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Original poster

AIBU Stop taking pictures of my baby!

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jammydodger92 · 27/12/2016 16:01

My OH's family are starting to really annoy me....Mostly his sister. Every time we see them one or more of them they take pictures of my baby. Now I don't mind the odd picture being taken to create memories and we send them pictures almost every day if she's doing something new or in a nice outfit. His sister goes over the top though and takes multiple pictures of my baby during the visit shoving her phone in her face in order to do it. One night she was asleep and his sister took about five pictures all the same!

We've told them not to take so many to which we've been met with them saying what's the problem? she's my niece or whatever I can take as many as I want.

On Christmas day night my baby wasn't feeling well as she had just had her injections a couple of days before and was very clingy and teary. She stopped crying and had a nice few mins of smiles with his sister, mum and myself. Without hesitation his sister got out her phone to take a picture to which I stopped her straight away and said no don't take any pictures. She said sorry but then and went and sat on the other side of the room in a huff.
We had sent everyone a picture in the morning with a sign saying it's my first Christmas so it's not like they didn't have any pictures of her on a special day.

I just hate the fact people think they have a right to do whatever they want with her just just because they are related. Am I being so unreasonable? There are other things going on with his family too but this is the main thing that annoys me and my OH.

OP posts:
gillybeanz · 27/12/2016 17:07

She's also your oh baby, isn't she? What's with all the My?
I don't understand whats wrong with her taking pictures, and why others have to do what you want.
very strange, maybe mention it to your hv.

daisypond · 27/12/2016 17:11

I'm really surprised that so many people think that it is OK for someone to take photos of a child when the parent has specifically said not to. At school, parents have to sign permission slips for photographs and those children without permission to be photographed must not be photographed.

hugoh · 27/12/2016 17:11

The op can't be that bothered about it as she's not come back.
Perhaps she's busy guarding the baby.

MikeUniformMike · 27/12/2016 17:11

Candlestick, maybe, if so will OP ignore my post please. I have a friend who used to take photos all the time (well not all the time but sneaky ones and too often for comfort), and what I said then was "any more surprise photos and I break your effin camera". it worked.

littlepeas · 27/12/2016 17:13

Possibly one of the most fabulously pfb threads I have read on here - not just the complaint itself, but the way it's been worded. Massive cringe!

RebeccatheOld · 27/12/2016 17:13

User

I'm well aware of that, thank you.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 27/12/2016 17:13

At school, parents have to sign permission slips for photographs and those children without permission to be photographed must not be photographed.

It's like comparing apples and oranges saying people who are strangers are the same as family members

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 27/12/2016 17:14

Thing is the OP is probably the kind of person who'd start a thread when no one takes an interest in her second child when it comes along!

Botanicbaby · 27/12/2016 17:15

"Now I don't mind the odd picture being taken to create memories and we send them pictures almost every day if she's doing something new or in a nice outfit. His sister goes over the top "

Sounds like you are the one who goes over the top! Sending pics almost every day?!

Perhaps new auntie feels she's not doing anything wrong as you take loads of pics too? At least she's showing interested in the baby (which isn't just yours btw).

Original poster
jammydodger92 · 27/12/2016 17:17

Sorry, I've been too busy barricading the front door so nobody can come and see my baby. (That's me being sarcastic btw)

I'd rather his family experience her and interact with her in person rather than through a camera. It's not like I don't let them take any pictures of her because I do. I just don't see the point of them having the same picture 10 times of her asleep in the same position... seems weird to me. I personally wouldn't stick a camera in my sisters children's faces but I guess everyone is different.

Oh and I have told my HV about it and she said it's normal so for all of you suggesting I have mental issues you are wrong Smile

OP posts:
Candlestickchick · 27/12/2016 17:17

daisypond

No one is saying to do it against the OP's will, her post says that when told to stop doing it the SIL stopped doing it but was huffy. The point is it's unreasonable to ask her to stop in the first place.

mikeuniformmike

I think the break the camera one is better! I just think to threaten to stop an aunt who clearly seems to love her niece from ever seeing her is relationship ending stuff.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 27/12/2016 17:20

I'd rather his family experience her and interact with her in person rather than through a camera.

Haha. Unless they only ever have a camera on their face when interacting with her this is silly

It's not like I don't let them take any pictures of her because I do. I just don't see the point of them having the same picture 10 times of her asleep in the same position.

No different to your endless daily pictures I'm sure!

Seriously you need to get a bit of perspective on this OP. And remember she's not your baby nor is she a possession.

user1480946351 · 27/12/2016 17:20

I'm really surprised that so many people think that it is OK for someone to take photos of a child when the parent has specifically said not to

Are you one of those people who think that parents own their child and get to decide how they interact with the world? Because they don't.

Candlestickchick · 27/12/2016 17:21

OP- I interact with my nephews and nieces in person as well as taking pictures. They're not mutually exclusive.

I see them every couple of weeks and miss them desperately in between, and honestly spend time just looking at the pictures I have taken. I'm sure you're SIL does the same. It's incredibly spiteful and inconsiderate to want to jeopardise a family relationship between your daughter and her aunt because of an issue which is to do with you and control and nothing to do with the welfare of your child.

Anyone who says you have mental issues is being unkind - I'm not saying you have mental issues, you're just an overprotective mother who needs to get over herself.

SheldonCRules · 27/12/2016 17:23

So if they take a picture they are not interacting with her but that's not the case for when you do.

Maybe they do it intentionally to wind you up, revenge for the daily photos they get sent. Daily pictures is very OTT and would be annoying for most people.

TaliDiNozzo · 27/12/2016 17:25

Is this a joke or a reverse?

If not you are being utterly ridiculous and PFB. I'm betting you're also the parent who would complain bitterly if family didn't bother at all.

Original poster
jammydodger92 · 27/12/2016 17:25

And in regards to the photo's we send...we only send them to people who ask for them...we don't just send them to people who don't want them or ask for them.

OP posts:
CherryChasingDotMuncher · 27/12/2016 17:26

How old is your DD OP?

Relatives actually ask for daily pictures?

LittleBearPad · 27/12/2016 17:28

You actually spoke to your HV about this Confused. Really.

Candlestickchick · 27/12/2016 17:30

OP I will back you in sending daily pictures. We all love to receive them in our family.

EggnoggAndMulledWine · 27/12/2016 17:31

Yabu

Lorelei76 · 27/12/2016 17:32

OP I understand why it's annoying.

Botanicbaby · 27/12/2016 17:37

And in regards to the photo's we send...we only send them to people who ask for them...we don't just send them to people who don't want them or ask for them.

But why do you indulge them? And not your Wink babies aunt?

Daily pics?! Wtaf...I'd be creating an AIBU about people requesting I send those rather than about an aunt taking pics. I think you know YABU. (No one should say you have a mental disorder though!).

ChocoChou · 27/12/2016 17:40

I had a friend who asked me if I wanted to be included on a group album thing where she would update with pics of her LO...
it's not actually possible to refuse this without the new mum being pretty offended you don't want to see PFB every day, believe me I tried Grin

PurpleMinionMummy · 27/12/2016 17:41

too busy laughing at how you must be right cos a HV said so Grin

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