To feel my sil has insulted my child

[BlueParrott]

Grrrrrr. I'm so angry. Last night we went to my future pil to celebrate our engagement. My son came along too. My fiancée was playing with my son and my son was trying to say dada. My future sil was there and she said my son shouldn't call her brother dad as he's obviously not his dad and he'll be confused when he grows up. For reference my son is mixed race and my fiancée is white so yes it is obvious he's not his dad but why say it?

My fiancée told her to shut up and his parents looked shocked. Anyway the night went on and all was fine. Aibu to feel she's insulted my child?

I'd say she's insulted everyone

I'm assuming your son is too young to have understood what she said? In which case, no she hasn't insulted your child.

I'm not really sure how she's insulted your child, but she was rude.

You have a young baby who is at the babbling stage and you're engaged to another man already.

I don't think she was insulting your child no. However she was being very very rude and judgemental, it's nothing to do with her and you and your partners decision on whether he calls him dad or not.

Yabu because it's one comment and life's too short to make big deals of little things.

I don't think she was insulting your child at all. Is your son's biological dad still in the picture?

How old is your child? Is he really just a baby??

goodness that was fast work.

wherestheevidence

So what?

You have a young baby who is at the babbling stage and you're engaged to another man already

You sound easily shocked!

No op, I don't think she insulted your DS. She was rude though and it's none of her business.

She didn't insult your child but her comment was rude and none of her business.

Lots of people have parents who aren't genetically related to them.

It's nothing to do with her what your son calls your fiancee. She should've kept her mouth shut. Carry on as you were and congratulations on your engagement.

Does your son have contact with his birth father? In which case could that be what your fiance sister is referring to? Because if your son has a "daddy" already, presumably he won't be calling your fiancee "daddy"?

However, that said it's none of her business ess

She was rude

However , can you not try and teach your DC your partners name instead of dada

You have a young baby who is at the babbling stage and you're engaged to another man already.

this really? how old is your child?

maybe your future SIL was annoyed at the speed that you are engaged to her Dbro?

I agree with her, but that may be because I've known people letting their young children call every new boyfriend dad and it's all gone tits up when the relationship broke down or the child found out for themselves later on. It's easier to be clear with the child from the start.

Well I would say it's up to you, the child's father and your fiancé what your son calls people, not the wider family.

It might not have anything to do with him being mixed race though. That's a bit of a leap unless there is anything else that she's said to make you think otherwise.

I don't think she was insulting to him, he wouldn't have a clue probably. Her view was expressed very bluntly.
Not her business.

It's not easily shocked to think this is unusual.

She has a point. If your son has a biological dad in the picture calling another man dada at that age will be confusing. Just how if a stepmum is in the picture calling her mum at that age would piss a lot of mums off

It was rude of her, I don't think it's any of her business

I think she insulted her brother by suggesting he can never call himself father to your child.