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AIBU Stop taking pictures of my baby!

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jammydodger92 · 27/12/2016 16:01

My OH's family are starting to really annoy me....Mostly his sister. Every time we see them one or more of them they take pictures of my baby. Now I don't mind the odd picture being taken to create memories and we send them pictures almost every day if she's doing something new or in a nice outfit. His sister goes over the top though and takes multiple pictures of my baby during the visit shoving her phone in her face in order to do it. One night she was asleep and his sister took about five pictures all the same!

We've told them not to take so many to which we've been met with them saying what's the problem? she's my niece or whatever I can take as many as I want.

On Christmas day night my baby wasn't feeling well as she had just had her injections a couple of days before and was very clingy and teary. She stopped crying and had a nice few mins of smiles with his sister, mum and myself. Without hesitation his sister got out her phone to take a picture to which I stopped her straight away and said no don't take any pictures. She said sorry but then and went and sat on the other side of the room in a huff.
We had sent everyone a picture in the morning with a sign saying it's my first Christmas so it's not like they didn't have any pictures of her on a special day.

I just hate the fact people think they have a right to do whatever they want with her just just because they are related. Am I being so unreasonable? There are other things going on with his family too but this is the main thing that annoys me and my OH.

OP posts:
pollymere · 30/12/2016 10:59

As long as they don't get put online, let them enjoy her too. It is annoying but the excitement should wear off and you'll be able to make a scrapbook!

Bauble16 · 30/12/2016 11:05

Talk about being previous and controlling.

Bauble16 · 30/12/2016 11:05

Precious

38cody · 31/12/2016 16:30

YABU. STOP being so precious , it's her niece and she's proud of her, probably taking lots to get that one fave shot to show to people. You sound hard work and very unreasonable to me.

WeAllHaveWings · 31/12/2016 16:48

I'm with OP, this modern phenomena of constantly taking photos and sticking unwelcome phones in adults and children's faces constantly is obtrusive, annoying and rude. Take a photo or two of your family at Xmas then put the phone away and enjoy being there.

It would be much better for the aunt and niece's social development to actually interact together without the lens.

angeldelightedme · 02/01/2017 08:17

You need to take the lead by stopping bombarding them with photos

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 21/09/2018 04:54

I know exactly what you mean @jammydodger92

My mil was the same when DD was born. I don't mind photos, but it was at the point where she was only looking at her through the bloody phone and not actually spending time with her.

MaryShelley1818 · 21/09/2018 05:27

ZOMBIE THREAD!!!!

BeenThereDone · 21/09/2018 06:00

Smh

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 21/09/2018 07:29

FFS. Why do people bump and old thread to comment to the OP? It's nearly 2 years old. Angry

storm11111 · 21/09/2018 14:41

New Aunt here. I think you need to stop being so protective and recognise that yes you are the babies mother and nothing can ever replace that but your new child is part of your family and as long as the photos arn't being posted on social media, they are doing absolutely no harm whatsoever and you're being overly controlling by insisting everybody engage with your baby through your 'official' snaps only! Which FYI are your memories of baby not everyone elses! Loosen the reigns a little! Your buba isn't part of the royal family!

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 21/09/2018 14:54

So you don’t voluntarily send photos, only when people ask.

But when SIL doesn’t send you photos that you haven’t asked for it’s weird Confused

Ok then.

I don’t think you’re wrong to feel irritated - I find it weird that people put their idle musings on twitter to broadcast - but why would I let it bother me when it literally has no impact on me at all?

Unclench and stop letting this bother you. It’s such a non issue.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 21/09/2018 14:55

FUCKING HELL ZOMBIE THREAD 🧟‍♀️ 🧟‍♂️

Hope the OP calmed down a bit.

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