To expect DH to wear clothes for meals?

[Ollycat]

My dh thinks I am VERY unreasonable about this!

I cook every day for my family and all I ask in return is that we eat together at the kitchen table and that we wear clothes (as opposed to a dressing gown).

My husband likes to have a shower and put on his dressing gown (no pj's just dressing gown) and feels I'm VU in my requests that he not eat supper like that.

I don't expect people to wear anything fancy - just clothes as opposed to a gaping dressing gown.

I am cooking a roast tonight and he is in a strop because I asked him to wear clothes. I figure that if I put effort into cooking food he should make some effort back.

So MN AIBU?

In my rulebook there are two types of dressing gown. One is the absorbent bathrobe type, to be put on after a shower or bath, and only worn for a few minutes to dry off before putting night or day clothes on. The other is the warm, snuggly type that's worn over nightdress or pyjamas of an evening or lazy day at home.

Either way, neither is suitable for wearing around the house with nowt on underneath, especially not during a meal. OP YANBU. All rise.

Can't see the issue really. If he was sat in his boxers, I could understand it, but he's wearing a dressing gown so I don't really see the issue.

But can you see the issue?

YANBU. Teaches kids good standards. My DH and I jointly insist on clothes at dinner table. Otherwise our DS1&2 would be in their pjs in Tesco next! Or was that another thread?

I think kids learn different standards though. Ie they know it's fine to eat in pjs at home, but they also know to eat out in smart restaurant they need to be in smarter clothes.
A home should be a place you all look forward to being in and being able to do what you like and relax

Oh I only do half the things we do because my parents always were strict and did the opposite.

We were brought up strictly,all eating round the table,super strict about manners etc . We are all really relaxed now with our families and do the exact opposite as we found it so controlling.

Cannot believe the responses! It is really gross and slobby to eat in a dressing gown.

I worked from home today and am still in my dressing gown!

Why Lieby?

Has he not got any ' lounge wear' ,can't he put on some joggers and a tshirt ? You are not being unreasonable

I'd never tell Mr BC what to wear in our own home, or out of it. he can wear whatever he wants!

Do you have 4 course meals with palate cleansers between each one? If not then whats the issue?

Is he sitting there with his man sausage out on display for all to see and drop hot food onto it? No... he is covered up. Its not like his hairy love nuggets are steaming up your chairs

I know someone whose dh insists she never wears pajamas apart from at bedtime,so never just because she's had an early bath and wants to get cosy or just fancies a pajama day if she's poorly.

He's a controlling arse,I could never be with someone who dictates what I wear!

"I worked from home today and am still in my dressing gown!"

Aye, but are you knickers knackers naked underneath it? Trollop! *hoicks bosom

I think it's a bit lazy. And that's from me who is frequently swanning around in my 'housecoat'.
It's a slippery slope I feel...

Buy him a larger dressing gown. It seems a little odd but at least it's a compromise. I always go up a couple of sizes so that it wraps right around.

YABU! You are at home, what difference does it make, I get you have put effort in, but as long as he puts the effort in to actually be there and eat it, I say your winning. I usually cook the tea in my dressing gown let alone eat in it.

Do you work?

So long his dressing gown isn't gaping so badly that he is in danger of spilling gravy on his own meat and two veg, YABU.

YABU (full disclosure, in my dressing gown as I type).

Totally inappropriate. Just about OK for breakfast, but not for dinner. If he really has to shower before dinner then he get dressed in something clean. Does he really spend the whole evening undressed?
And a roast dinner is quite a formal sort of meal. There's no way I'd bothercooking a whole roast dinner for someone who hasn't got the decency to get dressed, it seems really disrespectful. Especially as you've told him how you feel about it.

strawberrisc yes I work (although can't see what difference that makes) - as I said up thread he works from home predominantly and I work in a secondary school.

For those who say I'm controlling and dictating what he does I really don't think saying that I would really appreciate him wearing clothes to supper is controlling his life! It's showing consideration to others and his family (who are all dressed).

I get the feeling half of MN is in some sort of competition with each other to prove they live in pj's (which incidentally he was not wearing).

I fail to believe that a dressing gown is the only thing an adult male can be comfortable in?!

Btw when he was in rehab we talked at length about how him wearing his dressing gown made me feel and how it was symbolic of the hell we had been through so he knows full well how I feel.

YABU he lives there too so i do think he has a say in what he wears! I would go full loops at my husband if he tried to tell me what to wear to eat dinner in my own home.

sorry i didnt read the last comment. From the rehab comment i get the impression that this is about far more than the dressing gown.

YANBU. Though on Sunday it ought to be the main meal in the middle of the day in my opinion.