To expect DH to wear clothes for meals?

[Ollycat]

My dh thinks I am VERY unreasonable about this!

I cook every day for my family and all I ask in return is that we eat together at the kitchen table and that we wear clothes (as opposed to a dressing gown).

My husband likes to have a shower and put on his dressing gown (no pj's just dressing gown) and feels I'm VU in my requests that he not eat supper like that.

I don't expect people to wear anything fancy - just clothes as opposed to a gaping dressing gown.

I am cooking a roast tonight and he is in a strop because I asked him to wear clothes. I figure that if I put effort into cooking food he should make some effort back.

So MN AIBU?

YANBU.

Bit of a social divide here in this debate. Those who think dining is a formal occasion and those who want to relax, chill and just let it hang. Why does the human body need to be hidden even when in the privacy of ones own home. I mean its not as if you haven't put your tongue on/in/around every part of it.

Unless you have a see through table, what can you actually see except a potentially hairy chest.

If wearing a dressing gown is so distressing to look at when eating, why do you even want to continue the relationship?

YANBU OP. It's ok for breakfast but, like you, I go to an effort to cook for DH and so why would I want him looking dozy at the table? Nor would I want the kids copying this, unless they're ill or it's cheese on toast or something.

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Sure. But I don't think it matters whether we'd be bothered. The OP is uncomfortable and she shouldn't be uncomfortable in her own home.

Some pants or Pyjama bottoms should be a doable compromise for her DH.

Unless his plums are splashing around in the gravy, YABU.

Eew. Yanbu! Gaping you say? The only meat and 2 veg I'd like to see whilst eating are the ones on my plate thanks!
I have no advice but I'm feel sorry for you 😷

To those who say it is his house - I was under the impression that it was just as much my house as his

Of course it is your house too. You are not being remotely unreasonable. I would not cook anything for him.

You could sew some small magnets into the front edges of the dressing gown so that it clamps itself shut automatically :-D?
I would feel the same as you about it, tho I can't fully justify how strongly I feel...It just seems wrong!

YANBU

I don't understand how some can get so worked up about this type of thing. He's showered, he's clean he wants to be comfortable. If this is your biggest issue think yourself lucky!!

Yanbu to expect people to be dressed for dinner! Breakfast in a dressing gown yes. Dinner? Bloody hell no.

I once dated some bloke who came down to breakfast in shorts. I aent him back to out a top on. It didnt last. He went to the gun everyday and had a six pack but theres a time and a place for a sixnpack and it isnt the dining table. I said it was as bad as english men holidaying abroad who think it is acceptable to go to lunch in a restautant topless. He said he did that too. Nail in the coffin comment.

If he tied a (ahem) dickie bow around it, would that make him more presentable at dinner?

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Like a penis ring :0?

I think he may find pants more comfortable

But the OP hasn't said at any point that he wears just a dressing gown and no underwear has she?
Underwear and dressing gown, round a table, the only thin you're going to see is a bit of male chest, hardly awful or off putting.
IF he hasn't got anything on at all under the dressing gown and sits in a way that he exposes himself that isn't ok, but even if he didnt wear underwear but the only exposure was chest its hardly a crime. If you get to dictate what he wears, it's only fair he gets to do the same back. I bet everyone would go batshit if a man tried to insist his wife "cover herself up" or "wears less". Why is it OK with any of you that a woman is actively dictating what a man can or cannot wear?
If he insists on wearing it ask him to eat elsewhere or move elsewhere to eat yourself if its such a major problem.

Like a penis ring

Only a black ring; it's more formal

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If my attire made DH uncomfortable in his own home (well, ours, obviously) I'd try to find a compromise.

cock true. Black tie and everything

Would this be OK

If the ghost of Mike Read turned up dressed like that, I'd shit myself.

Mike Reid, rather.
Mike Read would just sing you a racist calypso

:) Not sure shitting yourself is good manners at the dinner table cock

He could wear something like this? Just pull it over your head, it covers everything and is probably super comfortable?

Not sure shitting yourself is good manners at the dinner table cock

I believed it's acceptable if one is fully dressed.

My ex bf once put a bow tie round his todger...as well as a feather thing on a stick. I was shocked as this was only the second time we had got physical, and the pink feather was a bit camp and a turn off..

He did well to get a stick down there