AIBU to be annoyed that they cleared my grandma's house a week after she went in a care home?

[Stiffanky]

My grandma is 96 and until the end of December2016, lived on her own. Over the past few months she's been getting more forgetful and has been wandering off on her own (without a coat in the cold) and getting lost. My parents made the decision that for her own safety she should go in a care home. They were going to put her in before Christmas but I insisted that she be with family for Christmas and so she went in on 28th December. I specifically told my parents not to throw anything of hers away until I'd had a chance to see her house and her things. I've found the process really difficult and emotional and I just wanted to spend some time in her home as it was, with her personality and character in it. Here we are, what, 10 days later and I discover that my dad has basically cleared her house, thrown loads of her stuff away and not even given me the opportunity to go there.... so many of my memories are in that house of her and my late grandpa and I find his lack of empathy so upsetting. Just had a blazing row with my parents about it... AIBU?

But how far do you take it?

I took it as far as an email to my children and nieces and nephews: "Is there anything in particular of Gran's that you want?"

Which is more consideration than the OP was shown.

I can understand that worked for you SenecaFalls. I am not saying that the OP was treated well but I can see that if a person has no sentimental attachment to possessions then they may not see that the question even needed asking. Perhaps the OP's DF mistakenly thought he was protecting the OP from getting overly attached to what to him seemed like meaningless objects.

OP, glad you and your father have resolved your differences. I hope you find there is still something left in her house that you can keep to treasure as a reminder of your Grandma in better times.