To ask if this is rape?

[user1483448360]

Asking because I thought it was but now I'm doubting myself so please be gentle with me.

A man and a woman have known each other for a while and get on well. They have always had a very flirtatious relationship but nothing more has ever come of it than that.

One night they are both flirting with each other and joking around. He leans in to kiss her but she doesn't want to and moves away from him. He then gets pissed off and tells her to stop teasing him. He then holds her down and has sex with her despite her telling him no and to stop it but she can't struggle or fight him off.

I thought this was rape because she said no but she didn't struggle/fight him and she had been flirting with him so now am confused.

Please don't be too harsh with me.

[BorrowedHearts]

Calm down, I only ever hear shit like that on here. I think you need to relax and try and respond without sounding so defensive.

[Patriciathestripper1]

Op you are do brave keep strong and hold your head high. You have done nothing wrong. Well done for reporting him incase he thinks he can do this again to anyone else.
mum what horrible morals you must have that you would cover up for your son. Let's hope he dosnt grow up thinking he can do what he likes and mum will cover it all up for him so he has no consequences for his actions!!

[MrsTerryPratchett]

And I only hear, "calm down" from misogynists.

Sorry for the derail OP. I hope you're getting the support you need. I'm going to stop engaging now, because it's your thread. Sorry again.

[RebelRogue]

I only ever hear shit like that on here

Unless you're a victim and then all you hear is what were you wearing/doing there,why were you smiling/laughing, that you were acting like a bitch in heat(direct quote from a teacher there), how dare you wear a low cut top,no wonder they did that to you,stop kissing him/sitting on his lap, and aww he was drunk ,haha cheeky bugger how daring and amusing, maybe I shouldn't pay him as he's getting his own pay,regardless if you were 13,14 or 18 or the relationship to the abuser. Because boobs and vagina and poor confused menz.

[Bananabread123]

Borrowed

So you've said 'no' when you meant 'yes'?! That goodness that your partner didn't continue when you said 'no' and had actually meant 'no'.... By suggesting that 'no' can sometimes mean 'yes' you are being utterly irresponsible... needlessly confusing men, and potentially putting women at risk of rape, all because you think it's ok to play mind games when it comes to sexual consent.

[Bananabread123]

'Thank goodness' not 'that goodness'

[moreofaslummythanyummy]

Oh OP my heart is breaking for you I wish I could reach through the screen and give you a hug .
Please get in touch with someone to talk you through this , you have done nothing wrong .
You are not to blame at all and I am sure the police believe you .

[Oldraver]

@Ajaysmith

Why are you resurecting old rape threads ?

[Ajaysmith]

Sorry - was trying to reach likeminded people. I’m new to Mumsnet!

[RebelRogue]

On rape threads only?

[picklemepopcorn]

She's posting rape petition. It's not sinister, but it is distressing to see the thread reignite when people have moved on.

[DawnMumsnet]

Hi all,

This thread was started a year ago and we don't expect the OP would want it to be reactivated now so we're going to suspend posting on it.

for the OP.