To expect DH to wear clothes for meals?

[Ollycat]

My dh thinks I am VERY unreasonable about this!

I cook every day for my family and all I ask in return is that we eat together at the kitchen table and that we wear clothes (as opposed to a dressing gown).

My husband likes to have a shower and put on his dressing gown (no pj's just dressing gown) and feels I'm VU in my requests that he not eat supper like that.

I don't expect people to wear anything fancy - just clothes as opposed to a gaping dressing gown.

I am cooking a roast tonight and he is in a strop because I asked him to wear clothes. I figure that if I put effort into cooking food he should make some effort back.

So MN AIBU?

Aww leave him alone OP, he'a relaxing having a meal in his own home. I've been in my pjs (shorts & vest) since about 3pm after I got a shower after coming home from swimming. And I've cooked and eaten a big roast beef dinner. DH has been in his shorts (topless), one DS just his boxers and other DS also in pjs.

anyone else picturing Onslow from keeping up appearances as DH?

YANBU OP but a posted a similar thread about this a few months ago about DS & was absolutely slated.

We are clearly a minority on MN.

i dont mind pjs or lounge wear but i would object to his cock and balls flapping about if all he was wearing was a dressing gown

I really don't understand the whole I'm only comfortable in pyjamas or a dressing gown brigade. I'm currently wearing black leggings, a grey marl vest top and a black long sleeved t shirt over the top. No bra as the vest makes it not needed. I'm throughly comfortable. I wouldn't consider being in my dressing gown for dinner. It's not more comfortable they soft relaxed clothing.

WTAF Can't believe so many think it's fine to be naked at the dinner table with just a dressing gown barely covering their dignity.

There's a time and place to see anothers genitalia. Chowing down on a meatball ain't one of those times!

I know its a vest but this thread conjurs this up in my head :)

I'm happy to be a slob then!

Yesterday I went to the gym, got home showered and put my pjs on. Then I cooked tea. There would have been no logic to getting dressed again just because I was going to eat.

Imagine a man posts this about his wife who's returned from work and had a shower and changed into her gown -

Some mums bodies would put uou right off your dinner and no one needs to see that over their evening meal.

Onslow, or the dad from The Goldbergs who takes his trousers off as soon as he gets in the front door 😅

I think it's a case of people not reading the fucking thread.

PJs, fine. Flashes of cock, not ok.

sirzy nothing wrong with PJS, thats dressed but naked with bits on show in front of kids at meal time...YUK!

If he is sat tucked into a table then how would anyone be able to see his cock even if he was naked? Unless the op has a a glass tble and then maybe she needs a table cloth!

At the very least he should put some pants on, no one wants to catch sight of their father's hairy balls as they sit down to spag bol.

C'mon admit it, how many of you are already in your PJs😂

Sorry OP but YABU. If I had done something physical such as a long bike ride in the afternoon I would shower and put my PJs on.

dressing for dinner has taken on a whole new meaning.

while i think yabu for the view on it being 'slobby' if he's got out of the shower, i think i'd prefer if he at least put some pj trousers and a tshirt on or something.

IT would depend how covered up he was.

If you and the kids are sat exposed to his meat and two veg whilst tucking into your roast, yanbu.

Mind you, this isnt too bad...

I am a real slob but even I wear my day clothes until dinner is eaten, then put pjs on.

If you got him some nice lounge clothes he might wear them? A t shirt and joggers is fine IMO but I wouldn't be so keen on dressing gowns at the dinner table either.

I don't get why you think cooking gives you the right to control what he wears at the dinner table, OP?

My DH cooks our roast every Sunday, but if he tried to tell me what to wear while I'm eating it, I think I'd dunk his balls in the gravy.

It's Sunday evening - relax! (Though perhaps some boxers under the dressing gown wouldn't go amiss...)

I should add, I'd have no problem with pjs. But dressing gowns with nowt underneath can be a bit more revealing.

I have had exactly the same conversation with my dp tonight. I asked him to put a tshirt and shorts or something on instead of a fluffy dressing gown to eat a roast dinner.

Not only do I think dressing gowns are a bit minging to eat roast beef in they are a pain to wash and dry if he either spills gravy on it or dangles his sleeve in his meal.

I don't mind a dressing gown over breakfast or even PJs. It's just a dressing gown isn't practical to eat a meal in. And it looks a bit slobbish imo. A bit like that bloke on Keeping Up Appearances, Onslo was it?

It that makes me a bit Hyacinth Bucket I really don't care.

So because IWNBU YANBU either OP.