'Plans have changed for Christmas, we're coming to yours'

[AmberStClare]

Found this text on my phone this morning when I woke up. I rang her up to be told her DP has walked out on her and her 2 DC so she wants to come to me for Christmas through to New Year.

Told her that my DP and I are going away, cottage share in the West Country with another couple. Planning lots of drinking, walks and adult conversation. This has been booked for months and I thought she was aware of it. She says to me 'no problem, we will stay at yours and housesit'. Explained that is not an option as some friends from abroad are housesitting for us (looking after the cats). She said we should tell them to go elsewhere as family comes first and was quite affronted when I said no.

Her other suggestion is they should come to the cottage with us and everyone can 'budge up' and make room for them. (Terms of rental are strictly four people staying.)

WWYD, I am being made to feel a complete bitch who I am told has always hated her and the kids so am being difficult.

I didn't phrase my post well. I was wondering if there is more going on and if some intervention / support might be needed for the family. Sorry. That came across badly.

lapetit I think op was checking to see if her sister was hurt, mabey because its usually though the man perpurtrates domestic violence, not the woman. So that might have been her initial reaction. Would you have been so lenient, if he had hit her! I don't think so, you might have advised that she leave him! Why is DV against males seem more acceptable!

Absolutely isn't. But the op doesn't know everything and they are off and on. There wouldnt be a battered woman defence ( that's a sexist name I know but it is what wiki calls it ) if it never happened. Everyone is judging without the facts. I'll get my post taken down. I don't condone violence from anyone .

I've asked for it to be removed. Hope you find an amicable solution for your family op and have a nice Christmas.

My DP told me this morning that we are leaving today and staying enroute at a posh hotel tonight. Part of his present to me and a complete surprise. Currently packing hastily.

Have suggested to DSis who rang weeping last night that she might like to consider helping at one of the homeless charities over Christmas and New Year. Means she will not be on her own and can do something helpful for others (for once).

Happy Christmas everyone,

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Good on you Amber, have a fantastic christmas .

What a lovely surprise! Enjoy the poshness and have a wonderful time!

Don't tell DSis where you are!!

Have a wonderful time!

You lucky thing! Have a wonderful time!

Do you think your sister is likely to ...

a)turn up at your holiday place-does she know where it is?
b)try to get into your house?

What will you do if she does turn up? How will the friends feel?

Have a great time Amber

I hope you haven't told her where you are going. Getting away sounds sensible. I'd ignore any calls and texts from her and blame lack of reception / forgot to take phone charger etc. Sounds like it's all self pity not remorse.