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Original poster

To say no to courier.

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anannoyinglylongusername · 08/01/2017 16:21

Amazon courier just asked to use the loo. I was alone in the house with a baby. I said no and immediately dropped a note to Amazon to say I wasn't impressed that it made me feel uncomfortable.

I feel a bit bad now...remind me that I did the right thing please?!

OP posts:
CantChoose · 08/01/2017 16:34

I would probably have said no if I was home alone but wouldn't have complained. Seems a bit overkill...

HunterHearstHelmsley · 08/01/2017 16:35

I probably wouldn't have let him use the toilet. But complaining was incredibly spiteful.

StewieGMum · 08/01/2017 16:35

Saying no is absolutely acceptable. But complaining to Amazon was uncalled for. If he'd been pushy or rude about the no, then a complaint would have been appropriate. Asking the question wasn't wrong.

AgentProvocateur · 08/01/2017 16:35

What a thankless job couriers have. I'd have let him in to use the loo - its basic human kindness, isn't it? And a huge overreaction to complain to his employers. What were you thinking of?

EmeraldScorn · 08/01/2017 16:36

I can understand you not feeling comfortable with giving someone you don't know access to your home (I would have let him use the toilet but I have friends who would have refused like you did) but what I definitely can not understand is why you'd bring it to the attention of Amazon, there was no need to do that in my opinion and I hope he doesn't lose his job over it.

RoseGoldHippie · 08/01/2017 16:36

Why did you complain? It seems petty I hope you do feel bad.

Not letting him in isn't an issue and he didn't try to change your mind, we was probably desperate.

ShatnersBassoon · 08/01/2017 16:36

Your choice whether to let him in or not, but following up with a complaint is just unkind. It must be hard to find a public toilet at this time on a Sunday, so he asked for a favour not knowing you were alone and felt vulnerable.

What do you want his employer to do?

icelollycraving · 08/01/2017 16:36

It's fine to say no but OTT to complain to his company.

Jellybean83 · 08/01/2017 16:37

Each to their own, if it makes you uncomfortable then YANBU, personally I would allow it. YABU to complain about it to Amazon though, I find that a bit strange actually unless of course he got nasty with you when you said no, which I'm guessing he never since it would've been in your OP.

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2017 16:37

Fair enough to say no, but complaining to Amazon wasn't ok, they are notoriously tough and the odds are the guy might lose his job, we all get caught short sometime and basically getting someone fired as they asked to use your loo and happily accepted uou saying no is not nice.

harderandharder2breathe · 08/01/2017 16:39

I can understand not letting him in but complaining that he even asked is mean and over the top

ShatnersBassoon · 08/01/2017 16:39

I made amazon aware as I thought it might prevent someone more vulnerable being put in the same position

Someone more vulnerable to what? What position were you put in? Confused

therealpippi · 08/01/2017 16:39

I would have let him in.

Chocoholicmonster · 08/01/2017 16:39

I probably would of let him use it. But I understand why you didn't. I do think you ate completely unreasonable to fire off an email to Amazon though. It's not as if he stood there & verbally abused you for saying no...

therealpippi · 08/01/2017 16:40

The "in this day and age" argument makes my blood boil tbh...

PinkSwimGoggles · 08/01/2017 16:40

tbh I don't think he was wring to ask, but you were also not wrong to decline.

Ditsyprint40 · 08/01/2017 16:40

Particularly sad that you complained considering the recent news about how amazon drivers are treated.

PotatoWaffleCob · 08/01/2017 16:41

You've probably cost him his job by complaining. Fair enough not letting him in but why the need to tell on him? I'd have said yes but stayed at the open door.

Original poster
anannoyinglylongusername · 08/01/2017 16:41

Now I really do feel bad. I really didn't think he would get in serious trouble for asking I would have expected that they would speak with him to have him understand that it's not appropriate and how it could make someone feel uncomfortable and then suggest some alternative places to find a toilet.

I really don't think an employer can fire someone for something like this?? Can they?

I was his employer I would offer some.guidance on how to better manage it next time.

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paxillin · 08/01/2017 16:42

YABU to complain to Amazon. Was it so bad that this guy should lose his job?

user1467976192 · 08/01/2017 16:43

Bit mean to complain to Amazon, chances are he was desperate else he wouldn't have asked, he asked you said no he left, in no way was you vulnerable or put out,

Original poster
anannoyinglylongusername · 08/01/2017 16:43

I think he needs some guidance not to lose his job Confused

what employer would jump straight to dismissal??

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Blueemeraldagain · 08/01/2017 16:44

I wouldn't have let him in but I wouldn't have complained either. Seems a little over the top/spiteful.

Rosieposy4 · 08/01/2017 16:44

Totally unreasonable to complain to amazon, and if you have been hiding for the past year and are unaware what a bad employer they are then a quick google before jeopardising someones job would have helped.

exaltedwombat · 08/01/2017 16:45

Mail straight back making it clear he made a polite request and didn't argue when you refused. You may have got him into trouble. For needing a pee.

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