To expect DH to wear clothes for meals?

[Ollycat]

My dh thinks I am VERY unreasonable about this!

I cook every day for my family and all I ask in return is that we eat together at the kitchen table and that we wear clothes (as opposed to a dressing gown).

My husband likes to have a shower and put on his dressing gown (no pj's just dressing gown) and feels I'm VU in my requests that he not eat supper like that.

I don't expect people to wear anything fancy - just clothes as opposed to a gaping dressing gown.

I am cooking a roast tonight and he is in a strop because I asked him to wear clothes. I figure that if I put effort into cooking food he should make some effort back.

So MN AIBU?

I personally wouldn't want to eat a roast in my dressing gown but if DP wanted to I certainly wouldn't stop him, and I am almost always in PJs! Sometimes if I'm cooking a fancy dinner I will put clothes on (as opposed to PJs) and DP will make a comment like 'what have I done to deserve this?!' haha!

I don't think YABU op. People keep mentioning pj's but I think you're referring to the fact that he's not wearing pj's or any other lounge wear. I'd feel the same if my dp was practically naked at the dinner table too. If we were eating watching the telly with food on our laps (being extra slobby!) then maybe not but at the dinner table it's not unreasonable, or controlling to expect him to put some clothes on.

I agree with you also op that some people on here are just unnecessarily scathing.

When my Dad came to breakfast two days running in his vest and pants my mum asked him to smarten up a bit. Next morning he came down in vest, pants and a bow tie. Style it out...why don't you join in? Or ask him to cook dinner and appear at the table in fancy dress?

I would not expect my DH to wear pyjamas and / or dressing gown to dinner in the evenings because this is not a hospital or convalescence unit!

Exactly. YANBU OP. It's not too much to ask, in my opinion, that he is wearing clothes at the dinner table. And especially as you have mentioned there is a history, and his current garb reminds you of that time. It's very easy to have some casual clothing ready to slip into after a shower. I would also have hated when I was growing up if this was a thing, in my childhood home. Shudder.

If it was my hubby I'd tell him to remove the dressing gown. Dinner AND a show... ;) obvs on a child free night

We both wear exactly what we want at all times. I think you RBU.
Apart from sometimes dressing up to go out in a way that we know the other will like, we both please ourselves completely and I wouldn't dream of criticising what she wears to eat dinner in her own home after a long day at work.

Weirdly, I'd have no problem with him being in a pair of tracks and a t shirt but I too would not be that impressed by a gaping dressing gown.
So you're kind of bring unreasonable (in the sense that it's his house, in theory he should be able to wear what he likes) but I would be the same..

Does he ever pop out to Tesco in his dressing gown? Shopping in ones night clothes is a Thing these days, you know.

Yanbu. Granted I was raised to wash my hands before meals and dinner at the table in comparison to the TV tray army. Loungewear is essential in my house. But again I'm not one who'd venture out in pyjamas even if I lived above a store. So regardless of concensus it's more a lifestyle choice. DH could surely wait until 8 to schlep? Otherwise I'd start serving microwave meals since we live in a can't be bothered house.

For those who say I'm controlling and dictating what he does I really don't think saying that I would really appreciate him wearing clothes to supper is controlling his life! It's showing consideration to others and his family (who are all dressed)

I completely agree. It's your house too.

I fail to believe that a dressing gown is the only thing an adult male can be comfortable in?!

It's nonsense, isn't it.

I am at the posters who seem to think that people should be able to do whatever they like in their own home, regardless of the feelings or comfort of the other members of their household.

Since when are respectful behaviour and manners reserved for the public domain?!

Christmas day I cooked, ate and generally enjoyed the entire day in my new snow leopard onsie. I was in my own home with the ones I love.

But when you say 'gaping' does what shows put you off your dinner or encourage ... well just asking.

Slobby? After work theres nothing better than coming home, having a shower and putting pjs on! It is his house aswell. If my dh told me what i could and couldnt wear id be pissed off.