For someone to say that they only find blokes from their own race attractive?

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Hi, trying to settle an argument here:

One friend (30s) says she only 'fancies' blokes from same race as hers (white). This is her personal preference, she says she can't change how she feels and is NOT a racist. She is not a malicious person at all and is actually not an outspoken person on topics of race, religion and politics (unlike other friends of mine!).

Friend 2 says you can't only express this but you can't think it as "you are almost certainly a racist"' (if you feel like this).

Friend 3 feels that friend 3 mightn't be a racist and can feel that way, but MUST NEVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES MENTION THIS TO ANYONE etc etc in case it offends.

I kind of agree with friend 3, as I feel that you like what you like. Maybe it's a bit narrow minded to say "right, that's it, I know what I like and I'm not budging" etc etc, but as long as she doesn't share this preference with others (where she could obviously pointlessly offend someone and be labelled a racist etc etc), she's keeping a private opinion to herself, surely?

Just wanted an opinion as v uncomfortable discussion!

Munter?

Blimey, I so would.

I'm only attracted to greying, slightly overweight same height as me men!

I fucking hate weight lifter muscles. Am I "muscleist"?

I don't think it's racist. It's preference.

Like saying I find blondes attractive.

Its the definition of visceral racism.

I'm not attracted to blonde blokes. In principle, I'm open to the possibility that it might happen, it just hasn't so far.

Having said that, I don't think publically expressing the view that you are not attracted to non whites would be a particularly good idea.

I'd be inclined to agree with the friend who thinks she should keep that under wraps.

I don't see what disability has to do with anything. It has no impact on 'type'

In my experience women who say they only find their own race attractive have prob been rejected a couple times by other races & probably say that to save face. It's a known fact that some people from some backgrounds have far narrower beauty ideals than white British men. For example I'm half Indian and half Thai and most of the British Indian and Thai men in my communities wouldn't ever date a woman over a size 10 regardless of race.

Pollyxcx, have v similar type to you!

Do you think saying that SOME black men look thuggish is bad? Where I live white OR black men sometimes look this way!!

You're asking some quite odd questions, OP.

I am very uncomfortable with someone saying they don't fancy black men because black men differ from each other in very many ways, and to discount a whole raft of people is implying that they are all alike in fundamental ways. And that's prejudiced

My dniece is white and doesn't find white men attractive at all. She only dates black or mixed race men. She can't explain why

My type' Anthony Head, Hugh Dennis, the posh blonde bloke from Friends, Colin Firth cuts it, the other one in Bridget Jones doesn't. Guess what DH is like - no prizes - blonde, blue eyed, bit square in physique, bit old fogey. Am I physically attracted to dark, Mediterranean types - eh no! Black or Asian men even less physically although I know some who are charming and good company.

Have also worked in a very diverse sector. Have heard black women say often that white men don't cut it in bed or out - that once a white woman has had a black man there's no going back. All said in quite a loud and rude way. Yet, if a white woman in their company were to hint she wouldn't go out with a black man, racism would be called.

Racism works both ways ime.

When I was single never had a problem attracting men - even those who've never dated a woman of my ethnic background. I think it's because I'm clean, well presented, and like to think I'm nice to be around. I opened horizons lol.

DailyFail1, the girl in question is propositioned all the time by men of all races and is objectively a classic beauty. Bitch!

wowbutter I can't really see where your coming from with your example. Surely a preference that is based on the genital equipment someone has is not the same as a visual preference.

I like swarthy, stocky men and not blond men.

I had black boyfriend who was stocky and muscly but have never dated a skinny black man.

Basically I am Starsky not Hutch.

It also makes no sense to discount the attractiveness of all blonde men, but since no-one has pinned negative characteristics onto blond men in the past, it's less damaging than discounting the attractiveness of black men, to whom people certainly have been negative about.

I love tall broad black men - think Jamaican or Nigerian not Somalian. Unfortunately for me I never met a guy of that type willing to date me. Maybe one day lol.

Sorry, Bitchy, was meant to be a rhetorical question! Forgottten what my point was!

I can be attracted to black men, but I notice its mostly men who have some white features to their face. But I'm not attracted to all white men either. And I bet your friend isn't either.

Racist would be not accepting her friends, or relatives, having black partners. Or rejecting friendships with anyone not white.

Sexual attractiveness is different.

OP she'd probably combust if she was approached by a blonde haired green eyed Indian like my brother than.

I think everyone has characteristics they are attracted to, and that's fine. I had never thought of those in terms of a race issue tho, and wouldn't see mine as 'i could never be attracted to , just as, 'i DO like...'.
Personally it would make me uncomfortable to think or talk in that way (and I really couldn't know that there is NO ONE of a particular race that I'd find attractive, it's not a completely logical thing!).

I'm not sure I have a type.

Take The Walking Dead, for example. I fancied Rick, Daryl, Morgan and Glenn.

I don't like shaved heads. The only bald men I've known have been very aggressive and mysoginistic.

My dniece is white and doesn't find white men attractive at all. She only dates black or mixed race men. She can't explain why

Research suggests that we are attracted to the type we grew up close to.

If from a mainly white area, then you're probably more attracted to white men.
If you grew up around different races, then you're probably less picky about a particular group.

DailyFail1, your brother sounds lovely!