To expect DH to wear clothes for meals?

[Ollycat]

My dh thinks I am VERY unreasonable about this!

I cook every day for my family and all I ask in return is that we eat together at the kitchen table and that we wear clothes (as opposed to a dressing gown).

My husband likes to have a shower and put on his dressing gown (no pj's just dressing gown) and feels I'm VU in my requests that he not eat supper like that.

I don't expect people to wear anything fancy - just clothes as opposed to a gaping dressing gown.

I am cooking a roast tonight and he is in a strop because I asked him to wear clothes. I figure that if I put effort into cooking food he should make some effort back.

So MN AIBU?

but that guys gown isnt gaping

YANBU

Underwear at the very least.

she says she hasnt got a problem with pjs or lounge wear though the trollinator its a bit different to wearing a gaping dressing gown with nothing on underneath

I agree with you OP, we regularly have this disagreement in our house. When it was hot last summer, DP took to stripping to his boxers to eat dinner as 'eating made him hot'. I cooked the bloody thing and still managed to remain clothed.

justaweeone - what is the temperature in your house?
I've got PJ bottoms on but also a top and jumper. If you're in summer clothes, surely you're heating is on too high.

This thread made me think, I had an issue as a child with men, who semi lay on the sofa (fully clothed) with the legs wide apart, one of them on the sofa and one on the floor.....it would make me uncomfortable and I think it still would (especially in a gaping dressing gown)

"There's a bit of a difference though in wearing your pjs at dinner and having your balls out!"

This. All the comments about PJs are irrelevant.

can we have a pic or a drawing op please xx

Olivia your DP felt so hot he had to strip to his boxers to eat his dinner?! Ugh.

Why solemnly get dressed just to have a meal, then get undressed again?

Ok so many I think IAU - fine

As I say I don't expect anything fancy - just clothes! Jogging bottoms and a t shirt is fine!

I'm certainly no Hyacinth Bucket and golly some of you are quite nasty!

I personally think it's about respect for each other and for the children. He's not been at work all day so I don't quite get why people keep saying this.

Nobody I know IRL wears pj's permanently maybe it's just tinternet?!

Still interesting to have your views. DH was until about a year and a half ago a serious alcoholic- he was very close to death by the time I got him in rehab. He used to spend all day in his dressing gown and never ate with us so I recognise that I have perhaps a different view on this to others which is why I didn't mention it before as I wanted to know what others felt

He might just be trying to help out with the New Year diet though... as in, putting you off your food?!

As long as he's decently covered, I don't see the harm...

When my kids were small, I used to get them to take their tops off (at home of course!) when eating spag bol... much easier to wipe off skin!!!

I'm genuinely amazed by how many people are so repulsed by their own husband's dick that it would actively put them off their food.

Meh if you eat late then wear what you want. The husband eats late because he gets in late. The rest of us eat earlier. If I've been at work until stupid o'clock then ill wear what I damned well want. Leave him alone.

YABU!

The effort will be helping you tidy the kitchen afterwards, not what clothes one chooses to wear!

Slobby? He's just comfortable surely? I am often in my pajamas at 5pm!

pants make all the difference...this is fine :)

We're not talking

We're talking

6.30 is late? Really?

dolly its the kids that wouldnt like seeing it though not the wife repulsed at it...thats what I was thinking anyway

Pants essential for decency, upper body covered.

No rules beyond that here- dressing gown, pjs, t-shirt and shorts all fine.

Accidentally pour hot gravy over his giblets, that should soon change his mind

Some of the comments on here made me laugh out loud, my husband is sitting opposite me so I read them out laughing and he looked at me quizzically and said " I don't believe anyone would do that (wear only gaping dressing gown for Sunday dinner) she must be making it up". Clearly we are well suited. He's in jeans and a navy polo shirt and wouldn't consider this unless very very ill.

Op, I'm sorry about your past troubles and think it makes your point even more understandable.

If you get to decide what he wears in the kitchen its only fair he gets to decide what you wear in the bedroom. Equality and all that.

YANBU