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AIBU?

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Original poster

To expect DH to wear clothes for meals?

312 replies

Ollycat · 08/01/2017 18:11

My dh thinks I am VERY unreasonable about this!

I cook every day for my family and all I ask in return is that we eat together at the kitchen table and that we wear clothes (as opposed to a dressing gown).

My husband likes to have a shower and put on his dressing gown (no pj's just dressing gown) and feels I'm VU in my requests that he not eat supper like that.

I don't expect people to wear anything fancy - just clothes as opposed to a gaping dressing gown.

I am cooking a roast tonight and he is in a strop because I asked him to wear clothes. I figure that if I put effort into cooking food he should make some effort back.

So MN AIBU?

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RJnomore1 · 08/01/2017 22:41

Pants is not really a very high bar to set is it?

Ameliablue · 08/01/2017 22:51

Yanbu

Suppermummy02 · 08/01/2017 22:57

would a g-string be ok?

pregnantat50 · 08/01/2017 23:02

or a mankini

Ohyesiam · 08/01/2017 23:05

Amazed at the number of people who would be out off their food by the sight of their own sexual partner's body.

Am trying to imagine my reaction if my dp tried to changed the way I dress at home ( or anywhere actually). I would feel controlled.

CockacidalManiac · 08/01/2017 23:05

would a g-string be ok?

Only if it's on the right way round

Mrsbird311 · 08/01/2017 23:07

Rancid behaviour, I can't stand this sloppyness, yes he can put on some decent clothes to eat dinner with his family, what a bad example he is being to his kids, although I have really high standards and think wearing trainers for anything other that sport is scabby , why can't people have some self respect and manners and actually try and look presentable, especially to his wife, sorry your husband is a slob and doesn't care about wether you find him attractive or not, he's also selfish.

HelenaGWells · 09/01/2017 10:32

I'm not a PJs all the time person although it doesn't bother me too much what others wear in their own house. HOWEVER any item of clothing that involves subjecting anyone else in the house to random flashes of your genitals is a NO from me.

HelenaGWells · 09/01/2017 10:36

Amazed at the number of people who would be out off their food by the sight of their own sexual partner's body.

There's a time and a place. I don't want to see ANYONES hugely exposed body at a dining table (including my own). I also think wearing something that flashes your genitals, arse or nipples to the rest of your household is disrespectful. If that makes me a prude I honestly don't care.

PJs = fine
Decent dressing gown over PJs/Shorts or boxers that don't let it all hang out the front = fine
Gaping dressing gown with nothing under it = not fine

LagunaBubbles · 09/01/2017 10:40

Well, I wouldn't like to be seeing my DH's meat and two vegbits if he was sat at the table across from me tbh

What height is your dinner table?? Unless its floor level or your DH is a giant I wouldnt have thought this would be an issue! Grin

Cherryskypie · 09/01/2017 10:40

Exposed pubic hair should not be in the vicinity of gravy

MrsHathaway · 09/01/2017 10:53

Well, I wouldn't like to be seeing my DH's meat and two vegbits if he was sat at the table across from me tbh

What height is your dinner table?? Unless its floor level or your DH is a giant I wouldnt have thought this would be an issue! grin

Glass table?

kel12345 · 09/01/2017 11:01

I don't see how people are comfortable without wearing clothes tbh.

Original poster
Ollycat · 09/01/2017 11:08

The table is normal height and wood.

I just think it's about respect and appreciation of the effort others have put in - it's nothing to do with whether someone's body is repulsive.

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GobblersKnob · 09/01/2017 11:09

Wouldn't bat an eyelid if we all ate naked tbh, dd would probably eyeroll, ds would be thrilled and think it hilarious.

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Ollycat · 09/01/2017 11:13

Also sitting in a dressing gown when the rest of the family ar dressed is a little odd imo. For those who say I'm controlling I'm probably the least controlling person around- if he wants to sit in the sitting room in his dressing gown - fine (although would still prefer the addition of pj bottoms - my question was specifically about eating evening meals at the kitchen table.

BTW for those who comment about him coming home from a hard day etc etc - he works from home and wears casual clothes- I work out of the home and need to wear smarter clothes.

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1horatio · 09/01/2017 11:25

I wouldn't care. We often have breakfast in our dressing gown. Sometimes even in our yard (only in summer) or the sun room.

However, you are supposed to feel comfortable in your own house. So, you guys need to find a compromise. And I struggle to believe that pyjama bottoms or pants could have such ah big impact on somebody's physical comfort. Especially if he were to wear the stretchy kind.

Original poster
Ollycat · 09/01/2017 11:29

1horatio have no issue with breakfast in dressing gowns- as I said it's specifically about evening meals.

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LagunaBubbles · 09/01/2017 11:31

Glass table?

ShockGrin

LagunaBubbles · 09/01/2017 11:32

It wouldnt bother me at all, but I cant see it being comfy either.

1horatio · 09/01/2017 11:33

No, olly, I know. (We've also had supper in dressing gowns. Just a few days ago DD burped on DH and he thought that getting dressed so late in the evening was useless...)

But my main point was actually compromise.

Both of you need to feel comfortable. So, if he can't agree to a compromise... idk. No more food for him?

OptimisticSix · 09/01/2017 11:47

Don't see the problem. I really only.put proper clothes on if I'm leaving the house :D

AnUtterIdiot · 09/01/2017 12:03

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bunnylove99 · 09/01/2017 12:15

YANBU. I would expect my DH to still be dressed at 6-30pm. He is not a toddler on his way to bed. Unfortunately OP I think this is just a sign of our times. He doesn't go round Tesco in it too I hope?! ( see various pj threads!).

ProseccoBitch · 09/01/2017 12:25

YABU. If my DP started telling me what I could or couldn't wear to eat my evening meal I would leave him.