut up, not mention our kids because it makes people feel bad, can you imagine what it's like to not be able to talk about your child because it makes people uncomfortable?

Clearly it's an emotive topic, but a little understanding goes a long way. Maybe just accepting that, yes, you should look at the positives of watching your children grow instead of feeling sadness about watching what is supposed to happen would have been more appropriate than getting defensive.

Thank goodness you haven't walked a mile in the shoes of a bereaved parent. If you did you may well have a little more understanding.

It was quite clear that the OP was referring to the speed with which it happens and not that she wants them not to grow up.

I feel you gain all the time you see a little person developing into their own person but of course I feel a little sad that time passes so quickly

But it's not devastating ds is well and here and we have more memories to come and he has life to experience how can I be sad about that

Op I understand what you mean. I remember holding my newborn son curled against my chest and thinking I never wanted the newness to go away, I wanted to be able to hold him like that forever. Every time he learns something new it's an absolute joy though, I go between being excited to see his next step to wanting time to slow down so I can better savour the moment.

Truly sorry to those posters that have lost a child, I can't imagine the pain

navy & mooch I'm afraid some people can only see in black and white. Please don't get upset, although I can understand why you are. Some people just don't understand empathy.

"Stip the breathy wafts insinuations."

No good deed goes unpunished.

Best to all, but I'm off before I'm tempted to work out what that sentence was supposed to be

As bereaved parents we always have to shut up, not mention our kids because it makes people feel bad, can you imagine what it's like to not be able to talk about your child because it makes people uncomfortable?
Yes. I think in general all bereaved people learn to shut up. They have to learn not to express their pain to avoid upsetting others.

We have all this public grief for dead celebrities and after the hoo ha every body forgets. The daily grind of the bereaved mother is not so glamorous.