AIBU to be very annoyed with my brother?!

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I am sorry to be posting this on Christmas Eve, I know it's it really in the spirit of Christmas but I'm so annoyed right now and don't know if I am being unreasonable or if I'm just hormonal and tired.

I've been busy all day prepping cleaning and food for tonight as well as tomorrow. Family coming over tonight for a meal and bringing my brother with them. (He is staying for Christmas.)

Told him in advance that he would need to bring whatever he would need for his stay with him as I didn't want to be driving him to pick it up at 11 o'clock at night after friends go.

He has just rung to say that he didn't get his things ready as he went to the cinema instead. and after our guests go he will need a lift back to his flat to collect his items and presents etc and then be brought back here.

That means I can't drink anything with dinner and will be driving very late at night which I hate. It will be atleast an hour round trip plus however long he needs to 'get his stuff ready.'

I am fuming and have said I don't want to do it but have been told by my father that I am 'despicable' to say that I will not go and collect him
and my mum is crying saying I am ruining it for everyone.

Guess who their favourite child is so I am being made to feel like an awful person for not wanting to take him back.

AIBU?

Why haven't they offered to pay for his taxi if they're so bothered?

These people really don't deserve to have Christmas with you.

They are treating you like absolute shit.

You're going have to politely tell your parents where to get off. Let them weep & wail & blame you. Either that or there's an expectation that you'll be running after your brother for the next 50 years?

You're not your brothers keeper

You have no choice other than to take him - but do it Boxing Day. It's tough if he's got no spare clothes or presents, he choose not to organise himself and those are the consequences.

Well I think your Dad is despicable for calling you despicable and your Mum is ruining it by crying and saying you are ruining it. Bunch of bastards.

Congratulations.

I would take your brother's behaviour (not getting his stuff sorted in time, prioritising a trip to the cinema over getting himself ready (how long does that take?)) as a cry for help. Please stop pandering and let him face the consequences of his actions. Starting now, hurrah.

Does he have form for this sort of thing? Do your parents have form for this sort of thing?

I guess it depends on whether you have the strength to stand your ground lass.

He's a cheeky sod and so are they for saying you're ruining christmas - he should have been organised - you're already putting youself out by having him there ... tell him the presents will wait until someone takes him home!

26! More than old enough to be capable of organising himself like THE ADULT HE IS and Christmas or not I'd have 'invited' them all to leave for such behaviour - you are not a taxi service!

Time to stand up for yourself.

Drive em all home. Come back and enjoy your Christmas.

for you OP or failing that, vodka. It sounds like you'll need it to get through the weekend!

Don't give in and if your parents carry on then tell them to bugger off home.

I really hope you haven't gone op, stand up for yourself - how's he getting to your house tonight? Couldn't he go en route or does he mind putting other people out? I'm angry on your behalf and about the start the vino myself!

So what have you done OP.....

.....let me guess....you ran around after him....

DON'T YOU DARE GO AND GET HIM!!

WE FORBID YOU!!!

Have you posted about him before? I seem to remember someone posting about a similar manchild of a brother with enabling parents.

If not, it's a shame to think there are two in the country.

He created this mess - let him sort it out. Your parents should stop babying him and taking his side.

Your brother is an adult, surely he can make his way to your house tomorrow morning.
Tour parents are acting like drama queens and are realy being very unnecessary.
Pour yourself a drink, put your feet up and tell them to get over it.

I haven't done anything. He's on his way over here to join the rest of us with two family members who are coming for dinner and then going home (they'll be here again tomorrow.) They could drop him home but he wouldn't be able to get back here. I would prefer he didn't tbh but I have been told again I am ruining Christmas so will probably have to suck it up.

I really hoping you aren't going to fetch him. He can face the consequences for his own actions. And your parents need to realise they can't keep expecting you to pick up after him. He can deal with his own shit. FFS he's 26!

They are at fault too. They clearly favour him and use manipulation to get you to fall into line (from your dad saying you are despicable and your mum crying that you've ruined things).

If he can get a lift there he should pay for a taxi back. So bloody annoying of him.

Not a chance would somebody call me despicable in my own home and get to stay for a minute longer! You deserve so much better than this

SMS please do not go, in fact I'll actually put money on the fact it'll end up, 'oh DB doesn't actually need to go back to his flat, he can stay here with us, you can just nip in and collect his stuff'

Yadnbu but you will have to do it ! I am so sorry my dear, If this does one thing it will teach you to be cleverer/craftier than them next time, hugs and have a great xmas despite the huge unfairness of it all

Love to know how your parents have come to the conclusion that you are the despicable one who is ruining christmas.

Very odd logic on their part.