WIBU to say 'no devices' to my adult family on Xmas day?

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My parents, sister and young niece are coming to stay for a few days over Christmas.

What I would like to do is collect all phones when they arrive (including mine and DH's) and then let them have them at designated 'phone times' for says 10 minutes to check messages before putting them away again. But even I can see that may be a tad controlling given that they are aged 40-70

How can I discourage it? Dsis is absolutely glued to her phone at all times and DH and DF aren't much better and I find it incredibly annoying. How do I get them to put their phones/tablets down and get the fuck off facebook/twitter/bbc sport? I think they'd all enjoy themselves more if they were a bit more 'in the moment'

I think my sister already find me somewhat bossy and sanctimonious... is there any way I can do it without my whole family thinking I'm a dick? We already have 'no devices at the table'.

Could i ask them to put their phones away for certain periods? Or ask them to keep their phones in a basket in the kitchen so they can go and check them whenever they want but dont just stare mindlessly at them out of habit?

Am I being a dick? Anyway I can achieve this without pissing everyone off?

We expect our DC not to use phones at the table but it's ok for adults to be ignorant and constantly check their phones. Really?
If you want your kids to to learn how to self regulate phone time and social media time then set a good example.
Yes really.

Argh phones tablets etc drive me nuts and it's incredibly rude at the table. I don't have an issue with people checking phone, taking pics odd 5 mins on FB etc but it tends to be for such a long time real people are excluded! I went to a dinner party a couple of weeks ago and two sets of couples were glued to their phones. Ended up trying to have a conversation while they looked at a screen. It's incredibly said but unfortunately given the age group I do think you would come across as a bit of a whatsit ...perhaps you could just say something lighthearted at the beginning and say " I wonder how long we can all stay offline?!" Yup turn wi di off

Yes you are you sound like a control freak tbf. These people are grown adults lmao they may want or need there 'devices'
You would be better of suggesting turning them off for a few hours and see how tht pans out.

If my sister said this to me id tell her to do one collecting all the devices up like they are naughty children at school. Who are you the head

I wouldn't expect to have to tell adults to turn their phones off. I leave mine in my bag when I get to someones house. I sometimes check it if I have left the dcs but I wouldn't dream of going on fb or mumsnet! It literally wouldn't occur to me.

Do tell us what happened on the big day, OP. Did the dinner table resemble the Carphone Warehouse, or were phones duly collected at the door?