To expect DH to wear clothes for meals?

[Ollycat]

My dh thinks I am VERY unreasonable about this!

I cook every day for my family and all I ask in return is that we eat together at the kitchen table and that we wear clothes (as opposed to a dressing gown).

My husband likes to have a shower and put on his dressing gown (no pj's just dressing gown) and feels I'm VU in my requests that he not eat supper like that.

I don't expect people to wear anything fancy - just clothes as opposed to a gaping dressing gown.

I am cooking a roast tonight and he is in a strop because I asked him to wear clothes. I figure that if I put effort into cooking food he should make some effort back.

So MN AIBU?

Yanbu, I agree it's a bit slobby.

Who knew covering your crotch for dinner could be seen as hoighty toighty?

YANBU, I agree, slobby. T shirt and tracksuit bottoms fine, dressing gown just seems utterly lazy.

I totally agree with Bluntness100 ^^

YANBU

Oh no I really wouldn't like that. I can understand he wants to be comfortable but can't he put on track suit bottoms and a sweat shirt?

I often like to change into PJs when I get home, it keeps my "public" clothes nicer, means i am much less likely to slop spaghetti down them and they are more comfortable. I don't have any issues with people coming to the dinner table with PJs on (unless we have visitors or it is a naice meal) but I wouldn't be happy with someone coming to the table with a gaping dressing gown on. When my kids were small we instigated a "must wear a minimum of underwear on furniture" policy so when my now teen son walks around in a towel I remind him and he will often go and put a tshirt on and unders but still have the towel. I can't get too worked up about that.

Would he wear a onsie? that may solve things and keep his vegetables hidden away

YABU. I wear PJs and dressing gown all the time unless I'm leaving the house or non family are coming round.

I think its ok to ask but not to expect. I think its also ok not to cook for others because you dont enjoy the meal with them dressed in that way. It will either result in no meal for him or you relaxing your dress code.

I'm with you Op.

Not too much effort to put something comfortable on, is it?

To add, I think PJs or t shirt and boxers/ joggers would be appropriate under his dressing gown. Naked except for a dressing gown is a bit much!

Why can't he decide himself what to wear in his own home? Why do you get to make the decision? We're in PJ's here and won't be getting changed for dinner!

T-shirt and sleep-shorts or PJ bottoms, fine. Dressing gown with vest or t-shirt and boxers underneath, also fine. Dressing gown with nothing underneath or just tighty-whiteys underneath? Just no.

Perhaps you should dress yourself and the children up in Sunday clothes and shame him? Or perhaps you and the kids should sit down in your rattiest PJs?

PJs are fine, T-Shirt and boxers are fine...I think its the exposed bits that op doesnt like.

If she was to eat her dinner topless at the table with the kids, he may also feel it was a bit off.

I'd like to know what people mean by PJs. To me they conjure up Morecombe and Wise in stripey flannel jobs. I'd be very at someone who wasn't basically on a hospital ward wearing those outside the bedroom. If it's "loungewear ": fill your boots.

We have been out through the day, I am now in my pjs and can smell my roast wafting from the oven.

Has he got anything at all on underneath? Underpants? A t shirt?

I'm having visions of peering through a glass table as I cut into my yorkie and seeing a great, big, hairy bollock looking back at me. 😂😱

I do that. DH works from home and cooks dinner. There's something extremely cozy about coming home, having a shower, putting your warm dressing gown on and eating the food your loved one has prepared.

My daughter wears this sort of thing and I am OK with it

I really don't get this pj wearing thing. Can only conclude I'm a very formal sort of person as it would really depress me to live with someone who wore their nightwear during the day.

I live alone so generally no one else to see me, but my pjs don't come out until I'm getting ready for bed. In the morning I wear then until I've eaten breakfast and then have a shower get dressed and stay in my day clothes all day - nothing formal, just jeans and some sort of top generally, if I'm just having a normal day and walking the dog.

Even when I had the cold from hell recently I still got dressed each day, albeit later than usual. It would make me feel like an invalid to be in my night wear during the day.

Well I would have the same issue than you OP.

Both with the dressing gown wo pants on and with the fact that it is likely that said dressing gown is worn everyday. Think food on the clothes, dressing gown getting dirty for days of wear, sweat, etc etc I won't go into the MN bugbear of said dressing gown being in daily contact with genitals

If he wants to wear a dressing gown, then at least, he should have some 'lounge clothes' underneath.

Having said that, for me it would look very weird. I don't take my day clothes off until I am ready to go to bed!

Forgot to add YANBU OP.

YANBU I really don't get grown adults spending all day in PJ's unless you are unwell, it's slobby! Again I don't have a problem with PJ's or lounge wear but dressing gown EVERY night for tea is gross. How do you wash up or do chores in a dressing gown!

Yanbu. TV dinner on trays, fine. Sit down meal, not fine.